Teezon and swing- cradles traditions
This was Teezon on Sunday the 22 July the traditional festival for ladies in some parts of country. This is a festival of joy for most ladies but costs dearly to men as the demands come in thick and fast. I got away easy comparatively as I spent only INR 4k, a sari did the trick for me. Let me tell you the way most ladies celebrate it. They paint their hands and feet with henna the previous night, although this is an old style but modern women go to professionals sitting on either the roadsides or beauty parlors. They spend some real good money for preparing for the big day.
Swings on trees in parks
Teezon, celebrated mostly on swings on big trees singing songs with friends in parks is the main attraction of the day after the usual fast and worshiping in traditional way. As trees disappearing fast from the cities, the swings mostly have been limited to personal gardens or balconies but every one enjoys them the same old style. While women do it for fun and joy, children find this very interesting and become the part of the festival. Swings for home purpose are available in many designs and styles according to size of space and pocket.
Hanging swings
As our population is increasing and space for parks and playing fields are reducing in city areas women are finding it tough to celebrate this wonderful traditional festival in its original style. Therefore, there is no choice but to go for some makeshift arrangements. That is the only way to keep the old traditions and mood to celebrate this festival as lively as they can. They have found their alternatives in different swings, which are available in the market according to their need and demand.
Makeshift swing - Detachable
This swing would take you back to olden days when ladies used to have a full-fledged go swings in parks where swings were available at trees with women swinging with Sawan songs for hours together amid the drizzle. Hat was real fun - so is this swing, you can hang it anywhere. This swing could be a better choice for small flats as this is a lightweight, consumes very little space and you can adjust it according to your choice. You find these in different sizes and designs to select from, according to your choice.
Makeshift swings – comfy
This one is a little bigger than others and would serve the purpose if your house is spacious and better still if have lobby big enough to accommodate it. Most people with big gardens have these there with covered shades. A big Barandah or terrace would be just fine to have one such swing to have all the fun. Managing them or shifting them is not easy because they have enough weight but if you have space, there is nothing better then these. I have seen such swings in big houses with all kind of decoration including fancy cushions etc.
Makeshift swings – knitted
These knitted swings made of rope or soft polyester fabric are most easy to fix and use. Most people use knitted swings for outings and picnic because these are easy to fold. Such swings are also available in different size, colors and price range. Take your pick
Makeshift swings – Standing
Standing swings are the choice of the day today because these are available in different shapes, designs, colors and price range. These are easy to fix because you can easily fix them any where in your balcony, lawn or garden. Most manufacturers are using wrought iron for framework because it is light and easy to carry. The swing part is mainly comprises cane or knitted material. People today are going such designer swings according to their choice. These swings are available in branded or non-branded verities according to your budget.
Complications in married life
Monty and Rita are both working as software engineers in big multinational companies at senior management posts with high salary and living standard. They are married for almost two years after seeing each other for more than eight months with outings almost every day after working hours. However, their relations codes seem to be changing a little since the virus of usual social networking has entered in to their life. The main issue of their strained relation is nothing else but the passwords of their different online accounts. Rita is suspicious about Monty’s affairs and wants all his passwords.
Actually Rita is not satisfied the way Monty is treating her the way he used to treat her until recently, which made Rita suspicious as she wanted Monty to share every detail of his life as he used to share it before and after marriage for an year or so. Monty says that the workload has changed the situation and since he is getting lesser time because he has been promoted and given added responsibilities, he is not having enough time to share small details with Rita, which, Rita is finding otherwise and that prompted her to ask about passwords of Monty’s Facebook and Orkut etc.
This has become a common story
I know there is nothing serious and Monty is having no affair that he should hide from Rita. Nevertheless, the main problem that has become common to make couples worried and resulting in strained relations and even separations, is the use of prolonged use of social networking sites. They open their laptops as soon as they find a few minutes to spare in place of spending some quality time with each other.
