How many of you approve living together relationships????

There is a well known person who married and had a son and divorced his wife. While he was in relationship with a lady,he had an affair and a daughter was born.He was in another relationship with a lady and also a daughter was born. he then stopped his relation with the first lady and married the third lady after 9 years of his second daughter's birth

That person is Pandit Ravi Shankar, the first daughter born is Norah Jones and the other daughter born is Anuksha Shankar

I agree with @gulshan as the kids may suffer in future if the parents relationship is not legalized.. however Indian society still doesn't accept such relationship..

In some religions such type of relationship is considered as offense and severe punishments are given that may include death...

There is no social approval for such relation as everyone belongs to some religious community which has own rituals. But there should be legal recognition of live in relation. Such relation differs from regular marriage only in matter of wedding ceremony which is just a few hours event whereas the relation is continuous. There may be an amendment in special marriage act for recognizing live in relation as regular marriage if this relation lasts for three years or there is a child born out of such relation.

[quote]gulshan kumar ajmani wrote:
I approve living together relation. When this relation continues for more than three years or a child is born out of this relation, the couple should be legally considered as married with all consequential affects.

I did not know this before.If such then it is very good.[/quote]

This is simply a suggestion and not legal provision.

Actually, many people can misuse this option. There lies the real problem. It can also lead to problems like AIDS, if it forms just a hobby to a group of people.

A group of people are there, who don't believe in marriages. They think, just saath-phera is not enough to say a relationship is strong, it's the union of mind...actually, no need of marriages. But if they can assure, they will keep all promises of a married couple, then it's Ok. But I think, people who think so is only rare and majority of people do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy. Am I not right????

Sandhya, occurrence of AIDS cannot be blamed entirely on live-in relationships. Do you know that the major cause of AIDS is because of men visiting red light areas and then they pass it on to their legally married wives??? Did you know this fact?

Also, people do not live together as a hobby. they do it out of love for each other.[/quote]

No...no.....AIDS does not belong to live-together relationships only. Am saying, its one among the causes.
Yes, I know, majority is through such 'visits' and it's applicable to both married and unmarried persons.

I stated, "Even if many youngsters believe in live-together relationships, majority of them do believe in marriages even if they are following this modern strategy." If asked, they will say, we will get married at appropriate time.
Am I right or not????

If they believe in marriages, why can't they live together after registering it, no need for performing any rituals of any religion.......if they don't believe so......

Live together relationship is also in India but that lies hidden. Many people prefer western culture. Being an Indian, I have traditional and orthodoxy thinking about marriage. I strongly dislike live-in practices. I have different meaning of these words which is not at all suitable to write openly in public.

Friends I want to point out one thing - Live-in relationship has nothing to do with break up in marriage. These two are totally different.
If someone break-up marriage, he will definately break-up live-in relationship, if he has choosen for the later/former. You cannot judge your relationship with someone just like that.
Love has nothing to do with body. It is emotional feelings. Friendship is very important to keep the patch up. If someone has tendency to break, he will always break. People should be serious in love relations. It seems as if they are having fun.
Marriage means to have children and family members. Live-in is western culture still it does not say that you can't have children and family. Live-in means to live together without getting married. Simultaneously, you can also have family, responsibility and children.

still now, no one has given me suitable reasons to prove it's right.
Yet, i was to add one more thing.
It's just a personal matter and we should never intervene in them, if those persons are not a part of our family or dear ones

I am not approve living together relationships. I hate these type of culture.

very dangerous culture. :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:

I am not approve living together relationships. I hate these type of culture.

very dangerous culture. :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:

Yes, we should give respect to our culture ...also our family's interests too...
We can't hurt our dear ones with our behaviours '''let it be right or wrong...yet, we can't hurt them. Isn't it????

Now a days , the thinking of youngster is changing. They want to live their life with out any constrain .From their point of view it is ok. Getting married , after if the marriage won't work properly then they have two choice one is adjusting other is divorce. Instead of all this ,once they understand properly each other and ready to accept their responsibility their life will be good.They don't want to sacrifice their life for the sake of culture.

Now a days , the thinking of youngster is changing. They want to live their life with out any constrain .From their point of view it is ok. Getting married , after if the marriage won't work properly then they have two choice one is adjusting other is divorce. Instead of all this ,once they understand properly each other and ready to accept their responsibility their life will be good.They don't want to sacrifice their life for the sake of culture.

For that purpose only, should they start living together to find their compatibility ????

For understanding each other better, it's not at all necessary that they should stay together. Even spending a few time together is necessary. If they have not understood each other till now, how can they claim they are in love? :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:

If they wont follow any ritual of any religion then the people are who are getting married may change their mind in future and leave the other person. So if ritual is performed then they will remember that they have promised to their partner that they will be respecting and will be with that person till the end. and most of the families are still in this relationship due to the power of this ritual only.

Actually ritual of marriage is performed for getting blessings from God.

I hope you got the answer now

If they wont follow any ritual of any religion then the people are who are getting married may change their mind in future and leave the other person. So if ritual is performed then they will remember that they have promised to their partner that they will be respecting and will be with that person till the end. and most of the families are still in this relationship due to the power of this ritual only.

Actually ritual of marriage is performed for getting blessings from God.

I hope you got the answer now

Yes...am also saying the same thing.
Those people who don't believe in any religion or customs can follow this. But those who think, we should marry some day in future........I can't find any logic for it :evil: :evil: :S

I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. I just want to clear one point. Animals don't get married they live together and spend whole life in a jungle where all other beings are just animals. We are human beings. Our fore father has made some rules and norms to keep us aloof from jungle beings. Otherwise we should migrate from city to jungle.

My parents will never allow me in to involve in live - in - relationships. Even i too don't like to involved, as i don't think is an ideal way of living.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.

Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.

When we are performing the marriage rituals, we are promising something. As all of us know, promises are to be kept. That's the only purpose of conducting the ceremony. Also to get the approval and blessings of all elders as we believe, we respect our family and elders, which is a part of Indian culture.

My parents will never allow me in to involve in live - in - relationships. Even i too don't like to involved, as i don't think is an ideal way of living.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.

Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.

Also, before breaking a marriage, couples will think 1000 times, as it belongs to two families also while break up in a live together relationship can occur, even if 1 of them is willing to do so

When we are performing the marriage rituals, we are promising something. As all of us know, promises are to be kept. That's the only purpose of conducting the ceremony. Also to get the approval and blessings of all elders as we believe, we respect our family and elders, which is a part of Indian culture.

Sandhyaji don't mind but marriage is even more than that. It is not limited to promises and respect of the two families. If possible kindly go through the legends and sacred books. The Indian culture is above all other cultures existing in the world. If possible read the philosophies of Swami Vivekananda.

My parents will never allow me in to involve in live - in - relationships. Even i too don't like to involved, as i don't think is an ideal way of living.
After Marriage, you can get support and respect. But when you are not married, then the other person, won't have that much respect, as there is nothing in between them, except so called ' Friendship'.

Yes, new generation doesn't want to get married, but the parents who have seen a good generation of marriage, they know how important marriage is, should make their understand, what marriage is all about.

Also, before breaking a marriage, couples will think 1000 times, as it belongs to two families also while break up in a live together relationship can occur, even if 1 of them is willing to do so

The new Generation are not understanding what Marriage is all about. But Parents, who are together from so many years, need to taught their children, that the real thing is in Marriage, not in live-in- relationship.

Sandhyaji, you know better than me , that what is the strength of Marriage, as you are married Women.