Marriage relations and values
No one tells newly married couples about the ways they would need to keep their relations live and going forever, successfully and forever. The marriage is like a newly grounded plant that needs water of love, fertilizer of respect and sincere affection to make the plant greener and produce lovely flowers and tasty fruits. There is so much of effort required from both husband and wife to keep the relation grow successfully forever.

I am sure every one knows about the funny jokes people share about wives targeted for loving their husbands for the sake of money and their earnings, people find it funny, but that is not true. No wife loves her husband for the sake of money only but every wife wants her husband to earn enough to make her house hold doing well and respectfully. What is wrong in that if she worries about this particular problem? After all this is duty of a wife to run the household in a decent manner. Probably some wives find it a reason to go out and find a job because they are not earning enough money despite known as bread earners

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The old saying says interference makes it difficult
That is true in today’s married life, the interference of families of the wife or husband make problems a shade darker. There are many families especially, in initial stages of marriage who are suffering due to this small problem, which takes an ugly shape if not taken proper care of the same. The interference of either side only intensifies the small situations beyond repair in some cases.

Therefore, this is wise to make your own decisions if you are not dependent on your families. This problem may not affect much to the couples who live in combined families as they take decisions according to their families. This is in most cases the common problem of couples who are staying separately and any one of them goes for too many unnecessary suggestions coming from his or her family. The other partner may consider this as undue interference.

Most couples want to succeed in their married life
Yes, that is true no couple wants their marriage goes wrong and they spend a horrible life unless there are some unavoidable reasons behind them. Initially couples do not feel it but once the married life begins to take a shape and new members (children) added in the family, couples know their responsibilities on better terms and they find it more comfortable to discharge their duties towards their families. Please let me add that a healthy sexy life of the couple adds spice to their married life as well. That is one important aspect of a successful married couple. Many marriages get broken on this very point these days.

Happy days are not the test of a marriage
That is true, no one ever feels bad unless some problems take place in life. These problems are in fact the real tests of married couples. Finding successful solutions for these problems bring them closer. The money may not have the direct relation with the problems but money is one big point that creates most of the problems. Therefore, this is advisable to have enough money to spend for our daily needs and saving enough for the future. That may lead to a successful married life, as financial security is one big satisfaction. The couple feels safe, secured and more relaxed.

Newly married couples need a little breathing space of their own
That is true, in this modern age when almost every one is educated and is having his or her own circle of friends before marriage. They need some time to spend with them as they used to do before. Therefore, the understanding in between husband and wife and other members if they are in a combined family would certainly let the space for breathing developed and relations would stay healthy. That is need of the day.

Having a little bit of fight is not bad
Yes, you read me right, if couples never had a fight in between them even for a smaller matter, they would never know the actual taste of love. As they say a little sore only lets, you know the taste of sweet. That is true in case of love as well. Both partners are equally responsible for keeping their married life going happily, this is possible although that the ratio of contribution toward the cause may vary slightly.

Never be cruel to each other
That is about the worst thing that can happen to a married couple. This is nothing uncommon any where in the world however this is one of the worst things acceptable in a marriage. When a light oral fight is fine, being violent is not at all acceptable from any one of the couple. There is no justification of this act, both must act as responsible people and should take decisions in their self-interest in a healthy way.

Unfortunately, more than 35% women are victims of this social unwanted behavior of domestic violence in our country. Women allover the world including developed countries are victims because they are weaker physically but some men too are on the receiving end. Men and women should know that they are married and made for each other; therefore, they must take decisions collectively. That would bring them closer and make their relations better.

These are small things but important
Do you ever remember the moments you shared immediately after your marriage while you were away for your honeymoon? Does it give you some different feelings to remember about the long drive you two had in evenings while you were just married? I am sure you still remember them and feel so very delighted and refreshed. Just share them whenever you feel a little low, the memories would help bring your life back to track.

Go through you marriage album and see how happy you two were at the time of your marriage. Try the VCD of your marriage that will recreate the scenes in your mind and you would feel afresh allover again. Never let the bad situations take control of yourself, however bad may those be. Life is not bed of rose only. You shall have to go through some of the bad experiences as well. Face them resolutely. I wish you all a very happy married life.