Rita is not comfortable with Monty’s casual approach the way he is not sharing his password wit Rita. Rita even accused him on his face that he was having an affair with some one else. Monty tried to laugh her out taking it casually but Rita was keen to now his password in any case to see his accounts for herself. Monty wasn’t feeling sharing his passwords although he had nothing to hide but he thought he had his own life and right of privacy.
I am one who has a firm trust in sharing secrets of partners without any hitch. I know passwords of my wife’s accounts and she knows mine although we never interfere or open each other accounts unless there is a serious need or with permission while unavoidable due to circumstances. Some times, we must open each other’s account to share some information with each other’s friends who are known to us but not in our common list.
These are small things on the face value but matter much in the end; these small shares increase our confidence level. Although this is not reasonable but many people check emails and other networking accounts of their partners just to make sure that there is nothing wrong. Some of them find it out that their spouses are cross checking them because accounts settings can show you the visitors on your accounts. This may lead to big and complicated quarrel and strained relations in almost twenty-five percent cases due to misunderstanding from either side.
Marriage is all about trust
What I feel is that marriage is a trust where you have to have faith on your partner without a question unless proved otherwise. If every small thing would make you suspicious and lead to quarrel then this relation won’t last long and ultimately push you to separation. You may regret later but then it would be too late, because this is your own baby whom you brought to this word.
Actually, our marriage is a wonderful forte that is based on the foundation of our trust and if trust is missing from the relation, there is no way the dream palace we are staying in happily would remain intact. There is no need of asking passwords unless your partner is willing to share them with you as per his/her own choice. If any of them have a secret to keep, let them do it. If you trust your partner, this would make no big difference even if you find it out. My take is on present and future, past is not my way. I want to remain faithful forever and have my full trust in my partner. Therefore passwords make no differences.
Married life is different
Marriage is all about confidence and trust in each other and nothing can shake it. Marriage is like perfect bonding, adhesive that keeps relations glued to perfection. If you ever find that glue being diluted or trust giving way to doubts your life would never be same therefore make sure that you do trust your partner for every small thing that is taking place around. There are many housewives who are well educated and techno savvy and they know how to use modern gadgets and online sites to keep connected. Trust me they know how to handle online bullies as well.
They mostly use these sites to keep in touch with relatives, friends and to know the world better. They are curious to learn about newer going-on in different fields. It is true about their male counterparts as well; they are busy with their friends, male or female from their college time to previous companies. This does not mean that if they contacted with their old classmates or ex-coworkers, they did any thing wrong. There is nothing to worry about such small matters.
Transparency is all right
I know transparency is a wonderful ingredient of married life but up to a limit. Some times you may hit your partner’s feeling hard being to transparent. Suppose you had a relation before marriage and you want to share it with your spouse that is perfectly all right, d it, by all means. However do you really need to go in graphic details of how you spent those magic moments while you two were alone for a few hours in a room? I am more than sure that sharing those moments would lead you to define trouble beyond your imaginations. That is your past, keep it locked. Look forward.
You can share your present with your spouse without any hitch as far as your comfort level allows you to but I don’t think mere passwords are that big of criteria that would strain your relations. Every one needs his or her space and privacy and only when we become too possessive such things may take place. What I feel that more we become possessive more pain it gives therefore, this is must to have some breathing space. This is best to know each other best without going too deep; there is so much to share apart your passwords. As the saying goes ‘leave them to themselves despite going deep in each other’. That is one of the most wonderful feelings in the world about knowing every thing despite knowing nothing that gives you pain.
We can stay like friends
Oh that is wonderful a friend in your spouse, we share most of our secrets with our true friends but no passwords please. We can treat our spouses like our friends with whom we share a lot. Although husbands and wives do not fall in the same category as the friends do after a certain limit but as far passwords are concerned we can always keep them to ourselves unless not must.
You see this is such a fast life that is making our life so complicated with so many other problems those have no end. We always find a new problem taking shape before we are through with the previous one. There is another simple way to sort out problems in between husband and wife. A simple communication can straighten most matters without complications taking deeper roots. Communication definitely enhances your comfort level and every thing becomes so smooth.
