anil wrote:

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Earlier daughters were not consulted about their marriage and in many families even sons were not consulted but now the whole concept of marriage has changed. It will change further with the spread of education that which enhances more and more awareness. One factor regarding marriage has to be respected and that is the decision of the person, daughter and son, who is to get married must be given all the importance. If it is denied then marriages will not remain a very happy event anymore.

 

it is only is urban and sub urban area. In rural area marriage are still decided by the elders. Boys and girls are not consulted for their marriage ever before marriage boy and girl  see each other.

Presently, irrespective of the region where people live, the marriages are taking place  in accordance with the wishes and ambitions of the of the man and woman.. If the elders use force,  man and woman are even ready to run away from their homes and get married.This is a good change  in prevalence all over the country and gaining strength by day.

 

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Earlier daughters were not consulted about their marriage and in many families even sons were not consulted but now the whole concept of marriage has changed. It will change further with the spread of education that which enhances more and more awareness. One factor regarding marriage has to be respected and that is the decision of the person, daughter and son, who is to get married must be given all the importance. If it is denied then marriages will not remain a very happy event anymore.

 

it is only is urban and sub urban area. In rural area marriage are still decided by the elders. Boys and girls are not consulted for their marriage ever before marriage boy and girl  see each other.

Presently, irrespective of the region where people live, the marriages are taking place  in accordance with the wishes and ambitions of the of the man and woman.. If the elders use force,  man and woman are even ready to run away from their homes and get married.This is a good change  in prevalence all over the country and gaining strength by day.

 

 

That's quite absurd going by what is happening in the country. Almost every day you get to hear of honor killing and parents forcibly marrying off their children to boys or girls of their choice. This happens everywhere almost on a daily basis and how can anyone can make such sweeping statements ?

usha manohar wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Earlier daughters were not consulted about their marriage and in many families even sons were not consulted but now the whole concept of marriage has changed. It will change further with the spread of education that which enhances more and more awareness. One factor regarding marriage has to be respected and that is the decision of the person, daughter and son, who is to get married must be given all the importance. If it is denied then marriages will not remain a very happy event anymore.

 

it is only is urban and sub urban area. In rural area marriage are still decided by the elders. Boys and girls are not consulted for their marriage ever before marriage boy and girl  see each other.

Presently, irrespective of the region where people live, the marriages are taking place  in accordance with the wishes and ambitions of the of the man and woman.. If the elders use force,  man and woman are even ready to run away from their homes and get married.This is a good change  in prevalence all over the country and gaining strength by day.

 

 

That's quite absurd going by what is happening in the country. Almost every day you get to hear of honor killing and parents forcibly marrying off their children to boys or girls of their choice. This happens everywhere almost on a daily basis and how can anyone can make such sweeping statements ?

Honor killing is evil. Yesterday here in small town father killed his daughter because she wants to marriage with boy who is not of his cast. Boy contact with administration but they failed to save innocent girl.

Those who see a particular face of happenings and conveniently turning their faces away from the happenings about will say :" It's absurd" naturally will not accept such happenings like this. This incident and the news link has been given in the same thread. Anyhow I'm giving the news link one more time.

http://www.huffingtonpost.in/2015/06/23/india-early-marriage-educ_n_7642284.html?utm_hp_ref=india

One or two swallows does not make summer similarly a couple of stray cases of defiance does not mean the society has changed drastically and to think so is indeed absurd and foolish and being blind to the other side . There is some change happening but at a very slow pace but generally traditions , parental control and caste factors still play a major role in deciding on fixing a marriage in villages, small towns and even in metro towns.. 

I think the minimum age of marriage should be 25year for both man and woman

Marriage age is personal. According to the individual preference and convenience one can marry.

usha manohar wrote:

One or two swallows does not make summer similarly a couple of stray cases of defiance does not mean the society has changed drastically and to think so is indeed absurd and foolish and being blind to the other side . There is some change happening but at a very slow pace but generally traditions , parental control and caste factors still play a major role in deciding on fixing a marriage in villages, small towns and even in metro towns.. 

Changes are taking place but in a very slow pace which will take years to change the whole society. In villages the condition is very different and the most important point is if at all some are running away from their homes when they are forced by the family is actually not a solution. It's not the desired change. Change is that which is happily acceptable to all and not the protests which may lead to a violent revenge from the family's side which usually do take place and many are not even reported or go totally unnoticed. That's a big failure of our society. 

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

One or two swallows does not make summer similarly a couple of stray cases of defiance does not mean the society has changed drastically and to think so is indeed absurd and foolish and being blind to the other side . There is some change happening but at a very slow pace but generally traditions , parental control and caste factors still play a major role in deciding on fixing a marriage in villages, small towns and even in metro towns.. 

Changes are taking place but in a very slow pace which will take years to change the whole society. In villages the condition is very different and the most important point is if at all some are running away from their homes when they are forced by the family is actually not a solution. It's not the desired change. Change is that which is happily acceptable to all and not the protests which may lead to a violent revenge from the family's side which usually do take place and many are not even reported or go totally unnoticed. That's a big failure of our society.

Running away from the home to escape Child marriage is a change I'm favored of. Instead of succumbing to the evils of Child Marriages, it's better to run away from the family showing discontentment towards child marriages.

 

Talking of age of marriage per se I feel there is no special age.  More so in a developed society. Then there is also a biological difference in a man and a woman. Men generally do not age that much and can marry at any age. The Hollywood star Anthony Quinn( My favorite) married his secretary at 82 and fathered 2 kids. So frankly there is no age if one is socially and materially well off. India is lagging, but soon we will catch up in this field for sure.