But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

A genuine compliment given with an open heart does wonders to a persons ego especially when the person is need of it, like for example , a student who is otherwise performing badly, does even a little better ,needs to be encouraged...

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

He is too smart to consider flattery as a motivation to keep him here!!

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

He is too smart to consider flattery as a motivation to keep him here!!

Yet we can try ;)

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

A genuine compliment given with an open heart does wonders to a persons ego especially when the person is need of it, like for example , a student who is otherwise performing badly, does even a little better ,needs to be encouraged...

Usha, you have put it perfectly well, but for a student who needs encouragement, I think we can call that motivation instead of flattery. And another thing that I feel is that a person who has quite high self-esteem, does not get swayed by any false flattery, because he knows his own deltas and positives and also accepts them well.