It's true, live together relations are not approved in our society and it's a part of foreign culture. Indian culture believes in marriages and its life long existence. Also, the feeling of security it gives. Yet, new generation is more trending towards this status of living.
I have to agree ...such couples love each other sincerely. Yet, they are not ready to involve in the serious responsibilities of family life. They just want to understand each other better and find if, he/she is his best life partner or not. Also, they have some hidden intentions of break up if things won't work according to their expectations, which is not at all possible in a married life as divorce itself is a complicated procedure. If not, why are they fearing marriages????????
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I approve living together relation. When this relation continues for more than three years or a child is born out of this relation, the couple should be legally considered as married with all consequential affects.
True, this should definitely be considered by the couple,!
Most of the couple who go in for a live in relationship do it after having thought about it,since they too have their families , relatives and friends ...
As far as I am concerned it is their own business and they have to take responsibility for what they do with their lives and others have no say in the matter except probably pass judgment behind their back ! And Indians have always had polygamy where men had several wives as well as keeps and it was done openly so why the sudden holier than thou attitude now when things are fair and equal ! ..In fact even Supreme court has said that live in relationships have a legal status !
http://www.milligazette.com/news/237-live-in-relationships-and-the-supreme-court
I approve living together relation. When this relation continues for more than three years or a child is born out of this relation, the couple should be legally considered as married with all consequential affects.
True, this should definitely be considered by the couple,!
Most of the couple who go in for a live in relationship do it after having thought about it,since they too have their families , relatives and friends ...
As far as I am concerned it is their own business and they have to take responsibility for what they do with their lives and others have no say in the matter except probably pass judgment behind their back ! And Indians have always had polygamy where men had several wives as well as keeps and it was done openly so why the sudden holier than thou attitude now when things are fair and equal ! ..In fact even Supreme court has said that live in relationships have a legal status !
http://www.milligazette.com/news/237-live-in-relationships-and-the-supreme-court
You said so but i said that in many cases couple get separated after a certain period of time.In many cases they not think of living together and start to live....
[quote]gulshan kumar ajmani wrote:
I approve living together relation. When this relation continues for more than three years or a child is born out of this relation, the couple should be legally considered as married with all consequential affects.[/quote]
I did not know this before.If such then it is very good.
I approve living together relation. When this relation continues for more than three years or a child is born out of this relation, the couple should be legally considered as married with all consequential affects.[/quote]
I did not know this before.If such then it is very good.
Sandhya, we cannot call it the wrong way just because we think it is wrong. Think from their point of view, it is how they see the world. Also, we have already seen that the more you condemn a practice, the more attractive it becomes. The more a thing is prohibited, the more its want increases.
Right and wrong lie in the eyes of the viewer.
From their point of view, it may be right.
Even for the most wrong things in this world, we can find reasons. i.e.justifications. It doesn't mean it's right. :evil: :evil:
Am asking just one question.....if they have chosen each other as life partners, why are they hesitating to make it for ever by tying the knot??? Why so? What's the reason behind it??? :huh: :huh:
Similarly, I am asking you why the formality of a few rituals??? Even now, those who tie the knot traditionally don't care about the rituals and their meaning, they do it just for the sake of doing it!! So why such pretense?
:whistle: :whistle: :whistle:
can't find a suitable answer till now :( :(
Exactly!! See, we don't even know why we are opposed to such relationships! All we have is that a few rituals make the relationship between a man and a woman a legal and sacred marriage, and they are expected to be faithful to each other. But does a marriage guarantee this premise??? Also, a couple living together without formal marriage is considered as promiscuous even though they are completely faithful with each other, so why the double standards?
Actually, many people can misuse this option. There lies the real problem. It can also lead to problems like AIDS, if it forms just a hobby to a group of people.
A group of people are there, who don't believe in marriages. They think, just saath-phera is not enough to say a relationship is strong, it's the union of mind...actually, no need of marriages. But if they can assure, they will keep all promises of a married couple, then it's Ok. But I think, people who think so is only rare and majority of people do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy. Am I not right????
