Have you ever heard about grand design those are, made for you, I have mentioned this in so many times in my different articles on different sites. Believing in destiny though is tricky; people have different views on this subject. I believe that destiny is real, that there is one person or job destined for you. If not then there is a single turning point in your life when you will find that particular person or job in your destiny. Therefore, it could probably be true that destiny is real, and that no effort is, needed because destiny will find its way to you on its own way.

However, love is not the same. Love requires efforts. Achieving goals is not the same. Achieving goals require efforts again. Success is not the same. Success requires your efforts. It could be your destiny to be, loved by someone, but if you have not exerted effort to find the love of your life, there will be no love even if destiny finds it for you. It could be your destiny to achieve a goal, but if you have not exerted any effort in achieving that goal, then the goal is meaningless if destiny achieves it for you.

Going south

It could be true destiny will find its way to you. However, everything that makes that destiny worthwhile is in your own doing. "An apple you've harvested from the tree, you yourself planted will always be sweeter than any apple you ever buy from the market.

I know many people want so badly to believe there is some kind of sacred timeline already written for them, I sometimes find myself in that place as well. Sadly, that is never the case, except in movies of course, what would not we give to be those people? It could be your destiny to be successful, but if destiny succeeds for you then it is not at all your success, so keep making efforts to reach their where you are destined to be.

Reaching North

I have always leaned more towards a deterministic view of the world. Being familiar with quantum mechanics and Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle, I still believe that the outcome of the world could actually be, forecasted if we had all the necessary variables.

Now, does that mean that everything has already been, decided beforehand? Not at all, within those variables lies the freedom of choice. I believe in destiny. If you are destined for each other no matter what comes between you and your partner, no matter what travails and trials are met, it you are really destined for each other all these will be overcome. Happy are those who found their destiny in life. I myself am thinking where my destiny is, is it in this life or in another life. It may have passed me unknowingly when I was not looking. I just wish that if he is somewhere around that I should meet him before it is too late. However, if destiny brings him in the twilight of my life, so be it.

That is destiny

Well, what I do think is that there are possibilities and situations destined to happen but we still have the free will to manipulate that destiny. As for example, one company is destined to fail but the employees who work in that company work hard to keeps the company going. So despite the fact that destiny says it will fail, people still work around things to overcome that destiny. This world is full of possibilities, every action you do (or not do) leads to a consequence which may be good, bad or really too bad. Life is what you make it; you only get out of life what you put into it. Every thing happens for a reason, not sure if I believe in destiny, each day to me is a blessing, what ever happens each day is a destiny.

With effects of technological and financial progress of the present century being felt everywhere, it is shameful to see millions being still consigned to live without a roof on their heads. Instead of assigning their misfortune on their destiny it is time for lucky few of the society to take up responsibility and do their chores more proactively. The right to adequate housing is a fundamental human right as per the charter by Universal Declaration of Human Rights. The declaration when it was issued was grandly embraced by all the nations. Some even went a step farther in incorporating this declaration as a part of their constitution. However,in actual practice the execution of the same policy has been abysmal. Tremors of a global housing crisis can be felt everywhere and it is not remotely related to the caprices of the real estate market. A disgusting phenomenon which is gradually becoming all pervasive is the unwilling and forced eviction of people from their homes or properties. Such acts are being carried out with impunity by Government agencies and private developers. These hapless people have no other recourse but to remain homeless or lead a deplorable existence in slum areas. However people living in slum or informal settlements are more susceptible to forced evictions as they do not have any legal recourse. As per current data a mindboggling 1 billion people dwell in slums and the numbers are only going to swell in the coming years, if one goes by UN projections. Nigeria alone constitute for more than 2 million forced eviction cases since the turn of the millennium. A staggering 7 hundred thousand people ended up loosing their household in a punitive operation called Operation Murambatsvina ( operation Drive out Rubbish) in Zimbabwe in 2005. The scene is equally dire in all other parts of Africa and Central America. However, the malaise is not confined to the poor and least developed nations of Africa only. Even developing countries like India and China, who are poised for global dominance, the right to housing policy has been shamelessly ignored. Ditto is the case in USA and Europe. As per UN –HABITAT data there are roughly 3 million people without adequate dwellings in Europe and shockingly there are seven hundred thousand homeless person in USA. With globalization spreading its wings everywhere, migration has been a major constraint for all the developed nations. Hordes of people cross over,hoping for a better living but a majority of them end up being stranded without any adequate shelter. These violations of a fundamental right have become a cause for grave concern and the same was fervently raised again and again in organisations like United Nations Centre for Human settlement and European Research Centre on Migrations and Ethnic relations. However,despite repeated pleas, the subsequent “corrective” actions that nations have undertaken have been by and large unsatisfactory. However in some countries the scenario is rosier. A case for example is Sweden who has created a hassle free interest subsidy regime for housing. A small and heavily embargoed country like Cuba has always been at the forefront of providing housing to every citizen by the virtue of subsidies and its extended family culture. The above two are perfect examples of how concerted effort from the Government can actually stop this growing menace.

