Why is a widow treated badly while a widower can remarry etc; in Hindu society?

This is because it has become a culture. Its not that it is a problem with only one particular religion, but more or less it is been faced by many other religions in India.

Oh! I did not know that other religions also did the same thing.

I do not think this is a big issue any more. Women can re-marry if they wish so. But most of the women find it a problem due to insecurity especially for their kids. And to make the things worst women themselves are the biggest enemies of women in Indian society.

we cant change the past, neither we can escape from our culture. the only thing we can do is refine old practices and delete wrong cultural practices by not following them.

Hindu religion originated in India and is in way affected by what Muslim or christian follow. Traditionally, Hindu women are always tied to male- father, husband or son. Chanakya said that a woman should never be independent.

I am against double standard in Hindu religion. There is restriction even on wearing good clothes and food on widows. The condition of Bengali widows in Vrindavan (Mathura)is pathetic. Once, the widows were killed by burning (Sati) with dead husband's body. Raja Ram Mohan Roy performed Herculean job of ending Sati.

Women need be economically self dependent and fight against all such injustice. As the men are dominant gender and bread winner, they enjoy higher social status. This needs be changed.

Unless we are prepared to make drastic changes in our thinking and do them fast there is no chance in uplifting the situation of women in this country although we talk a lot.

Educating and making women economically independent can really make a change in today's status of the women.

Educating and making women economically independent can really make a change in today's status of the women.

Yes every one is trying to do that and they are going up as well, one can see it the way women situation is taking a new dimension in this country.

sunilji lets support your post with an example, our president of india

This is due to our society and our being narrow mindedness.People don't see widows the way a woman should be.People don't understand if her husband died its not due to her but its due to God's wish. :)

But now the things are changing a bit as now people are not that much cruel to a widow.I can relate an example: In my company there was a male who died due to illness leaving behind her wife and 2 kids of age 6 months and 2 year our company made an attempt to help his wife and gave a job to her in the organistaion and she since then is working here from last 15 years.Even our company has fixed a pension for her husband.And now she has been living happily. :)

But in this modern society , a widow and widower are been treated equally. They even have a right to get marry again. Only some back ward communities are following all those waste customs

But in this modern society , a widow and widower are been treated equally. They even have a right to get marry again. Only some back ward communities are following all those waste customs

Yes in villages they are not treated well but in cities they are treated almost equally and no body cares if a woman is widow or not. :)

really those hand full of back ward community sick people keeps on pulling our country from becoming a developed country.

Educating and making women economically independent can really make a change in today's status of the women.

I couldn't agree more. It is always the sufferer who can take steps for removing injustice. Women alone can fight against gender injustice. For this, they must strengthen themselves. Economic self dependence is essential for women empowerment.

And they are taking every step possible to improve their position despite all the hurdles they face. Women are working double harder than their male counterparts in every field.

[quote]Why is a widow treated badly while a widower can remarry etc; in Hindu society?[/quote]
Now situation is changing and women also re marring now.

Re marring is not a problem for a widow, its the social consequences that makes the problem.

In fact this is women themselves who find it difficult to cope with new situations besides their personal problems in another marriage. Otherwise this is no big issue these days.

This is just the belief who created to insult them. I dont agree with this one.

But this is not followed in men.

This is just the belief who created to insult them. I dont agree with this one.

But this is not followed in men.

Make it a little clear Sasi, what is that you don't agree with. Who insults women and what is your belief?