A common factor about successful people  

All successful people I know for long time have something in common. I know with my personal experience as I have worked with four employers so far in my long corporate career and found one thing was common in all successful people. All the achievers in all the companies have a common factor and although that was a simple thing but none of them was a gossiper. They never wasted a moment doing anything unproductive.

Successful people always work with total transparency completing the job and practically showing it to their team members. They know the value of time and they know time in fact is money itself. And yes they all have something common in them that they worked for education to improve the life of poor and deserving.

Most of those successful people never wasted their time waiting for their lunch in crowded restaurants during working hours or talking with dealers discussing movies instead of making business deals. All successful people know the value of every moment of their and try taking spot decision.

There was another common factor in all those great people they understand the value of humbleness and behavior showing high moral standards all the time without losing their cool even in odd situations. Humbleness has different meaning for different people but the common factors always remain the same.

 You can contradict my point by saying that humbleness is no more a virtue in this age of the technique of gaining an advantage or feeling of superiority over other persons in your competition, (or even not in your competition).

Some people have started believing that humbleness is sign of cowardice but at the same time some others do not think in these terms exactly but they believe that humbleness is sign of peace and satisfaction that provides a person with extra energy for tackling things more tactfully.

There is another plus point for humble people and that is more important as no humble people is ever over ambitious but he learns to live with satisfaction since he is not afraid of losing anything. 

Common Qualities of Rich and Successful Persons

I am fond of reading about successful people that motivate me as I believe life is like a nonstop lesson that teaches you something every moment.   I have read hundreds of biographies of rich and famous persons and what I found in all successful people that they all had certain qualities in common. 

1- They all were fond of walking in the morning

2- They never hesitated learning anything new from whatever source it came from

3- No one of them was a foodie or spent too much time about talking about food

4- Almost all of them were family persons and loved spending quality time with their family

5- They all spent their leisurely time at natural beauty spots with friends and family and enjoyed their trips or even shared their memories with their friends and family.

6- They all were social and trusted in making good friends with likeminded and hard working people.

7- It is not applicable on all but most of them spent very limited time watching television or playing online games. But they spent their time playing outdoor games for physical fitness purpose.

8- While I say this I would certainly mention a point about all successful people that they are all kind and understanding with a helpful nature. They understood human nature and good at understanding the problem.

9- Most successful people do not waste their time doing unproductive work but they find out something worthwhile even from something that most others will consider waste of time.

10- There is one important fact about all successful people that if they do not want to do something you cannot force them to do that and the best part is that you would not feel bad because their way of refusal is so convincing.   

11- There is a very interesting fact about all successful people that they never talk too much showing their authority but listen carefully before speaking. They speak to the point and every word they speak makes sense.  

The difference is not much though

There is only a small difference in between the two sets of people the ones who get motivation from their failures and the one who feel disappointed and lose all their zeal to work further on that particular project. You may again find it a bit out of the contest but the fact the people that love themselves face such setbacks comparatively easily and come back to terms without much problem. 

The people who love themselves find a great energy or enthusiasm in pursuit of an objective. The fact that most professional know where the lag behind but they don’t want to accept them as that may directly or indirectly hamper their chances of growth but that is not the right way. To achieve success, one will have to learn to accept his weaknesses and work on them, there is no other way. 

We shall have to accept the fact that no one is superman or superwoman and we all know everything about our weaknesses which you can hide from others for a while but not from your own self so why hide them, work on them and get rid of them. There is no better way of reaching to your goals but to accept your weakness and remove them.

Ability to adjust with everyone with no questions asked

I am not ashamed to accept that I feel envious to the people who are popular among their friends, relatives and people in their social circle. No one says no for an answer if they ask to do anything for them but feel obliged rather. I often look at myself and wish I knew what would be the basic qualities that I should add to my own qualification to match with their skills. 

I think all such persons have a one basic quality that stands the apart from rest of us is there quality to adjust each and everyone even if they have very few things in common. They never ask any question neither they refuse anyone when it comes to helping others and that’s what they get in return as well. It’s probably their ability to adjust with everyone without any questions asked. 

“The fact that your most happy moments are the ones that you share with others and your most painful moments are the ones that you faced being alone”, no one but I said this. (I hope it will be quoted when I will be no more in this world). 

Quality and Ability

“The quality of ability to adjust with everyone with no questions asked”. There is no doubt about the fact that almost all the problems could be solved with our social activities. If a person knows how to be friendly with good social relation there is nothing that will stop him reaching to the top of his career. On the contrary people with strained relations, not willing to mix up and behaving too proudly face failure, depression and discomfort in most case. 

I am a corporate worker with background in marketing and human resources to some level so I know the fact that a large number of employees that lost their jobs in the industry for this particular reason because they were unable to cope with the social environment of the industry and not because they did not know their job or had no proper qualification.    