Social life is a combination of every individual's personal relation along with following the measures in the society. Social life cannot be defined in one particular definition.It differs from each individual according to one's thoughts.Few people might consider as going out in the weekend is one part of social life. Social life not only means partying at night clubs and going out or freaking out. It is also one kind of social responsibility that every individual has towards the society.

It need not be in one particular format. It is important that every individual takes part in the events of the society and not just feel that it is a burden and start accepting it as a responsibility. Each religion has its own culture. Each culture has its own style. Similarly each society has its own standard of acceptance and taste. For example Food, there are lots of varieties of foods, even the same kind of food tastes different in each and every society.

Likewise there is certain style of dressing which each and every society follow or is accepted. There are certain places where styling is considered as a crime.Even though we like it or not we have to follow the rules of the society as it is the same group of people whom we live with and hence their view also matters which is the part of the society. There are lots of things that happen in the society. Moving socially with others is always better and in return showing concern will give back one day.

Social life is a combination of: Emotions of the people Spiritual believes of the people Everybody would want the society to change in some or the other way, but none of them is ready to take or start the change. They are expecting it to change all of a sudden. Change is something which won't happen all of a sudden somebody needs to take initiative and the change should be accepted in the society.        

 

Happiness is the perfume that showers from the beautiful flower, what we call life. Sometimes this perfume may decrease gradually and lost forever and instead of its nice aroma, some unpleasant smell may begin to fill. Here, we want some changes to be brought  into life that may help in bringing the lost perfume back to our life. I am providing you with 50 golden tips, if you can follow, can give you back everything you want from life. Even if I am giving 50 easy tips, it is not easy to follow them all of a sudden. As it is told, 'Slow and steady wins the race', these tips will surely guide you to reach that position and keep your mind fresh and happy, like climbing steps one by one to reach the hill top and seeing the most beautiful sceneries of nature and enjoying the sight.