I approve living together relation. When this relation continues for more than three years or a child is born out of this relation, the couple should be legally considered as married with all consequential affects.
True, this should definitely be considered by the couple,!
Most of the couple who go in for a live in relationship do it after having thought about it,since they too have their families , relatives and friends ...
As far as I am concerned it is their own business and they have to take responsibility for what they do with their lives and others have no say in the matter except probably pass judgment behind their back ! And Indians have always had polygamy where men had several wives as well as keeps and it was done openly so why the sudden holier than thou attitude now when things are fair and equal ! ..In fact even Supreme court has said that live in relationships have a legal status !
http://www.milligazette.com/news/237-live-in-relationships-and-the-supreme-court
Exactly! That's what I was talking about, when we could easily accept these things from our forefathers and so many other men in our communities, why suddenly try to play so coy about these relationships!
Sandhya, we cannot call it the wrong way just because we think it is wrong. Think from their point of view, it is how they see the world. Also, we have already seen that the more you condemn a practice, the more attractive it becomes. The more a thing is prohibited, the more its want increases.
Right and wrong lie in the eyes of the viewer.
From their point of view, it may be right.
Even for the most wrong things in this world, we can find reasons. i.e.justifications. It doesn't mean it's right. :evil: :evil:
Am asking just one question.....if they have chosen each other as life partners, why are they hesitating to make it for ever by tying the knot??? Why so? What's the reason behind it??? :huh: :huh:
Similarly, I am asking you why the formality of a few rituals??? Even now, those who tie the knot traditionally don't care about the rituals and their meaning, they do it just for the sake of doing it!! So why such pretense?
:whistle: :whistle: :whistle:
can't find a suitable answer till now :( :(
Exactly!! See, we don't even know why we are opposed to such relationships! All we have is that a few rituals make the relationship between a man and a woman a legal and sacred marriage, and they are expected to be faithful to each other. But does a marriage guarantee this premise??? Also, a couple living together without formal marriage is considered as promiscuous even though they are completely faithful with each other, so why the double standards?
Actually, many people can misuse this option. There lies the real problem. It can also lead to problems like AIDS, if it forms just a hobby to a group of people.
A group of people are there, who don't believe in marriages. They think, just saath-phera is not enough to say a relationship is strong, it's the union of mind...actually, no need of marriages. But if they can assure, they will keep all promises of a married couple, then it's Ok. But I think, people who think so is only rare and majority of people do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy. Am I not right????
Sandhya, occurrence of AIDS cannot be blamed entirely on live-in relationships. Do you know that the major cause of AIDS is because of men visiting red light areas and then they pass it on to their legally married wives??? Did you know this fact?
Also, people do not live together as a hobby. they do it out of love for each other.
Sandhya, we cannot call it the wrong way just because we think it is wrong. Think from their point of view, it is how they see the world. Also, we have already seen that the more you condemn a practice, the more attractive it becomes. The more a thing is prohibited, the more its want increases.
Right and wrong lie in the eyes of the viewer.
From their point of view, it may be right.
Even for the most wrong things in this world, we can find reasons. i.e.justifications. It doesn't mean it's right. :evil: :evil:
Am asking just one question.....if they have chosen each other as life partners, why are they hesitating to make it for ever by tying the knot??? Why so? What's the reason behind it??? :huh: :huh:
Similarly, I am asking you why the formality of a few rituals??? Even now, those who tie the knot traditionally don't care about the rituals and their meaning, they do it just for the sake of doing it!! So why such pretense?
:whistle: :whistle: :whistle:
can't find a suitable answer till now :( :(
Exactly!! See, we don't even know why we are opposed to such relationships! All we have is that a few rituals make the relationship between a man and a woman a legal and sacred marriage, and they are expected to be faithful to each other. But does a marriage guarantee this premise??? Also, a couple living together without formal marriage is considered as promiscuous even though they are completely faithful with each other, so why the double standards?
Actually, many people can misuse this option. There lies the real problem. It can also lead to problems like AIDS, if it forms just a hobby to a group of people.