Walking, Watching and Listening

I have been noticing a lady during my morning walks for last couple of days not for any special purpose but for her way of walking and in doing so her movements make her an instant attraction of the fellow walkers. I agree she is a bit overweight of about 110 kg for her height 5’3” maybe an inch here or there but that is nothing that makes her the center of attraction but the way she walks always gives me a strange feeling. I have no words to describe the way she walks and the words I can think of are not printable.

I am not saying I walk in a perfect way but I have been walking for so many years and have seen so many different walking styles in my long walking career that I can almost write a book on walking styles but the one I have seen in this lady is something entirely different. It’s one of the funniest scenes when I see her coming from the opposite side on the same walking path in a Jumping Jack style intentionally moving her entire body right to left and left to right with special movements to her hands. 

With all my experience of walkers-watching I am seriously planning to start a study on classification of walking styles and their benefits that could perhaps be used by different walkers for different purposes. Seriously, I have seen so many styles like someone walking in Army style, or a person walking like an ostrich jumping on his toes or a person striding like a Kangaroo or a lady pacing like a duck. 

And while on the subject let me mention the lovely couples who finish their morning session of love chat in the park adding a little bit of attraction to otherwise dry walking session of people like us.  Call me jealous but it’s perhaps the modern way of keeping young and fit which I lacked so seriously in my younger days.  How I wish I was born a couple of decades later and save the feeling. 

The best walkers however are the ones who come in groups and take full advantage of their time gossiping about everything in the world. I am sure I am getting benefit of my morning walking and jogging in more than one ways first I am enjoying a better physical health and at the same time finding it good for my mental health.   Now the lighter side of walking-

Walking and Jogging- Good for Your Fitness

I am fond of walking and I write about my walking activities from time to time in different sites. I know some of you are aware of my walking and jogging habit but I keep repeating it as if I am the self appointed brand ambassador of walking. My activities are not limited to walking but I also give some time to jogging and brisk walking. My personal experience says that whenever I stopped walking it has always resulted in physical problems for me although I never gained weight. 

There may be different opinions of different fitness experts about remaining healthy but no one can deny that there is no better exercise than walking or running which keep us fit for long time and that too without spending any money. There could be difference in opinion whether running is better than walking but it entirely depends on your body needs and structure. If you exercise for the purpose of reducing body weight than running is better for you but people like me prefer walk as it has the least effect on bones.

I prefer walk or brisk walk for most part of my exercise but if someone wants me to jog along with him, I always give him a company for 200 meters or so. I have always felt that walking always have its maximum effect on hands, knees, thighs and toes but jogging is good for entire body as one has to maintain a rhythm in his entire body with faster movements. However, jogging should begin with walking and as your body becomes stronger one can gradually increase his speed.

There is an expert advice for people interested in jogging, keep your balance on your front of your paws. Jogging is also helpful for providing oxygen to your heart but not advised to people suffering from asthma, heart trouble, arthritis, obesity and back related problems. My favorite exercise is I walk at normal pace for a minute and then brisk walk for one minute than back to normal walk. I keep repeating this process for 20-30 minutes unless a jogger takes me for a company. Try it, you will love doing it.

Funny incidents during walking- Eavesdropping 

You know, my morning walks often provide me some funny incidents coming from my fellow walkers as I have to listen to some foul mouthed people which is definitely not a pleasant experience and at times some lovely but childish sentences coming from not so childish but adult persons.

I am not only referring to people that come in my contact but some the conversations I hear while passing them or walking behind them. You can blame me eavesdropping but trust me whatever I hear comes to me without my having such an intention but I agree I have the opportunity of having listened interesting things at number of times, intention or no intention. 

I know it’s certainly against ethics and cultural rules to listen to private conversation even if a person doing it for a valid reason but in my case it is certainly not my idea but I listen to them without any such intention. Of course, one can move out of the way when such conversations are on to somewhere else but by the time I move myself away I get to hear some of the lines and those lines are enough to give me the whole idea of the basic story.  

I often hear people foul mouthing and wonder why people speak in such a foul language and what best I can think is that when a person is overly frustrated but has not the idea of how to address his problem then calls name to blow off his steam to get rid his frustration. Or maybe they believe in the saying that ‘even whining around allows us to get a new prospective in life’. 

I am not saying I have never used bad language but as far as I remember I have never used the ‘F’ words in my conversation even if I was talking with my friends or total stranger when the things took an ugly turn.  I know my friends, so they never judge me for my bad outbursts and that too in seldom case and never too long. 

