It's true, live together relations are not approved in our society and it's a part of foreign culture. Indian culture believes in marriages and its life long existence. Also, the feeling of security it gives. Yet, new generation is more trending towards this status of living.
I have to agree ...such couples love each other sincerely. Yet, they are not ready to involve in the serious responsibilities of family life. They just want to understand each other better and find if, he/she is his best life partner or not. Also, they have some hidden intentions of break up if things won't work according to their expectations, which is not at all possible in a married life as divorce itself is a complicated procedure. If not, why are they fearing marriages????????
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Now a days , the thinking of youngster is changing. They want to live their life with out any constrain .From their point of view it is ok. Getting married , after if the marriage won't work properly then they have two choice one is adjusting other is divorce. Instead of all this ,once they understand properly each other and ready to accept their responsibility their life will be good.They don't want to sacrifice their life for the sake of culture.
Now a days , the thinking of youngster is changing. They want to live their life with out any constrain .From their point of view it is ok. Getting married , after if the marriage won't work properly then they have two choice one is adjusting other is divorce. Instead of all this ,once they understand properly each other and ready to accept their responsibility their life will be good.They don't want to sacrifice their life for the sake of culture.
For that purpose only, should they start living together to find their compatibility ????
For understanding each other better, it's not at all necessary that they should stay together. Even spending a few time together is necessary. If they have not understood each other till now, how can they claim they are in love? :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
If they wont follow any ritual of any religion then the people are who are getting married may change their mind in future and leave the other person. So if ritual is performed then they will remember that they have promised to their partner that they will be respecting and will be with that person till the end. and most of the families are still in this relationship due to the power of this ritual only.
Actually ritual of marriage is performed for getting blessings from God.
I hope you got the answer now
Actually ritual of marriage is performed for getting blessings from God.
I hope you got the answer now
If they wont follow any ritual of any religion then the people are who are getting married may change their mind in future and leave the other person. So if ritual is performed then they will remember that they have promised to their partner that they will be respecting and will be with that person till the end. and most of the families are still in this relationship due to the power of this ritual only.
Actually ritual of marriage is performed for getting blessings from God.
I hope you got the answer now
Yes...am also saying the same thing.
Those people who don't believe in any religion or customs can follow this. But those who think, we should marry some day in future........I can't find any logic for it :evil: :evil: :S
I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. I just want to clear one point. Animals don't get married they live together and spend whole life in a jungle where all other beings are just animals. We are human beings. Our fore father has made some rules and norms to keep us aloof from jungle beings. Otherwise we should migrate from city to jungle.
My parents will never allow me in to involve in live - in - relationships. Even i too don't like to involved, as i don't think is an ideal way of living.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.
Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.
Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.
When we are performing the marriage rituals, we are promising something. As all of us know, promises are to be kept. That's the only purpose of conducting the ceremony. Also to get the approval and blessings of all elders as we believe, we respect our family and elders, which is a part of Indian culture.
My parents will never allow me in to involve in live - in - relationships. Even i too don't like to involved, as i don't think is an ideal way of living.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.
Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.
Also, before breaking a marriage, couples will think 1000 times, as it belongs to two families also while break up in a live together relationship can occur, even if 1 of them is willing to do so
When we are performing the marriage rituals, we are promising something. As all of us know, promises are to be kept. That's the only purpose of conducting the ceremony. Also to get the approval and blessings of all elders as we believe, we respect our family and elders, which is a part of Indian culture.
Sandhyaji don't mind but marriage is even more than that. It is not limited to promises and respect of the two families. If possible kindly go through the legends and sacred books. The Indian culture is above all other cultures existing in the world. If possible read the philosophies of Swami Vivekananda.
My parents will never allow me in to involve in live - in - relationships. Even i too don't like to involved, as i don't think is an ideal way of living.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.
Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.
Also, before breaking a marriage, couples will think 1000 times, as it belongs to two families also while break up in a live together relationship can occur, even if 1 of them is willing to do so
The new Generation are not understanding what Marriage is all about. But Parents, who are together from so many years, need to taught their children, that the real thing is in Marriage, not in live-in- relationship.
Sandhyaji, you know better than me , that what is the strength of Marriage, as you are married Women.
I agree with @gulshan as the kids may suffer in future if the parents relationship is not legalized.. however Indian society still doesn't accept such relationship..
In some religions such type of relationship is considered as offense and severe punishments are given that may include death...