 
First and most important step is the determination of your mind that, 'I will reach that hill top'. When the decision is made, our mind automatically favours it and bring in itself 'The positive energy' - the food needed to climb that mountain of happiness, with each tip - the stepping stone to success. Let me begin with my golden tips.
As soon as you wake up
1. Today is the most important day of my life : Everyday is an important day and the lost sunset will never return back to our life. So, when you get up every morning along with the early sun rise, the first thing to be brought up in mind with strong determination is 'Today is the most important day of my life'. Sometimes you may be a little late to wake up, may be due to over work at night. Even so, never feel angry to anyone or be hasty to do your daily routine. If you scold your children or spouse to overcome that tension, it will bring you only negative energy and that day will be turned to a worst one. So even if you are a little bit late, feel in yourself that this day is also very special and that I will do my duties very well. It will definitely bring positive energy to you and keep your mind out of tensions, that will help you in doing all your activities as usual.
2. Do exercise daily: It may be any type of exercise of your preference - A morning walk, going to gym or shuttle court or doing exercise at home itself. If it is not possible to go outside, you can use a treadmill at home for at least half an hour. Yoga and meditation can also bring you more positive feeling and power inside you. It not only prompts you to get up early, but also helps in burning some extra fats from the body. A half hour exercise can keep you a whole day fresh. Morning walk or going to shuttle court can provide you with good friends and social relationships. Such relations are really inevitable part of one's life since it can help you in developing your character and expressions.
3. Enjoy the food while eating: It is a bad habit of both young ones and adults to have their breakfast in a hurry. One should know that healthy breakfast gives you the energy for a whole day and so, one should give full  importance to it. Also eat food at correct time. If possible, have food every day at the same time. Otherwise, it may lead to gas trouble and acidity problems and even causes gain in weight. Always eat food in a relaxed manner which will help in better digestion and giving you more energy.
The way to office
Your daily journey to office can also give you some good moments to bring smile in your face.Some unnoticed moments till now, can really bring light moments for you.
4. Help others without expecting in return:  Sometimes we might get opportunity in our life to help someone even though we can't get anything in return. Suppose, on the way to office, every day you see a small child picking up waste paper, plastic etc for his daily living. But you never notice him because you might be busy in thinking how to reach office 5 minutes early or what task, boss is going to give you today. But today, just give a smile to that boy and ask him about his family and if possible, give him a small amount to have his breakfast or to buy a toy. You know, you can't get anything in return from that poor boy. But the innocent smile that he gives you, will really reduce some of your tensions at least for some time. Some common things you can do are helping an old woman to cross the road or giving a lift to her luggage, giving your seat to an old or handicapped person in the bus, throwing the waste paper in your hand to the waste bin placed on the side of road etc. Also, such small things will prompt you to do more good and difficult tasks  for the benefit of others and provide you with a helping mentality . Repeatedly during a task will make it a habit, for sure.
5. Talk to new people: Always try to earn more friends. It's true, true friends are the best assets of one's life. Without feeling reserved and talking to others will not only gain you new friends, but also bring you more communication skills, new experiences and knowledge. Man is  a social animal and he can't live without communicating with one another. So, try to get at least one new friend every month. Finding new friends and keeping friendly relationships with many, can not only help you to forget many unpleasant things, but also provide help to your career achieving goals. We can't predict how and when a friend can be helpful to us. Also, experiences of your friends can help you in resolving your own problems in a simple way.
6. Be a good listener: To be a good friend, learn to be a good listener first. Give others more opportunity to say and express their views. Through your body language, make him believe that you are also interested in his talk. It will really help in the growth of the relationship.
Office is not like home
You reached your office. Definitely, office is not like your home and every one will be striving themselves to reach the top. Hence you may have both friends and enemies. You may not like all persons in your office. Yet you have to share a common space with them till every evening. If you try to follow the tips noted below,  you can overcome several negative factors.
7. Walk fast: When you walk fast with your head held high, you are bringing in yourself more confidence to do all things. Also, it helps you to do tasks fast and deprive yourself from unnecessary thoughts. It also helps you to get good impression and more attention from others.