While on the subject, do you remember anybody ever said that our workplaces forbade us or had a policy on misappropriate behavior within close friends as long no one else was hearing? I have stopped it now for long but I used to try it sometimes with my close friends and coworkers during social gatherings but always without using any ‘F*** words of course.

Disclaimer- No malicious or bad intention please

But why I am so sarcastic then?

I fail to understand that why people just don’t understand this whole generation affair when they decide to classify it in different categories. According to them children these days belong to different categories starting from ‘A’ and ending at ‘Z’.

I am myself a member of this generation and wouldn't like to be identified as one who belongs to any such categories. Being a little naughty doesn't qualify ‘Z’ or me for category ‘Y’ I am literate (As much I know) Male - little too aged, (That is not my fault) I work full time (Lucky me).

By the way, I have played outside as a child and have well-staked values that I intend to teach my children and grand children. I will see that next generation is raised so no one brands them in category ‘loners’. Maybe we should stop trying to blame generations, when it’s just few people who annoy you.

Sometimes I feel like I am living in the past maybe 30 to 40 years before I was born. No, it is not like I am living ‘80s or even in ‘70s but in World War-2 era. Check the facts if you don’t believe me.

We are the same country that hasn't changed its ways of how it utilize its deposits of coal and other minerals perhaps largest in the world and yet won’t move away from use of fossil fuels. We are still the same country that hasn't changed or upgraded its rail signaling system since these were installed during the rule of British 70 to 100 years before.

I am worried about my internet which is so slow some times, using the same cables when even the poor countries have switched to fiber optic internet for long time now. I hope we would soon wake up in 2015 one fine morning.

Or why I am being so critical?

I think love and hate are directly related to each other and some may even say that you can love someone whom you hate at the same time.

Is that really true or possible? Let me explain if you’re unable to understand this logic! Yes, you are right when you say - Just how can I love someone whom I hate deep down in my heart?

 Sometimes I want to go mad at someone whom I truly love but he criticizes me openly and that too in front of others. Funny, isn’t it? But should we call it hate? Let’s look at this with a different angle I guess.

I don’t think I would never begin loving someone all of a sudden whom I really hate unless of course I am pretending. Or making things look so or maybe I’m in the process of trying to trick him.

Now, I am confused, or I think I don’t know much about it so quit thinking about it at this point. This is not worth discussing here.

There is nothing I can do with my online friends though because I can’t look in their eyes. If they make me angry I have to face them the way they are. However if this happens when I am offline, I leave things to your imagination.

I certainly do not want any one in my list of friends who pretends to be one of my well-wishers but in fact they are not. I would not mind someone on my list of friends who is my critic though. Okay I am looking forward for your opinion in this matter.

Is it my frustration?

I heard one of my friends renting about his frustration early in the morning when we met in the walking area of the park. He is not a whining type guy but he was really so upset today that I could not overlook him but decided to hear the reason of his disappointment. We sat in the remote corner of the park where no visitors generally go so early in the morning. He told me in detail about his stories which were related to his property and behavior of his son which was nothing new in our society but if we talk in individual terms, it’s a great problem for the ones who face them.

Frustration is a common problem and most of us suffer from it and the people with utmost positive mindset are no exceptions. Frustration is natural and common and you cannot avoid it but what you can certainly avoid is that you should not allow frustration to make you a permanent victim. People suffering from depression display patterns of abnormal behavior and that singles out them from normal people. The truth is if you let the frustration take over you the stage comes where there is no way out.

People that suffer from frustration or feel they are victim of personal disorder suffer from negative thoughts and sit idle doing nothing but I would like to mention Tallis Gomes at this point. Tallis is a Brazilian youngster who developed a Taxi finder App when he could not manage to find a taxi even after waiting for hours. In fact he found a way to fight with his frustration and did something creative.

All the people those go through such situations and come out of their desperation state will tell you that during the period when you’re stuck in such a position let the situation take its course. Your life will be back to normal within sometime because your wisdom and mind help take care of your physical or mental problems and succeed in the end.  

Conclusion- Ability to adjust with everyone with no questions asked

I am not ashamed to accept that I feel envious to the people who are popular among their friends, relatives and people in their social circle. No one says no for an answer if they ask to do anything for them but feel obliged rather. I often look at myself and wish I knew what would be the basic qualities that I should add to my own qualification to match with their skills.

I think all such persons have one basic quality that stands them apart from rest of us is there quality to adjust each and everyone even if they have very few things in common. They never ask any question neither they refuse anyone when it comes to helping others and that’s what they get in return as well. It’s probably their ability to adjust with everyone without any questions asked.

“The fact that your most happy moments are the ones that you share with others and your most painful moments are the ones that you faced being alone”, no one but I said this. (I hope it will be quoted when I will be no more in this world).

