Is it right to have expectations from people close to you ?

Expectations are seen in every relationship and this can easily lead to over expectation and also possessiveness which is an extension of it.All these feelings can easily get out of hand...

Overall,we should leave the expectations and should live by our own. If this is so then why relations are made...just to unite and then separate.

But without expectation no one can live. Every one will have some expectations on others. that is natural thing.

It is best not to have expectations. Depend on yourself. When you need some help from others never depend on a single person or neighbor. Some neighbor or friend may fail but not all.

If one could live without having expectations from anyone it is really good,at least one can try to lead life without depending on others for every little thing...

If one could live without having expectations from anyone it is really good,at least one can try to lead life without depending on others for every little thing...

What you may not do with your own efforts is always available at a price. It is best to pay for things and services and not to nourish expectations.

Moreover, if you have no expectations from others, they will also have none from you. Thus you will have no tension.

I think we should have expectations from our self rather than from others. Because there is no guarantee of the fulfillment of expectations done from others but we can definitely fulfill our own expectations thus making our life more easier and better.

Ideally one should not expect but life is as it is! Consciously or subconsciously such expectations always underline our actions!

Is this justified? It is only natural that people have some expectations from others close to them.But where does one draw the line? When it goes beyond a certain limit ,this can lead to a lot of unhappiness and the relationship can suffer...

Yes this is right every person has some boundary and they help you till that boundary and after that they are not able to help you..........Good thing is that become self dependent.......................

Ideally one should not expect but life is as it is! Consciously or subconsciously such expectations always underline our actions!

True!! And the expectations are always going to be there, wrong or right, they will not go away even though we may say so. Also, I feel there is no harm in keeping expectations from people you love, because that is expected and is also a part of your mutual bonding. Without them, there won't be much to keep the relationship intact! Because when there is expectations, people work hard at meeting them and in a way, keeping the relationship going.

Is this justified? It is only natural that people have some expectations from others close to them.But where does one draw the line? When it goes beyond a certain limit ,this can lead to a lot of unhappiness and the relationship can suffer...

Yes this is right every person has some boundary and they help you till that boundary and after that they are not able to help you..........Good thing is that become self dependent.......................

This also is true, one must know where to draw a line and not cross the boundary!

Is this justified? It is only natural that people have some expectations from others close to them.But where does one draw the line? When it goes beyond a certain limit ,this can lead to a lot of unhappiness and the relationship can suffer...

Yes this is right every person has some boundary and they help you till that boundary and after that they are not able to help you..........Good thing is that become self dependent.......................

This also is true, one must know where to draw a line and not cross the boundary!

To know the line of boundary person must be sincere and intelligent.Fool can always cross that line................

Is this justified? It is only natural that people have some expectations from others close to them.But where does one draw the line? When it goes beyond a certain limit ,this can lead to a lot of unhappiness and the relationship can suffer...

Yes this is right every person has some boundary and they help you till that boundary and after that they are not able to help you..........Good thing is that become self dependent.......................

This also is true, one must know where to draw a line and not cross the boundary!

To know the line of boundary person must be sincere and intelligent.Fool can always cross that line................

Not just fools, but people with good common sense also tend to cross a line many times!!

To be honest enough there is nothing wrong in harboring expectations as these are motivators. Now the question is how pragmatic and fair are these expectation. A father or mother expecting mental and physical support from their well-settled sons and daughters is perfectly legitimate in doing so!

To be honest enough there is nothing wrong in harboring expectations as these are motivators. Now the question is how pragmatic and fair are these expectation. A father or mother expecting mental and physical support from their well-settled sons and daughters is perfectly legitimate in doing so!

True true true!! Perfectly well said!!

To be honest enough there is nothing wrong in harboring expectations as these are motivators. Now the question is how pragmatic and fair are these expectation. A father or mother expecting mental and physical support from their well-settled sons and daughters is perfectly legitimate in doing so!

True true true!! Perfectly well said!!

What I have observed is that people making this statement are those who have very bitter experiences in fair exchanges. For example,once when one of my close friends behaved in a weird fashion,I resolved not to harbor any expectation - even decent conduct from any! Then I had a hearty laugh over all of it to expect it again!!
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To be honest enough there is nothing wrong in harboring expectations as these are motivators. Now the question is how pragmatic and fair are these expectation. A father or mother expecting mental and physical support from their well-settled sons and daughters is perfectly legitimate in doing so!

True true true!! Perfectly well said!!

What I have observed is that people making this statement are those who have very bitter experiences in fair exchanges. For example,once when one of my close friends behaved in a weird fashion,I resolved not to harbor any expectation - even decent conduct from any! Then I had a hearty laugh over all of it to expect it again!!
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That is so true!! With loved ones at least, the expectations never cease!

Is this justified? It is only natural that people have some expectations from others close to them.But where does one draw the line? When it goes beyond a certain limit ,this can lead to a lot of unhappiness and the relationship can suffer...

Yes this is right every person has some boundary and they help you till that boundary and after that they are not able to help you..........Good thing is that become self dependent.......................

This also is true, one must know where to draw a line and not cross the boundary!

To know the line of boundary person must be sincere and intelligent.Fool can always cross that line................

Not just fools, but people with good common sense also tend to cross a line many times!!

if they cross that line we cannot say that person with good sense.......

Is this justified? It is only natural that people have some expectations from others close to them.But where does one draw the line? When it goes beyond a certain limit ,this can lead to a lot of unhappiness and the relationship can suffer...

Yes this is right every person has some boundary and they help you till that boundary and after that they are not able to help you..........Good thing is that become self dependent.......................

This also is true, one must know where to draw a line and not cross the boundary!

To know the line of boundary person must be sincere and intelligent.Fool can always cross that line................

Not just fools, but people with good common sense also tend to cross a line many times!!

if they cross that line we cannot say that person with good sense.......

Not with expectations, I don't think it would be the right thing to say. Many times, the expectations are too simple and fair and yet the person upon whom those rest may feel burdened by them. So it is not related to good sense at least ALL TIMES!

Expect some unexpected things from people close to you. :lol: :dry: :dry: :woohoo: :woohoo:

we often say to ourselves and others also that not to expect anything from anyone howsoever close he/she might be but actually some or the other time we do start expecting as because of human tendency.