Visiting relatives and friends has become a rarity these days

In our families we mostly gather in any ones marriages only or any family picnic

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

Mobile is another reason. Now If we want to take any news we can call,then net is another .we can meet with another in net through webcam also.

Yes as the money grows in the people the relations became less. And one more reason is mobile which changed entire world and made a large gap between relations.

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

LOL...I can understand your reasons :laugh: BTW, hardwar must be a beautiful place right ?I would love to visit all those places up north some day, have heard so much about it from visitors..

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

LOL...I can understand your reasons :laugh: BTW, hardwar must be a beautiful place right ?I would love to visit all those places up north some day, have heard so much about it from visitors..

You are most welcome to north, please let me know in case you need a guide/helper. I am good at this without charging any fee. Jokes apart, the inner peace is the key of visit to Haridwar despite being too crowded, and the next few weeks see about 5 lacks people walking to and fro Haridwar every day for famous Kanwar yatra.

Yes these people don't visit there relatives and friends more often than they used to do in olden days. I remember i used to spend whole summer vacations at my village and my mother's village but now a days i don't wish to send my kids to anywhere and leave them alone anywhere may be this is transformation which has come in new generation. Moreover people have become too much busy in earning money as they were not used to in olden days as most of the people used to depend of farming so they used to have plenty of time unlike people of today. :blink:

Technology has changed us.Has made little Lazy.Now on internet, we talk to our relatives. The importance of meeting is not decreased. This is affecting our relationship with close ones.

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

LOL...I can understand your reasons :laugh: BTW, hardwar must be a beautiful place right ?I would love to visit all those places up north some day, have heard so much about it from visitors..

You are most welcome to north, please let me know in case you need a guide/helper. I am good at this without charging any fee. Jokes apart, the inner peace is the key of visit to Haridwar despite being too crowded, and the next few weeks see about 5 lacks people walking to and fro Haridwar every day for famous Kanwar yatra.

I will seriously take you up on that offer of a guide LOL..I want to see Gangotri too thats where ganga takes her birth right ? I have hardly visited the northern parts of India sunil, there is so much to see there..

Yes these people don't visit there relatives and friends more often than they used to do in olden days. I remember i used to spend whole summer vacations at my village and my mother's village but now a days i don't wish to send my kids to anywhere and leave them alone anywhere may be this is transformation which has come in new generation. Moreover people have become too much busy in earning money as they were not used to in olden days as most of the people used to depend of farming so they used to have plenty of time unlike people of today. :blink:

It was the same with us Sanjeev, we used to all get together in our ancestral village close to mangalore and what fun it was. Thankfully all this lasted while my children were growing up and had the experience of that life too.sadly time and peole change and today the ancestral properties are all tied up in litigations.. :(

Technology has changed us.Has made little Lazy.Now on internet, we talk to our relatives. The importance of meeting is not decreased. This is affecting our relationship with close ones.

Oh definitely it is. I remember we were not having the cable connections those day and used to see only one channel of doordarshan.No internet or mobiles at all even the land line phones were few so the only way to enjoy and to communicate with people was to see them at their place. :)

Yes these people don't visit there relatives and friends more often than they used to do in olden days. I remember i used to spend whole summer vacations at my village and my mother's village but now a days i don't wish to send my kids to anywhere and leave them alone anywhere may be this is transformation which has come in new generation. Moreover people have become too much busy in earning money as they were not used to in olden days as most of the people used to depend of farming so they used to have plenty of time unlike people of today. :blink:

It was the same with us Sanjeev, we used to all get together in our ancestral village close to mangalore and what fun it was. Thankfully all this lasted while my children were growing up and had the experience of that life too.sadly time and peole change and today the ancestral properties are all tied up in litigations.. :(

Actually the competition, cost of living and tough targets have changed every thing now. The way the population is going up is reducing space to breath. If the same goes on vertically may be the day is not far off people would not know beyond their immediate relatives.

Yes these people don't visit there relatives and friends more often than they used to do in olden days. I remember i used to spend whole summer vacations at my village and my mother's village but now a days i don't wish to send my kids to anywhere and leave them alone anywhere may be this is transformation which has come in new generation. Moreover people have become too much busy in earning money as they were not used to in olden days as most of the people used to depend of farming so they used to have plenty of time unlike people of today. :blink:

It was the same with us Sanjeev, we used to all get together in our ancestral village close to mangalore and what fun it was. Thankfully all this lasted while my children were growing up and had the experience of that life too.sadly time and peole change and today the ancestral properties are all tied up in litigations.. :(

Actually the competition, cost of living and tough targets have changed every thing now. The way the population is going up is reducing space to breath. If the same goes on vertically may be the day is not far off people would not know beyond their immediate relatives.

Priorities in life too has changed sunil, and that has made all of us more selfish and self centred I guess ! We used to have many family get together's earlier , the expenses being met by the income that the properties fetched and now all or at least most of it has stopped because all are wondering who is going to bear the expenses ..

It was the same with us Sanjeev, we used to all get together in our ancestral village close to mangalore and what fun it was. Thankfully all this lasted while my children were growing up and had the experience of that life too.sadly time and peole change and today the ancestral properties are all tied up in litigations.. :([/quote]

Actually the competition, cost of living and tough targets have changed every thing now. The way the population is going up is reducing space to breath. If the same goes on vertically may be the day is not far off people would not know beyond their immediate relatives.[/quote]

Priorities in life too has changed sunil, and that has made all of us more selfish and self centred I guess ! We used to have many family get together's earlier , the expenses being met by the income that the properties fetched and now all or at least most of it has stopped because all are wondering who is going to bear the expenses ..[/quote]

True up to great extent but otherwise also if you do not take take cost in to consideration, people have not thinking beyond a certain limit. The parameter of thinking is reducing drastically.

Just to quote an example when we were children the only transportation was taking a bus or sometimes two buses to visit relatives, but I remember we used to do it regularly.Now, there many buses,autos,private cars and an overload of traffic too, and we find it really difficult to visit out of the way places unless absolutely necessary..

Just to quote an example when we were children the only transportation was taking a bus or sometimes two buses to visit relatives, but I remember we used to do it regularly.Now, there many buses,autos,private cars and an overload of traffic too, and we find it really difficult to visit out of the way places unless absolutely necessary..

Our life style has become such that,we rarely have time for others.

Now we remain very busy in our child's education and so no time to go anywhere.

Responsibilities makes our life busy and we never get time to do anything,else our job.

Responsibilities makes our life busy and we never get time to do anything,else our job.

Its not that Ronak responsibilities are more like same which people used to have in olden times.But the thing is time has changed a bit. Now people don't like to visit but just like to sit and see film in theater for 3 hours conterminously. :evil: