There was a time when child marriages were considered perfectly normal and then things changed and the age for marriage was pushed up until they attained puberty and so on...According to some research based studies there apparently is a perfect age for marriage and the reasons seem valid too, but again marriage is a very personal issue and one cannot generalise about it
The best age of being get married is around 25 -26 years, as up to this time most of people completed their education and well settled in their job. Marriages should not be too early (before 18) or should not be too late (beyond 30) because in both situation problems are likely to occur in life.
rambabu wrote:Yes. The age range between 25 and 26misnthe best choice. Marrying at this age makes the couple know about Compatibility with each other.
The age around 25 is best as a person at this age becomes much mature to understand the feelings of the partner and understands the situations or problems which come in life and is capable enough to solve them. After 30 years or more the person will lost those feelings which he was having at age around 25.
rambabu wrote:Will there be any Mother who will not relish the sweet and sonorous word, "Mamma " ? Every mother floats on the waves of ecstasy when she hears the word " Mamma ".
When a Mother doesn't have the the possibilities of having children due to some reasons, definitely she goes for adoption. And she will not have an iota of hesitation to bear the difficulties involved in Motherhood. Hence, I definitely say that adopting a child is a wise decision.
Here I must say that parents should take care to adopt a Just born baby. The idea is the baby should not know that it's an adopted child.
Nowadays couple who are in perfect health too prefer to adopt children because they feel it is better to give home to a homeless child rather than bring in more children of their own...Normally adoption process takes a long time and the baby is handed over when they are a few months old or even a year old in some cases which hardly matters...And as far as masking the truth, that is the worst damage that can be done to a child especially after he or she grows into an adult and co es o know through other sources.
There are counselling classes and sessions for would be adopters and they are given advise as to how to go about making the child aware that she or he is an adopted child rather than keep it a secret which is a totally wrong attitude !
rambabu wrote:Will there be any Mother who will not relish the sweet and sonorous word, "Mamma " ? Every mother floats on the waves of ecstasy when she hears the word " Mamma ".
When a Mother doesn't have the the possibilities of having children due to some reasons, definitely she goes for adoption. And she will not have an iota of hesitation to bear the difficulties involved in Motherhood. Hence, I definitely say that adopting a child is a wise decision.
Here I must say that parents should take care to adopt a Just born baby. The idea is the baby should not know that it's an adopted child.
Nowadays couple who are in perfect health too prefer to adopt children because they feel it is better to give home to a homeless child rather than bring in more children of their own...Normally adoption process takes a long time and the baby is handed over when they are a few months old or even a year old in some cases which hardly matters...And as far as masking the truth, that is the worst damage that can be done to a child especially after he or she grows into an adult and co es o know through other sources.
There are counselling classes and sessions for would be adopters and they are given advise as to how to go about making the child aware that she or he is an adopted child rather than keep it a secret which is a totally wrong attitude !
MG Singh wrote:Personally I dont believe in a perfect age for marriage. One can marry at any age 30,40 50 or even later.
I tend to agree with that, marriage should be a personal choice not a compulsion and one should not go by the standards laid down by the society. I have a male cousin who was married at the age of 22 , an arranged marriage which broke up in 3 years time after which he was disillusioned. His wife coped better and got married again after 4 years. He went through many phases of life . Now he has found someone who he feels is the right partner for him and he is 43 years old. The entire family and his well wishers are very happy for him !
Male can marry at the age of 21 and female can marry when she reaches 18. But today, people do not like to marry earlier. They give more importance to education. According to them, education is the best way to get good job and to earn income for running a family. So they all like to marry after getting a good job.
Jincy Aby wrote:Male can marry at the age of 21 and female can marry when she reaches 18. But today, people do not like to marry earlier. They give more importance to education. According to them, education is the best way to get good job and to earn income for running a family. So they all like to marry after getting a good job.
Financial stability is no doubt a must before getting married but the concept is changing now with both the boy and the girl working and sometimes the girl is working while the boy is pursuing his higher studies or in a few rare cases even unemployed. However, it depends on individual preferences...These days many couple are going in for live in relationships as well which further pushes the marriageable age higher !
usha manohar wrote:Jincy Aby wrote:Male can marry at the age of 21 and female can marry when she reaches 18. But today, people do not like to marry earlier. They give more importance to education. According to them, education is the best way to get good job and to earn income for running a family. So they all like to marry after getting a good job.
Financial stability is no doubt a must before getting married but the concept is changing now with both the boy and the girl working and sometimes the girl is working while the boy is pursuing his higher studies or in a few rare cases even unemployed. However, it depends on individual preferences...These days many couple are going in for live in relationships as well which further pushes the marriageable age higher !
True...financial stability is also now a major influencing factor nowadays when marriage is considered. Along with boys, even girls now want to be financially secure and stable before getting into wedlock. Perhaps it is because now more girls are taking sole responsibility of their parents seeing that most families are now nuclear ones.
rambabu wrote:usha manohar wrote:@ Kalyani I agree that lifestyle and demands of the society one lives in plays a dominant part in deciding the age at which children get married and since arranged marriages are still very much a part of it , parents have more say than the children. But things are slowly changing ..
@anil, rambabu , I agree that in large and even small cities 25 or even 30 is not a great age since it takes that long for both boys and girls to get settled in their career and stabilise before they think of getting married.
I heard a case of a girl who escaped from her village in the state of Maharashtra to avoid child marriage. An NGO helped her. The girl wanted to study and do a job.
It is fact that to stop child marriage awareness in increasing. In many case Rajasthan girls contact with government authority to stop her marriage. government also made rule that printer before printing marriage card get proof of age to assured that girl and boy both are adult.
anil wrote:rambabu wrote:usha manohar wrote:@ Kalyani I agree that lifestyle and demands of the society one lives in plays a dominant part in deciding the age at which children get married and since arranged marriages are still very much a part of it , parents have more say than the children. But things are slowly changing ..
@anil, rambabu , I agree that in large and even small cities 25 or even 30 is not a great age since it takes that long for both boys and girls to get settled in their career and stabilise before they think of getting married.
I heard a case of a girl who escaped from her village in the state of Maharashtra to avoid child marriage. An NGO helped her. The girl wanted to study and do a job.
It is fact that to stop child marriage awareness in increasing. In many case Rajasthan girls contact with government authority to stop her marriage. government also made rule that printer before printing marriage card get proof of age to assured that girl and boy both are adult.
This is a great step taken by the Government of Rajasthan. Now it is clear that Government is bent on to curb the child marriages.
I was working before I got married and left the job as my base shifted to another city. Though my husband encouraged me to take up a job I did not agree. A new environment and a new surrounding, a joint family where I was a daughter-in-law who I knew will be adjudged after each and every step so always felt a little restricted. Now, the time has passed for getting into any job or so and that's why I am into freelancing but it's yet to become a mega event of my life. Maybe it won't be that big any day! Although I must admit I am not facing any financial crunch because of having a very considerate husband. Still I think financial stability should be of first and foremost importance and then comes marriage.
Personally I feel that women should be financially independent regardless of their marital status...It does not matter how wealthy or well to do your husband is because a job , however small gives you an identity and a certain status which is all your own, besides making you confident.
@usha manohar I entirely agree with you. I can judge this situation very well through my own example. Sometimes income is not that huge but still there is a satisfaction of satisfying your own identity as well as that some expenditures can easily be met through one's income which gives immense pleasure. I was stuck in such a confusion that my decision went wrong for my own identity. As a wife I have nothing to complain but as an educated lady I really feel I have not made justice to myself.
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