What we can do for stop rape cases, that increasing day by day?

@Kalyani,

You have profiled the psychology of a rape victim with great feelings.I agree that it has its roots in the way we bring them up in life.

Kalyani- You have correctly stated that the girls are made to feel that their bodies must be kept pure at all times and they are not given necessary lessons in self esteem and self respect. I may add that on the other hand boys are not bothered about purity of their bodies and when they seduce and 'get' a girl's body, they feel like conqueror. All right thinking men and women should raise their voice and fight against this double standard. There is no reason why a girl fails mental agony and boy is proud of the same action.

Apart from the girl being taught a bit of martial arts and the rare imprisonments for the rapist, the rapist also should be humiliated in front of public.

One instance long ago, a boy raped a girl and as a punishmnet he got a hole drilled on his ear!

All crimes can be stopped only if the punishment is model and severe.

We have grown to be a soft state both externally and internally.Even criminals who are put behind the bars continue to operate their criminal activities from the jail!!!

Nice friend so If we give hang to rapist then it will be right decision or its wrong......

Santosh- By giving capital punishment to the rape offender, you will only strengthen the notion that rape is so big an offence that the victim has lost everything. I think that rape should be equated to grievous hurt. The punishment for rape should be same as for causing grievous hurt to some body.

By raising the quantum of punishment, you will simply endorse the current social value that gives paramount importance to female virginity. what is the use of hanging rape offender if the victim is to face life long trauma and blemish.

[quote]gulshan kumar ajmani wrote Santosh- By giving capital punishment to the rape offender, you will only strengthen the notion that rape is so big an offence that the victim has lost everything. I think that rape should be equated to grievous hurt. The punishment for rape should be same as for causing grievous hurt to some body.

By raising the quantum of punishment, you will simply endorse the current social value that gives paramount importance to female virginity. what is the use of hanging rape offender if the victim is to face life long trauma and blemish.[/quote]

In a way, you right Gulshan, that by raising the quantum of punishment we would be further endorsing the importance of female virginity! the punishment should be such that it should deter the others from perpetrating similar crimes. Also the fact that psychology of the girls themselves need to be changed.

I remember having read an interview with a Swedish psychiatrist, I forget her name but she has been working as counselor for rape victims for most of her life. She has been telling all the women she counseled that if they CANNOT, in any way whatsoever avoid being raped, they might as well enjoy the sex act involved. Horrfying it may seem to us, there is some logic in that this will not further degrade the girl in her own eyes!

That is quite an interesting take on the subject.But then attaching to much weightage what particular counselor says in relation to a particular country would not be very logical.

I agree with all that girls should changed in attitude regarding this crime and some defence mechnisms such as martials arts should be learn. But all girls can not do...in case of blind girl or minor girl what is your answer. The weak points is one can not see(blind girl) and another one is ignorant. Most of the cases report in the recent time are minor girls.Is there any way to give them protection from this crime?

Also i think women who have adopted night life are more prone to this crime.

Rajni K- You have raised the problem of blind and minor girls. We are discussing the problem of normal girls. The blind and infirm need extra support and care. I think the punishment for crimes against the handicapped and infirm must be very strict.

The women who have adopted night jobs are also more prone to risk. There should be special protection for such women.

However, the main issue is changing double standards.

Kalyani- I am happy you have appreciated my viewpoint. The interview with Swedish psychiatrist is also very apt. I remember a story about a psychopath who would take pleasure in raping girls. One girl submitted to him saying she really loved his manliness and wanted him. The psychopath was turned off and could not even touch her. He would get no pleasure if the girl willingly submitted.

I remember a meeting organized by a social organization in Agra. a police officer told the audience that nobody dares to rape a Jean clad bold girl.

@Good morning guys!!, thanks Gulshan

@Chinmoy, this matter is not relevant to any particular country as such. The psychology of the perpetrator is the same everywhere, only the color of skin and the language they speak change. The rapist usually has some kind of inferiority complex, some kind of insecurity and is trying to establish himself as a conqueror or a superior person by inflicting humiliation and pain on the victims. Hence her counsel does hold some logic that is relevant!

I know that we are discussing about the how to stop the crime.
And whether the crime is done on normal or blind women, the pain is same and crime is crime.

But what i want to say is normal girls can somehow manage from escaping by using self defence as stated by other members.But the special cases cannt react like normal girls. So, i think with severe punishement as stated by you, is there any other way such girls can protect themselves if security is not availble for them?

I agree with your view too. But most of the cases reported now-a-days are on minors.

The blind girls have physical strength and intelligence like other girls. If they can do other things, they can also fight the offender. They can also shout and scare the offender. The blind girl will definitely get more sympathy from people than normal girls.
The best remedy for all girls- blind, handicapped or normal- is to avoid meeting any one at lonely places. It is better to use public transport and not choose night hours or lonely streets for travel. If necessary, they should move in group. However, this is a matter of security and even men, particularly the aged have to take preventive steps.

Most of the rapist are psychologically ill, so proper counselling to those who gets provoked by simple acts, or by seeing opposite sex is must.

There is not an iota of a doubt that the root lies very deep inside the mind and it should be dubbed as a psychological,if not psychiatric disorder.By purely thinking in terms of capital punishment would not make the problem vanish away!

The in sufficient and in efficient sex education plays a roll here.I think providing this in apt and correct way will reduce the crimes like this.

@Abid, your statement is very correct!! Proper and scientific sex education will definitely play a major role in avoiding such incidents! What is happening now is that the youth are getting exposed to lot of pornographic stuff in TV, internet, magazines etc and they definitely want to try out sex for themselves. When they don't find an obliging sex partner, they force it upon a hapless victim. Years ago, there was an interesting survey carried out worldwide which showed that Denmark and a few other Scandinavian countries where pornography and access to sex material was legal, the crime rate was the lowest; whereas the countries where it was illegal, including India, the crime rate was much high! Especially in the recent years, India has become more violent, including such outrages carried out on foreign women tourists!

Kalyani- You have aptly referred to pornographic material on internet, TV and books, which affects the youth. But I wish to point out that the girls/ young women are also exposed to the same material. Then why they do not force sex on boys and why they are only victims. The underlying idea is that there is gender equality and double standards.

While preventive measures to prevent rape are definitely required, bringing about gender equality and putting an end to double standards for men and women is of paramount importance.

I may make one suggestion. Let a group of girls join to tease boys for one week for a change. Then see what happens. The boys will forget eve teasing.