Visiting relatives and friends has become a rarity these days

Exactly you are right usha. Even same with me too. In my child hood for every occassion and festivals and at summer vacassion and some times at usual days also we used to gather with friends and relatives now there is no such gatherings, just being home and enjoying through internet and televisions

Yes, I agree!!!
Earlier, all stay at same place. Now, professions ask us to change home frequently, staying away from home town. Only weddings become the reason of gatherings. Isn't it?

Exactly you are right usha. Even same with me too. In my child hood for every occassion and festivals and at summer vacassion and some times at usual days also we used to gather with friends and relatives now there is no such gatherings, just being home and enjoying through internet and televisions

sarala, I am not sure whether this is good or bad. My children have a totally different set of sentiments with regard to relatives who they are not comfortable with.They simply don't want to have anything to do with them..They are respectful when they meet but will not go beyond that...

There are different reasons behind this
TV- Cost of transportation and small families. We do not get enough time to spare to visit and then communication methods have also a role to play.

I also experienced this. When people had to go to any place for any work, they would stay with some relative or any known person, colleague. Nobody would go to hotel. Now things have changed. Even if you have some work at a place and some relative is there, you may still stay in hotel and either skip meeting him or just meet only for an hour or less.

I also experienced this. When people had to go to any place for any work, they would stay with some relative or any known person, colleague. Nobody would go to hotel. Now things have changed. Even if you have some work at a place and some relative is there, you may still stay in hotel and either skip meeting him or just meet only for an hour or less.

We don't want to disturb other people's lives too!!!

I also experienced this. When people had to go to any place for any work, they would stay with some relative or any known person, colleague. Nobody would go to hotel. Now things have changed. Even if you have some work at a place and some relative is there, you may still stay in hotel and either skip meeting him or just meet only for an hour or less.

I too am guilty of this.In my case there are many reasons for doing this.First of all it is a matter of occupying space and to a certain extent foregoing your own freedom of movement.Another reason being that you want to stay close to your place of work , which is far more convenient...

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

In our families we mostly gather in any ones marriages only or any family picnic

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

Mobile is another reason. Now If we want to take any news we can call,then net is another .we can meet with another in net through webcam also.

Yes as the money grows in the people the relations became less. And one more reason is mobile which changed entire world and made a large gap between relations.

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

LOL...I can understand your reasons :laugh: BTW, hardwar must be a beautiful place right ?I would love to visit all those places up north some day, have heard so much about it from visitors..

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

LOL...I can understand your reasons :laugh: BTW, hardwar must be a beautiful place right ?I would love to visit all those places up north some day, have heard so much about it from visitors..

You are most welcome to north, please let me know in case you need a guide/helper. I am good at this without charging any fee. Jokes apart, the inner peace is the key of visit to Haridwar despite being too crowded, and the next few weeks see about 5 lacks people walking to and fro Haridwar every day for famous Kanwar yatra.

Yes these people don't visit there relatives and friends more often than they used to do in olden days. I remember i used to spend whole summer vacations at my village and my mother's village but now a days i don't wish to send my kids to anywhere and leave them alone anywhere may be this is transformation which has come in new generation. Moreover people have become too much busy in earning money as they were not used to in olden days as most of the people used to depend of farming so they used to have plenty of time unlike people of today. :blink:

Technology has changed us.Has made little Lazy.Now on internet, we talk to our relatives. The importance of meeting is not decreased. This is affecting our relationship with close ones.

I said so in the first response, you see small family means smaller places to stay these days as every one cannot afford to have big houses to accommodate visiting guests. Therefore people avoid to stay with them during night and stay at hotel but if they are meeting them in day time is not all that bad.

You know sunil, I remember an incident that happened a few years ago.I was visiting Mumbai for a few days with my children and there were heavy rains when we arrived there, so much so that we could not reach the hotel we had booked.A relative came to my rescue inviting me and the children to his house which consisted of just hall,one bedroom and kitchen.They were so welcoming, caring making us feel comfortable and offering the bedroom to us...I was so very touched.Today we are the best of friends 1 It is just a matter of having a big heart rather than a big house which only few seem to have these days...

I know that but as you said you were booked in a hotel so that was an emergency. Besides I never said that people with smaller places have no big hearts, this is matter of adjustment only, from both sides.

Of course sunil :) I was just quoting an example as to how some people are accommodating inspite of everything and some dont do it even when they can do so..

And you were also trying to adjust because you knew that your relatives have not sufficient place to accommodate so you planned to stay in hotel. I have a self contained 1bhk apartment in Haridwar where I can go and stay but I would be killed if my wife's youngest sister who is an advocate there comes to know about it despite living in a flat with 3 grown up children.

LOL...I can understand your reasons :laugh: BTW, hardwar must be a beautiful place right ?I would love to visit all those places up north some day, have heard so much about it from visitors..

You are most welcome to north, please let me know in case you need a guide/helper. I am good at this without charging any fee. Jokes apart, the inner peace is the key of visit to Haridwar despite being too crowded, and the next few weeks see about 5 lacks people walking to and fro Haridwar every day for famous Kanwar yatra.

I will seriously take you up on that offer of a guide LOL..I want to see Gangotri too thats where ganga takes her birth right ? I have hardly visited the northern parts of India sunil, there is so much to see there..