8. Do all things promptly: First, when you reach office, clean your desk top and neatly place all its belongings in an orderly manner. It will help you to search your files more easily and thus saves your time and keep your mood fresh. You can adopt this habit in your home also, which will save you at least one hour daily.
9. Prepare a timetable:  First find yourself which is your best productivity time. Then only prepare the timetable. Keep your best productivity time to do difficult tasks and simple tasks must be added to the time when you are less active. It helps you to perform better and prevent you from becoming idle or loosing interest in doing the task.
10. Prepare a list: Prepare a things-to-do list every day assigning which tasks should be done on the same day. Once it is done, strike off that particular item from the list. It will help you to concentrate more on incomplete tasks and prompts you to do them more fast.
11. Draw deadlines: For each task, you should assign the time period needed to complete it. It will help you to calculate yourself, how much time will it need to complete whole tasks. It also encourages you to complete that task in the assigned time. If can't complete it within the deadline, if possible, postpone it to next day and take the next task and try to complete it in the self assigned time period.
12. Do the unpleasant task today itself: Due to lack of interest, very often, you might postpone some tasks to do later. Prepare a list of them and decide to do them one by one every day. It will not only help you in lessening the burden day by day but also bring you happiness automatically.
13. Feel passion towards the job: We can complete a task only if we find interest in it. Make your job a passion, not a problem. It can be attained by your positive attitude towards your job which can bring you more successful moments in the distant future.
14. If an unpleasant task has to done at any cost: First mentally prepare yourself and tell your boss that you are not willing to commit that task. You should also be able to give him suitable reasons for your quit. Yet, if your boss ask you to handle that task, accept it. Then divide the task into different modules and do the difficult part in your best productivity time. When the difficult module is done, you will surely find interest to complete the remaining modules also. 
15. Be grateful always: Be always keen in expressing your gratefulness by saying 'Thank you' or doing something in return. It will give your mind more positiveness.
16. Be creative: A usual thing can also be made unusual with your creativity. It will bring you freshness to your life and keeps you updated always. You can bring creativity to both your daily jobs and surprise gifts to your family members.
17. Change according to time: Time never stands still and it goes on changing. To be alive in the lively world, one should be able to adjust with new trends and new pieces of knowledge. Try to implement new techniques in your work rather than sticking on to old methods. It will help you to become successful and thus more happiness automatically brought into your life.
18. Take risk: We can't enjoy life without taking risk. Someone may be at his best in the area where he is comfortable with less risk. But it will not help in attaining more career heights. Also, repeating the same task will gradually make him feel less interest in job and bringing frustrations to life. Take risk and go for every opportunity you get. You will get both success and happiness in return.
19. Aim high: Aim for stars. Then only you reach mountain top. Always attempt. Never look for the result. It will help you to approach big aims with less expectations and thus helps you to reach the top. Never think too much or fear the defeat. Also, make a clear plan before you attempt.
20. Make a chart for aims: Always dream with eyes open and the focus should be about your future goals. Always dream about achievable tasks according to your ability. Clearly note them, its time frame and persons to meet to achieve it. It will help you to reach your goal more easily.
21. Make mistakes a lesson: If failures in your life fails you, you can't strive to start again with a new strategy. So, forget the past, clearly understand what mistakes proved wrong and move forward by making those experiences a positive energy. If you loose some money in a business, think that you have spend that money to study new things about that game.
22. Appreciate: Some people hesitate to appreciate others for their success due to jealousy burning inside the mind. If you see a co-worker gets some success, congratulate him with open heart, noting each and every point of his achievement. It will make your mind feel more free and open. Also try to be cool in office and maintain a friendly relationship with all.
23. Take deep breaths: Suppose you feel angry with someone at office. Just leave that place and take long breaths in solitude. Do it 3 or 4 times closing your eyes. You will feel relaxed.
24. Find some heroes to get inspired:  A success manager may not be success in his family life. So, try to find more personalities so that you can get inspirations from many. Follow their good qualities only.
25. Learn to say 'sorry': Mistakes are human and hence you should be able to accept them and say sorry. By doing this, you are erasing many of the tensions of your life and will surely get more care and love from others. But, saying sorry should be from the bottom of the heart. Otherwise it will only annoy you later.