There is no social approval for such relation as everyone belongs to some religious community which has own rituals. But there should be legal recognition of live in relation. Such relation differs from regular marriage only in matter of wedding ceremony which is just a few hours event whereas the relation is continuous. There may be an amendment in special marriage act for recognizing live in relation as regular marriage if this relation lasts for three years or there is a child born out of such relation.
Instead of this, law should be made strict enough to avoid divorce of the two couples. Moreover, if people starts following western culture, crime rate will be more in India. Girls will be killed, raped and kidnapped on regular basis and nobody will sue case in court. Prostitution will increase in society. It will become legal profession in our country which is already there in western countries.
My parents will never allow me in to involve in live - in - relationships. Even i too don't like to involved, as i don't think is an ideal way of living.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.
Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.
Also, before breaking a marriage, couples will think 1000 times, as it belongs to two families also while break up in a live together relationship can occur, even if 1 of them is willing to do so
The new Generation are not understanding what Marriage is all about. But Parents, who are together from so many years, need to taught their children, that the real thing is in Marriage, not in live-in- relationship.
Sandhyaji, you know better than me , that what is the strength of Marriage, as you are married Women.
Yes Ronark, that's why I am repeatedly emphasizing the importance of marriage in modern times too....
If things go like this, after 10-20 years, when my kid is grown, she will see such situations only.
Even if we see some wrong thing repeatedly, we gradually accept it, though we may not do earlier.
People may laugh at me, if I say, if a boy and girl are in true love, they should never even touch each other till they got married. Till now, am an old person in some matters. But it's not a problem for me, among friends. I want to teach my daughter also, such lessons. :) :)
I agree with @gulshan as the kids may suffer in future if the parents relationship is not legalized.. however Indian society still doesn't accept such relationship..
In some religions such type of relationship is considered as offense and severe punishments are given that may include death...
There is no social approval for such relation as everyone belongs to some religious community which has own rituals. But there should be legal recognition of live in relation. Such relation differs from regular marriage only in matter of wedding ceremony which is just a few hours event whereas the relation is continuous. There may be an amendment in special marriage act for recognizing live in relation as regular marriage if this relation lasts for three years or there is a child born out of such relation.
Instead of this, law should be made strict enough to avoid divorce of the two couples. Moreover, if people starts following western culture, crime rate will be more in India. Girls will be killed, raped and kidnapped on regular basis and nobody will sue case in court. Prostitution will increase in society. It will become legal profession in our country which is already there in western countries.
Devyani, If divorce system is made strict and if the girl or boy is really facing trouble because of hies/her partner, then it would be very difficult.
I think still, the Court see the matter between the couple, who comes to the court for divorce, and tries that they don't get seperated. If they think that they can't live together, then they give them divorce.
I agree with @gulshan as the kids may suffer in future if the parents relationship is not legalized.. however Indian society still doesn't accept such relationship..
In some religions such type of relationship is considered as offense and severe punishments are given that may include death...
There is no social approval for such relation as everyone belongs to some religious community which has own rituals. But there should be legal recognition of live in relation. Such relation differs from regular marriage only in matter of wedding ceremony which is just a few hours event whereas the relation is continuous. There may be an amendment in special marriage act for recognizing live in relation as regular marriage if this relation lasts for three years or there is a child born out of such relation.
Instead of this, law should be made strict enough to avoid divorce of the two couples. Moreover, if people starts following western culture, crime rate will be more in India. Girls will be killed, raped and kidnapped on regular basis and nobody will sue case in court. Prostitution will increase in society. It will become legal profession in our country which is already there in western countries.
Devyani, If divorce system is made strict and if the girl or boy is really facing trouble because of hies/her partner, then it would be very difficult.
I think still, the Court see the matter between the couple, who comes to the court for divorce, and tries that they don't get seperated. If they think that they can't live together, then they give them divorce.
Actually it took years and a lot of difficulties to legally separate. Many counsellings are done. Also, I think, they should live separately at least for an year to file for divorce.
I have asked some doubts....
But no one has given me an answer, who supports such relationships.
Sandhya no one will support such realation ships. Will you agree such realations.
But some people do approve it. Just go through the discussion posts.
So, I have asked some questions to those people. Let them answer it :P :P :cheer: :cheer:
No one will surely approve such relation ships ,if such relation ships exist then they will be maintained secretly. As in i heart an actor and actress in of the film industry has such relation ship.
One Advani had live in relation with Rajesh Khanna. Now she is totally discarded and the lawfully wedded wife Dimple is so close even though she was away from Rajesh Khanna. This explains enough the hazards of live in relation. The main hazard is that live in relation is not socially recognized.
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