Sit together and sort it out
The best way to sort out the problems in between husband and wife is to sit together and share your views, I am sure you would reach to a definite conclusion for yourself without much of a problem. If you have been doing so lately, you must have found it out that there was nothing easier than this while solving a problem. Moreover, yes, the technology may help you in this as well; try to communicate with your spouse on phone, Facebook or SkyP if you are too busy in your work places.
If there is love in between you two and if you are going to share every little detail with each other there is no way small problems like those that passwords are going to be any problems in between you two. Lear to keep your marriage going well because this is one relation that would make you happy whole of your life Most of the pairs today are too tensed on smaller things without thinking about the consequences of their misdoings, which can be sorted out with very little efforts.
Just give it another thought; if you would find such small matters so big then how are you going to enjoy bigger things in your life? How are you going to keep the promise that you did while tide the sacred knout. Although this is your personal choice but what I feel is that if your spouse wants your password, give it there is nothing to worry as long as you have confidence in each other. That is one of the smallest beginnings of a big relation, a very sweet one.
Please Note- Names are changed and any similarities would be per chance only.
Discounted-Sale attracts us like a magnet
I am sure every one finds it fascinating to read about those discounted sales, which take place in every city, malls and exhibitions. There are even some special markets where we can find such sales going on for round the year. Most of us especially ladies (my apologies, if any lady happens to be reading it) would jump to grab the opportunity to make it crowded affair. You only have to see the number of people attending such ‘sales’ to believe me. Being a marketing professional, I know the reality and mathematics of these sales.
The truth behind such sales
I agree that there is lot of fun shopping in such sales where every thing on sale looks so cheap and attractive. Some times the price tag shows the cost of a particular item Rs. 1999/ and they cross it with the help of a marker to make it 999/ and then they offer a 50% discount on it to make it 500/ finally. That is so amazing to see a big crowd rushing to grab the items before any one else snatches the opportunity. That is the secret of success of these kinds of sales. They never try to check the quality or defects of such items before making the payments.
I know this is lot of fun
However, are you aware that they are not selling their products for your benefit but their own, they are only cashing out on the mentality? They know the psychology of the masses that any thing on reduced price would bring public on mass scale and once they would come and see people shopping, they would not be able to stop themselves from purchasing. I have seen such sales going on forever in different expensive malls, where the rates of shops are in millions and keeping their sales going round the year is a costly affair. But once you see the quality and check their rates carefully you would know the facts immediately.
There are different kind of sales to attract people for shopping, however most ‘sales’ either are seasonal or the ones going on for ever in fixed shopping complexes. The sales, which are seasonal mostly in particular festival times when companies offer discount to clear their dead stocks or defected pieces to get rid of such items and cash out their dead money, these are all right as people with lesser money can go out and shop for almost throwaway prices although quality would not be all that good. They also sale products those have lost the seasonal attraction, the material useful for other season. They generally go for the sales of woolen dresses in summers and cotton dresses in winters.
The other kind of ‘sale’ that goes on forever is the one where one has to be careful because that is nothing but manipulation. They have too high-tagged rates to reduce to make them look as genuine besides the brand names they use are also similar to big brands to make customers fall easy prey. One has to be very careful to check every point very carefully as some of them even use their own staff as customer to make you believe that the sale is real.
Be very careful with ‘up-to’ signboards
You must have seen display boards showing ‘discount up to 50%’, here comes the catch. When you enter in to the shop and pick out on an item to see its price tag that shows the discount of 15 to 20% and when you enquire about it they would show you the different counters where different discounts would be offered. The discounts offered on items @50% are in fact not worth at even 90%. But most people come out buying some thing or other just for the sake of shopping even if the cost of those items are in fact higher than their actual price in the market.