We are facing shortage of an open space for trees and plants
Growing population is one of the major causes of shortened spaces to live. Most of us have been forced to stay in smaller houses with not much room for plants and trees. The city life has not much space for front and back yards for most of us. Therefore, the only way to have some greenery around is to convert our balconies and terraces in to small gardens.

The best way is to bring some greenery home
The best way to fulfill your desire of a beautiful garden is to convert your balcony in to a complete mini garden. This is not a difficult job if you use some imagination and have some first hand knowledge of plants and their protection. Please be careful in selection of plants according to the climate they require as every plant or flower does not develop in every condition. So, if you are not well aware of plants, which you are interested to grow in your garden there, are experts who may guide you in your local nurseries.

You must plan according to space available
Space in a balcony may also be big or small therefore selection of plants depends based on space available. Hanging plant pots, especially the designer pots available today in various sizes would be the right choice for you. You can use hanging pots as well to save more space and have some more plants to go a little more green and colorful. This is better to use portable furniture in your balcony to utilize the spaceavailable.

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Now the plants you may have
This is very complicated when it comes to choice of plants in your balcony. Most plants being so delicate need a constant watch and maintenance. Every person has his or her own choice as far as choice is concerned. I may recommend some of the plants but this is only a suggestion as you may differ with me entirely and may have your own preferences.

Here are some of the suggestions:
1- Jade plants and button cactus are supposed to be the best choice for hanging pots in a balcony. Money plant is another plant that looks good and needs little care and the best part is it can grow upwards and downwards without any problem.
2- You can have beautifully designed stands made of wrought iron, which can contain many pots of different sizes. These stands certainly increase the beauty of your balcony with their artistic designs.
3- Here you can use your own creative abilities to convert some of the old crockery in to beautiful plants by painting and decorating them as per your own choice. Just imagine your old bowls, idly cooker, ceramic jars, small metallic boxes, backing pots and wooden pots used as beautiful pots for your lovely plants. Be careful that the pots you are going to use should be smaller to give your garden a sophisticated look.
4- Yes, this is possible to use a few vegetables also in your balcony garden if you have some spare space. I have seen tomatoes, beans, chilly, mint and coriander in many balconies. That gives you a satisfaction of having your own kitchen garden in your own house. Apart from these, you can have Aloe Vera, Tulsi (basil), ginger, garlic and onions as well. These plants are good for your health along with the much-needed greenery.
5- You can have wooden pillars or artistic boards fixed in your balcony to let vines like bougainvillea and money plant climb easily and beautifully. How about having a small fountain in a corner of the balcony, that would give it a grand look.
6- Bottles and baskets are good alternate for indoor plants along with hanging pots, which are easy to maintain and shift from one place to other easily.
7- Finally, the lighting is the integral part of beauty and decoration of any place especially mini balcony garden therefore this s advisable to use colored and artistic lights in your balcony. I would suggest using lantern typed terracotta lamps. You can also use bamboo sticks to give your garden a more greenhouse like effect.

Please note that this is very easy to go out and purchase plants of your choice to decorate your balcony and terrace you can even get it done with the help of experts. However maintaining it is the main problem, which you shall have to do to keep it look beautiful, forever which is not possible without your taking a proper interest to do that. I wish you all the best for having a nice and wonderful balcony garden in your own small but lovely house.

We enjoy the life with true friends
There is no alternative of true friends. They not only stand with us in every situation but they provide us their best support as well, without any thing in return. Our true friends are not demanding but supportive. Yes, I am happy that we can choose our friends unlike the relatives. I am so proud to have some real good friends who would come to support me at two in the night without asking a question. Yes, I am proud to have friends with whom I can share some of my secrets. We are open to each other in every situation and never ask a question.