“The quality of ability to adjust with everyone with no questions asked”. There is no doubt about the fact that almost all the problems could be solved with our social activities. If a person knows how to be friendly with good social relation there is nothing that will stop him reaching to the top of his career. On the contrary people with strained relations, not willing to mix up and behaving too proudly face failure, depression and discomfort in most case.

I am a corporate worker with background in human resources to some level and know the fact that a large number of employees that lost their jobs in the industry for this particular reason, they were unable to cope with the social environment of the industry and not because they did not know their job or had no proper qualification.  

Best is not their best

I try my best doing things in a right way, as per rules and as expected of me but most of us do the same. But, sometimes I feel that doing everything in an organized way it never lets rest our minds at peace as it keeps suggesting something or the other. Then trying to give our better we keep trying newer methods and never feel satisfied despite our best efforts.

The question here is, ‘is it wrong to do things better?’ The answer is simple, do what you can do for improvement of work quality but it should come naturally and not with a feeling of unworthiness toward your own doings. It should not be at the cost of your own mental peace. In fact your thoughts, mind and consciousness make a perfect combination is the mantra for your over all power and betterment.

They want to do better

There is one more point; the extra spirit of doing better is another reason of restlessness for people having great working capacity, knowledge and willingness with all their might and motivation. Such people always do better than others. They are ‘never satisfied’ type people that can find fault even in the best they did. They are the sort of people who find something to worry even when there is nothing to worry.

Actually people try to take control over the unknown situations thinking about future situation just in case they could not do all the right things expected of them and lose their mental peace. The situation arises if a person is suffering from the feeling of insecurities but that does not help his cause rather sends him in a state when he cannot concentrate on anything and lost in the jungle of uncertainties.

If you ever feel you are one of them, you should ask a simple question from yourself- Are you putting extra pressure on yourself or trying to do something which is beyond your capacity? Trying to do everything which is beyond your control is like not believing in the power of universe.

Do it with all your might

In fact, one could work all through his life wishing all wonderful things in his life but the only way to get them is to work for them in a systematic way. But then a very simple question comes to mind, what is this talk about the right way or systematic method?

Here are two points that should help anyone willing to achieve success in life. The first one is if what is important or NOW. Or if it is really as important that it should be on your priority list? And if it’s not then do what needs your immediate attention.

And once you have decided your priorities and started working on them do not leave that job unless you have finished it. The same is also applicable to whatever you’re doing at any given point of time. If you are at work, just be there. It’s important to be there unless the job is fully done. 

You must now that we have certain fixed duties in our life which come in the list of our priorities to perform at your best or to work with integrity or to raise your children with all your capability. All these things are your responsibilities and fall in the list of your priorities.

You know we have a life to live and it will give us a different experience at every step. You should never forget that you will see changes at different points of your life but you cannot avoid completing your duties.

I don't know how much do you agree when someone says ‘I go on living even if have problems that I face in my life. Maybe I have certain fears, sadness, and other problems but I have hopes and dreams too.’

Most people tend to feel that they are talented, caring, smart and very intelligent and they have certain great things going at right pace going for them. But the truth is we all have our weaknesses and if you ask me then I have no hesitation accepting the fact that I have learned to live with all my flaws, qualities and talents. 

At what price?

I know many people who got everything whatever they wanted to including good salary package, luxury car and big house but not all of them are satisfied. They are finding life meaningless and feeling emptiness inside them because they have reached to the conclusion that they have got their success at the cost of something which was costlier compared to what they got in return. In fact, they paid too high a price for their physical achievements.

Perhaps they felt that they had sacrificed their relations, friends and the time for reaching to the top of the world or achieving their ambitious targets but they found themselves standing there alone. Setting all about your ambitious objects is nothing wrong but not thinking about your relations is as important but they forgot about this crucial aspect while trekking rapidly towards the top. Although they were not the only people who reached to the top but even those who reached there did not see anyone around because they were competing with each other.

Make your priorities right

The fact is when you work with an aim keeping your priorities right then you act in entirely different way. But to act properly you have to keep many things in mind which may sound funny to the persons looking at higher goals but these small points will save them from disappointments in the later stage. For instance, answer a simple question- how would you differentiate in between being alone or feeling of loneliness. In fact, you need your personal space but you certainly do not need loneliness.

If you ask me I would explain the meaning of being ‘alone’ as being with yourself and not feeling of loneliness. People who know the art of living alone know the beauty of meeting people too. And such people are altogether different from people who are lonely as I told you earlier that lonely is different from being alone. The people who have reached to the top but are lonely come in the category who have no one to share their happiness and sad moments with.

But did they really sacrifice their relations, friends and the time for reaching to the top of the world or achieving their ambitious targets? I think they only thought so or maybe they were only partially right!