A group of people are there, who don't believe in marriages. They think, just saath-phera is not enough to say a relationship is strong, it's the union of mind...actually, no need of marriages. But if they can assure, they will keep all promises of a married couple, then it's Ok. But I think, people who think so is only rare and majority of people do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy. Am I not right????
Sandhya, occurrence of AIDS cannot be blamed entirely on live-in relationships. Do you know that the major cause of AIDS is because of men visiting red light areas and then they pass it on to their legally married wives??? Did you know this fact?
Also, people do not live together as a hobby. they do it out of love for each other.
There is no question of misusing since they enter such a relationship with their eyes open and also after a lot of consideration ....and as far as Aids is concerned it is , you may be surprised that according to statistics , the vast majority is found among the older men in the age group of 45 - 55 who are carrying the aids syndrome and almost all of them are married !
Rare or majority , live in relationships are now a part of the Indian society like it was always there , and now even the supreme court has given it a legal status...
oh yes,kalyani
Things like live-in relationship seems so easy as the couple can live together for sometime and break off when they dont feel like "it" but no one knows the consequence like leading to AIDS
It is like a child eating artificial sweetner everyday and then have a breakdown of some internal organ...
wah wah kya society hai...everyone is blind and leading others to blindness too..
Things like live-in relationship seems so easy as the couple can live together for sometime and break off when they dont feel like "it" but no one knows the consequence like leading to AIDS
It is like a child eating artificial sweetner everyday and then have a breakdown of some internal organ...
wah wah kya society hai...everyone is blind and leading others to blindness too..
Sandhya, we cannot call it the wrong way just because we think it is wrong. Think from their point of view, it is how they see the world. Also, we have already seen that the more you condemn a practice, the more attractive it becomes. The more a thing is prohibited, the more its want increases.
Right and wrong lie in the eyes of the viewer.
From their point of view, it may be right.
Even for the most wrong things in this world, we can find reasons. i.e.justifications. It doesn't mean it's right. :evil: :evil:
Am asking just one question.....if they have chosen each other as life partners, why are they hesitating to make it for ever by tying the knot??? Why so? What's the reason behind it??? :huh: :huh:
Similarly, I am asking you why the formality of a few rituals??? Even now, those who tie the knot traditionally don't care about the rituals and their meaning, they do it just for the sake of doing it!! So why such pretense?
:whistle: :whistle: :whistle:
can't find a suitable answer till now :( :(
Exactly!! See, we don't even know why we are opposed to such relationships! All we have is that a few rituals make the relationship between a man and a woman a legal and sacred marriage, and they are expected to be faithful to each other. But does a marriage guarantee this premise??? Also, a couple living together without formal marriage is considered as promiscuous even though they are completely faithful with each other, so why the double standards?
Actually, many people can misuse this option. There lies the real problem. It can also lead to problems like AIDS, if it forms just a hobby to a group of people.
A group of people are there, who don't believe in marriages. They think, just saath-phera is not enough to say a relationship is strong, it's the union of mind...actually, no need of marriages. But if they can assure, they will keep all promises of a married couple, then it's Ok. But I think, people who think so is only rare and majority of people do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy. Am I not right????
Sandhya, occurrence of AIDS cannot be blamed entirely on live-in relationships. Do you know that the major cause of AIDS is because of men visiting red light areas and then they pass it on to their legally married wives??? Did you know this fact?
Also, people do not live together as a hobby. they do it out of love for each other.
There is no question of misusing since they enter such a relationship with their eyes open and also after a lot of consideration ....and as far as Aids is concerned it is , you may be surprised that according to statistics , the vast majority is found among the older men in the age group of 45 - 55 who are carrying the aids syndrome and almost all of them are married !
Rare or majority , live in relationships are now a part of the Indian society like it was always there , and now even the supreme court has given it a legal status...
Yes, that's true! Looking at these statistics, it seems that the older married men are more rash in their behavior where AIDS is concerned. And these couples are a part of our society, now that the court has given them legal status, who are we to condemn them?