Boss and You
Many people think that boss is his no.1 enemy. This approach itself can bring many negative things to you. It will help only in finding his faults rather than the good qualities of your boss.To solve such problems, I am giving you a few tips.
26. Your boss can't discourage you: It is only you, not others who can make you feel down. So feel self respect and confidence. Never allow anyone, even boss to hurt your feelings. Also, if you can't do an assigned task, be bold enough to say it to him rather than completing it in a discomfort way, if possible.
27. Appreciate yourself: When you achieve your target or complete a given task, try to appreciate yourself. Never expect it to get from boss. He may not always appreciate you. Even if he didn't notice it, don't feel bad and loose its happiness thinking about the reason. Instead, share your happiness with your family with a shopping or a small visit to a friend.
28. Never spend time for gossips: It will never give you anything except loss of some precious time that may be used in a better way. We can't believe anyone by 100%. So such gossips may return to you as an arrow from a bow. Never spend time to hear bad things about boss.
Back to home.
You are coming back to home after a long period of hard work, tensions and travelling. So, even a small unpleasant thing can cause great waves in you, even though not intentionally. This may cause your mood go off. If some tips are observed, it can bring great changes in you.

29. Forget office: Never take your office to home, even your office files. Spend some time with your family members. Have dinner together. Never spend too much time on social networks or on mobile phone.
30. Fixed time to view TV: We are just viewers in front of this idiot box, just seeing others' lives forgetting ours. Never miss to see your life while interested in others'. This may cause indifferences between the couples. So, fix correct time schedule to spend before TV or computer.
31. Be a child: Be a child before your family. It will increase the bond between the family members and give great fun to you. Do some mischief activities to see happiness on everyone's face. It will keep your mind free of tensions.
32. Learn to smile:  Laugh as much as you can. It will open before you, new doors of happiness. In office also, try to mingle with others with a small smile in your face. It will only gain you more friends.
33. Give up something for the happiness of your loved ones: Even if you are right, admit that you are wrong. It will only bring happiness to your life. Never think that  you are always right. Admit your faults also.
34. Forget small mistakes: Life will go forward smooth only if we are able to forgive others' mistakes. If we always find time to find faults, you can neither love nor be happy. Always understand that no man is perfect and everyone can make mistakes. While talking, never make remember past unpleasant things and mistakes. It will only end up in a quarrel and lot of tensions. Past is always a past. Never drag it to your future.
35. Never compare: Never compare your family life with neighbours or friends. It is a perspective which may not be always true . Each one live their life according to their living condition and it would really be a foolish idea to arrive at  a wrong conclusion after comparing yourself with others. Live your life with your own principles and ideas and it should never be a replica of some another.
36. Your time: Spend at least 10 minutes for you, everyday. Be alone in a silent place, avoid TV, news paper and mobile and your mind must be free of thoughts. Blank mind for 10 minutes can be a great relaxation tool for you.
37. Increase your perspective: When your life fills with tears look into others' lives. We may identify that there are many people in the world who are more unhappy than others. Some don't even have food to eat or a shelter to live. It will make you feel better. After that, try to see life of others, whom you believe to be better than yours. Find, what things make their life happy. Accept their positive rules to your life after proper knowledge and thinking whether it can be implemented partially or wholly. It can bring good changes to your life.
38. Be simple: Take all things simple. Instead of thinking too much about the problem look forward to find methods to solve it. It will help you from becoming more panic.
Friendships
Really, good relations is a great gift  and there are many advantages of having good friends, which pages and pages of a book can't explain it completely. Yet, I will try to give you some good tips of friendship.
39. Keep relations: Value of a good friend cannot be measured, it can only be treasured. So keep good relations. It will surely help you in the time of a need. But you should be cautious against bad relationships. Never bring any bad habits to your life along with them.
40. Go to functions: Try to attend marriage of a friend or go to a birthday party. A relaxed mood, away from office, in a mist of dearest ones will provide you only with positive energy. Also, it will help you in keeping social relations and may find you, your old friends. Never miss any invited functions.
41. Ask opinion: If you are not able to reach a conclusion, you can ask opinion of your good friends. But, it is up to you to take the ultimate decision. Friends can often guide you.
42. Give a ring to your friend: When you are free, just call an old friend and talk for 5 minutes. It will bring you old good memories and keep that relationship green.
43. Keep those who comforts you: Friends are of two types- sincere and hai-bye ones. Keep those close to your heart who feels happy with your success and may forward you with a helping hand if he can.
44. Neglect those with negative feelings: You may meet some unsure persons who always thinks negative and try to discourage people who aim high. Carefully avoid such people while doing an important task. Never ask opinion from such people.
45. 10% savings: Your income may be large or small. But try to save at least 10% from your savings every month for your future use. It will help you with a large sum when you are in want of money and prevent you from taking loans.
46. Never stop your studies: Knowledge is like a vast ocean. You can learn anything - to make a new recipe, a new course or even about a new business. It will help your brain from becoming idle and will you new ideas for sure.
47. Believe your children: Always listen to your child and believe what he want to say. Then only, he will make you a good friend and open his mind to you further also.
48. Talk to yourself: Actually, our mind is our best friend. So, talking to ourselves can bring many good things. You can express yourself as a whole and it  helps you to relieve many tensions. But never bring bad things to mind that can give you negative energy.
49. Teach children to take decisions: Most parents make choices for the children while going to a shopping mall or textile shop. Instead ask them to select a toy or ordering a menu in hotel. It will help children to make decisions in early life itself.

And now, last but not the least one. Just keep a diary or book with you. When you feel upset over something, sit alone and write whatever you want to write. It will gradually help you in reducing the tension. Then, tore the paper to pieces, without reading it . Your worries will be vanishing along with those small pieces of paper.