Let me describe the friendship from a new angle. A friend is some one who can fight with me without having a real reason and would carry it on unless the problem is resolved forever. This may look the end of the road to onlookers but that is not so. The doors of hearts are always open and entry always allowed to real friends, come what may. Let me share a secret with you some of my friends would continue fighting with me until the reason of fight is clear. Moreover, once the reason is clear, the fight too is over.

I know women are better friends because they seldom fight and they have better ability to keep secrets compared to men. Men may look fighting with their friends but that is never permanent. They may go to have a cup of tea or go for a movie immediately after a fight. Please keep in mind that I am discussing about our true friends only. These stories of true friendships are long and can keep on going forever but to cut the long story short, the true friends are like uncut diamonds that are forever.

Why is friendship so important?
We need them at every point of life and more so while we feel disappointed with some of the problems that we face and no one but only our true friends come forward to solve them. There are certain problems, which we can discuss with our friends only. Friends can solve some of the problems in a better way compared to relatives.

Friends keep your stresses away
There are times when we cannot share some of our problems with our closest of relative including husband or wives but we can easily share them with friends. They definitely come forward to find a better solution in most of the cases. They are always with us in every problem without ever mentioning the trouble they took sorting them out. They are never demanding. They never expected any thing in return; they never expected any gifts for the help they rendered so selflessly. They never expected us to show them our gratitude for whatever they did for us. The real friends do their job and forget it immediately.

There are a few tips:
1- Never forget their birthday, marriage anniversaries.
2- Keep in contact, however busy you are.
3- Throw a party once in a while
4- Try to attend parties your friends have organized. In case you cannot attend a party let, them know your reason and acknowledge it.
5- Never forget to share the problems of your friends as they did for you.

Beware Moms - kids are looking for a smarter mom
The time has changed and this is time to change for you as well. This is no more the time when you wanted to make your children go with the trends and look smarter but now this is turn of the kids to see you look smarter than before. Are you feeling surprised and caught off guard! However, that is call of the day and not only kids are getting smarter by the day but want to see their moms smarter as well. They are looking forward to see their moms walking tall with them. This trend is more applicable in big cities and metros. Therefore, this is your chance to change for good.

What are they looking for in their moms?
They are looking for their moms changing into some thing, which would give them a better look a different one from old-fashioned old look. A better and modern dress is on their priority for their moms. This may not suit you but they want to see you in western clothes rather than your traditional sari and salwar kurta.

They have their teachers as role models while in school who are younger and smarter in most cases and kids visualize them while they imagine their mothers. They want their moms to look like their teachers. Another reason for children to feel this way is the competitions like ‘smart kid and mom’, which held in schools and make them think more in this direction. They want their moms to be best, smarter and most beautiful

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They want you to be like their teachers
Most of the children are going to English medium schools where they converse in English with their teachers and other students. Therefore, they want their moms too speak like them while they come to attend teachers meet or other functions, which held so frequently these days in every school. In addition, the fact is mothers are taking full interest in this direction and trying to become the way their children want them to be.

You must update your GK
This is one of the most sought after demand of the children today; they want you to be a perfect mother when it comes to keep pace with day-to-day knowledge. So, never forget to read newspaper, watch TV no not for your daily serials but for the news and informative channels. You should know all about the latest news and technologies those taking place around the world.
Come-on be a tech savvy
If kids are spending time on high-tech games and social networking sites then you must have a Facebook account to go with their requirements. You must be an expert of computer as well. Internet is need of the day you cannot avoid it. You should join a computer class before you are found wanting in this department.

There is another requirement that needs to taken care of by you on an urgent basis. Children do not want a mom who is not friendly with them while spending time with them so join them on their sites and be friendly. No one wants his or her mom to be an old-fashioned one who used to scold him or her on every small mistake. They want their moms to be frank and friendly. They want their moms to share their picnics and outings and share happiness with them

Children want moms to cooperate and be perfect
Moms are generally nearer to their children while handling their daily needs therefore children want them to know and understand on every front associated with their clothes, etc. They want their moms to be perfect and knowledgeable in every aspect. They expect their moms to keep a first hand knowledge of every thing they may need. They need an up-to-date mom in every field. So, are you ready to be one like that?