There is a well known person who married and had a son and divorced his wife. While he was in relationship with a lady,he had an affair and a daughter was born.He was in another relationship with a lady and also a daughter was born. he then stopped his relation with the first lady and married the third lady after 9 years of his second daughter's birth
That person is Pandit Ravi Shankar, the first daughter born is Norah Jones and the other daughter born is Anuksha Shankar
That person is Pandit Ravi Shankar, the first daughter born is Norah Jones and the other daughter born is Anuksha Shankar
I agree with @gulshan as the kids may suffer in future if the parents relationship is not legalized.. however Indian society still doesn't accept such relationship..
In some religions such type of relationship is considered as offense and severe punishments are given that may include death...
There is no social approval for such relation as everyone belongs to some religious community which has own rituals. But there should be legal recognition of live in relation. Such relation differs from regular marriage only in matter of wedding ceremony which is just a few hours event whereas the relation is continuous. There may be an amendment in special marriage act for recognizing live in relation as regular marriage if this relation lasts for three years or there is a child born out of such relation.
[quote]gulshan kumar ajmani wrote:
I approve living together relation. When this relation continues for more than three years or a child is born out of this relation, the couple should be legally considered as married with all consequential affects.
I did not know this before.If such then it is very good.[/quote]
This is simply a suggestion and not legal provision.
Actually, many people can misuse this option. There lies the real problem. It can also lead to problems like AIDS, if it forms just a hobby to a group of people.
A group of people are there, who don't believe in marriages. They think, just saath-phera is not enough to say a relationship is strong, it's the union of mind...actually, no need of marriages. But if they can assure, they will keep all promises of a married couple, then it's Ok. But I think, people who think so is only rare and majority of people do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy. Am I not right????
Sandhya, occurrence of AIDS cannot be blamed entirely on live-in relationships. Do you know that the major cause of AIDS is because of men visiting red light areas and then they pass it on to their legally married wives??? Did you know this fact?
Also, people do not live together as a hobby. they do it out of love for each other.[/quote]
No...no.....AIDS does not belong to live-together relationships only. Am saying, its one among the causes.
Yes, I know, majority is through such 'visits' and it's applicable to both married and unmarried persons.
I stated, "Even if many youngsters believe in live-together relationships, majority of them do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy." If asked, they will say, we will get married at appropriate time.
Am I right or not????
If they believe in marriages, why can't they live together after registering it, no need for performing any rituals of any religion.......if they don't believe so......
Am I right or not????
If they believe in marriages, why can't they live together after registering it, no need for performing any rituals of any religion.......if they don't believe so......
Live together relationship is also in India but that lies hidden. Many people prefer western culture. Being an Indian, I have traditional and orthodoxy thinking about marriage. I strongly dislike live-in practices. I have different meaning of these words which is not at all suitable to write openly in public.
Friends I want to point out one thing - Live-in relationship has nothing to do with break up in marriage. These two are totally different.
If someone break-up marriage, he will definately break-up live-in relationship, if he has choosen for the later/former. You cannot judge your relationship with someone just like that.
Love has nothing to do with body. It is emotional feelings. Friendship is very important to keep the patch up. If someone has tendency to break, he will always break. People should be serious in love relations. It seems as if they are having fun.
Marriage means to have children and family members. Live-in is western culture still it does not say that you can't have children and family. Live-in means to live together without getting married. Simultaneously, you can also have family, responsibility and children.
If someone break-up marriage, he will definately break-up live-in relationship, if he has choosen for the later/former. You cannot judge your relationship with someone just like that.
Love has nothing to do with body. It is emotional feelings. Friendship is very important to keep the patch up. If someone has tendency to break, he will always break. People should be serious in love relations. It seems as if they are having fun.
Marriage means to have children and family members. Live-in is western culture still it does not say that you can't have children and family. Live-in means to live together without getting married. Simultaneously, you can also have family, responsibility and children.
I am not approve living together relationships. I hate these type of culture.
very dangerous culture. :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
Yes, we should give respect to our culture ...also our family's interests too...
We can't hurt our dear ones with our behaviours '''let it be right or wrong...yet, we can't hurt them. Isn't it????
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