Marriage relations and values
No one tells newly married couples about the ways they would need to keep their relations live and going forever, successfully and forever. The marriage is like a newly grounded plant that needs water of love, fertilizer of respect and sincere affection to make the plant greener and produce lovely flowers and tasty fruits. There is so much of effort required from both husband and wife to keep the relation grow successfully forever.
I am sure every one knows about the funny jokes people share about wives targeted for loving their husbands for the sake of money and their earnings, people find it funny, but that is not true. No wife loves her husband for the sake of money only but every wife wants her husband to earn enough to make her house hold doing well and respectfully. What is wrong in that if she worries about this particular problem? After all this is duty of a wife to run the household in a decent manner. Probably some wives find it a reason to go out and find a job because they are not earning enough money despite known as bread earners
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The old saying says interference makes it difficult
That is true in today’s married life, the interference of families of the wife or husband make problems a shade darker. There are many families especially, in initial stages of marriage who are suffering due to this small problem, which takes an ugly shape if not taken proper care of the same. The interference of either side only intensifies the small situations beyond repair in some cases.
Therefore, this is wise to make your own decisions if you are not dependent on your families. This problem may not affect much to the couples who live in combined families as they take decisions according to their families. This is in most cases the common problem of couples who are staying separately and any one of them goes for too many unnecessary suggestions coming from his or her family. The other partner may consider this as undue interference.
Most couples want to succeed in their married life
Yes, that is true no couple wants their marriage goes wrong and they spend a horrible life unless there are some unavoidable reasons behind them. Initially couples do not feel it but once the married life begins to take a shape and new members (children) added in the family, couples know their responsibilities on better terms and they find it more comfortable to discharge their duties towards their families. Please let me add that a healthy sexy life of the couple adds spice to their married life as well. That is one important aspect of a successful married couple. Many marriages get broken on this very point these days.
Happy days are not the test of a marriage
That is true, no one ever feels bad unless some problems take place in life. These problems are in fact the real tests of married couples. Finding successful solutions for these problems bring them closer. The money may not have the direct relation with the problems but money is one big point that creates most of the problems. Therefore, this is advisable to have enough money to spend for our daily needs and saving enough for the future. That may lead to a successful married life, as financial security is one big satisfaction. The couple feels safe, secured and more relaxed.
Newly married couples need a little breathing space of their own
That is true, in this modern age when almost every one is educated and is having his or her own circle of friends before marriage. They need some time to spend with them as they used to do before. Therefore, the understanding in between husband and wife and other members if they are in a combined family would certainly let the space for breathing developed and relations would stay healthy. That is need of the day.
Having a little bit of fight is not bad
Yes, you read me right, if couples never had a fight in between them even for a smaller matter, they would never know the actual taste of love. As they say a little sore only lets, you know the taste of sweet. That is true in case of love as well. Both partners are equally responsible for keeping their married life going happily, this is possible although that the ratio of contribution toward the cause may vary slightly.
Never be cruel to each other
That is about the worst thing that can happen to a married couple. This is nothing uncommon any where in the world however this is one of the worst things acceptable in a marriage. When a light oral fight is fine, being violent is not at all acceptable from any one of the couple. There is no justification of this act, both must act as responsible people and should take decisions in their self-interest in a healthy way.
Unfortunately, more than 35% women are victims of this social unwanted behavior of domestic violence in our country. Women allover the world including developed countries are victims because they are weaker physically but some men too are on the receiving end. Men and women should know that they are married and made for each other; therefore, they must take decisions collectively. That would bring them closer and make their relations better.
These are small things but important
Do you ever remember the moments you shared immediately after your marriage while you were away for your honeymoon? Does it give you some different feelings to remember about the long drive you two had in evenings while you were just married? I am sure you still remember them and feel so very delighted and refreshed. Just share them whenever you feel a little low, the memories would help bring your life back to track.
Go through you marriage album and see how happy you two were at the time of your marriage. Try the VCD of your marriage that will recreate the scenes in your mind and you would feel afresh allover again. Never let the bad situations take control of yourself, however bad may those be. Life is not bed of rose only. You shall have to go through some of the bad experiences as well. Face them resolutely. I wish you all a very happy married life.