This is not wise to shop on weekends, as these are extra crowded days and your choice become limited to leftovers. Never purchase just because you think they are offering it cheaper but go for the items, which you find useful and worth. Check the quality very carefully as these items maybe defected at most of the times. I am sure you would be careful about the size because making a compromise just because you are saving a few bucks is not wise. Finally avoid out of fashion, out of size, defective and fake brands just because they are offering reduced prices in the name of sales.
Money is the need of every person. Today’s topic is about money. Why people are mad to make money is money matter in every place, emotions doesn’t matter?
Yes, I am agreed that money is the first need of every person. But making money by doing wrong thing it is really a bad thing we have to talk about and worry about. In India like country there are many people who are making money by different right ways as well as wrong ways. India is still developing country because the level of corruption is very high. Approximately every person is corrupted. Our country is the one of the country where discrimination is in very high level. Person who is developing his or her financial status it doesn’t matter what it related to it may be the promotion, it may be the higher salary or anything no one is happy to see them improving his/her status.
The biggest problem in our country is corruption and it also has affect on our education system. The people who have good knowledge about work are not appointed as teacher/ lecturer and all the positions are filled by the help of approach of any big leader like chief minister of that state and if the person who is appointed in an educational organization having good knowledge than that person is not taking actively participation giving knowledge to students. He is just working as a teacher and taking his charges as his/her salary. Today’s teachers do not teach in the colleges and schools the reason behind this is they all open their tuition institute and make money extra money by taking the tuition classes. A good teacher job is to provide education but in our country every one is mad for making money. They don’t even see how low/middle class people will arrange the fees of different courses as well as the tuition of the different subject of the same course. Every one is doing fraud to make money and if there is someone who is not interested in making money by doing wrong work than the head of that person will force him/her to do that. People doing fraud with people they take charges and do not provide the services.
On internet there are many websites which are based on providing job at home and they take charges to provide that jobs. But when you paid them you just find that your work is to refer others and they give a little amount for this work and when a people come to know this is all fraud and they fed up referring other they leave that site and the owner of the site have already made the money. I have seen many fraud websites that show that we provide jobs some of are: - SMS job at home, Referral work, posting work and many more. Do not pay a single buck to these websites they are all fraud and not going to pay you anything beware from these all frauds.
This is what I found after doing so much of research that people are mad for making money. They don’t see any thing with whom they working. What will be the effect of that fraud on a person’s life positive or negative they just see money and crazy about making the money.
I should not take every advice seriously
Yes, you heard me right- I have been getting to many advices lately, some of them coming from totally strangers. I know every capable person can find a solution of his problem according to his own caliber and this is not necessary that he has a very high IQ to solve his problems.
I do not think for a moment that people who are sitting in higher places are more talented than I do. They might have used some special techniques to reach there. There could be another aspect of their being so successful- They found their own decision better than what they got from other sources.
We hesitate to commence some thing
Most of the times we hesitate to begin any new assignments thinking of failure that puzzles our mind and makes us believe that we shall not be able to complete the job. The fact is, unless we start a job with our full capacity keeping doubts in our minds the chances are that we are bound to fail because we have no confidence in ourselves. Trust me this is matter of ‘once’ only. Once you achieve your target with your knowledge, willpower and capacity to ‘do’ it, you shall never find yourself at a point where you would look behind.
You do not have to follow every one but who matters
Be sure that you do not have to follow every one just for the sake of the advices coming thick and fast, some people are good at suggestions because they have nothing better to do. You see, I am member of few open forums where I get those dozens a dime. Now if I keep following all of them, I am simply ruined. Therefore, decide what is good and bad for you and act accordingly. You shall have to convert you according to your own ability and what you think is best for yourself.
You think he knows better than you do
I know this is another big problem, which you have to face such people with big IQ and all the advices at your work place, as this is part of your job. You cannot avoid them but at the same time, you cannot accept all undesired advices lying down. That is certainly your own choice as to how you handle these advices because you are the one who shall have to face consequences. Therefore, this is an undesired advice here- Never take them if you are not convinced.
NO Problem
The best advice is ‘do not give or take advices’
Yes. This one is for free, this I read some where and noted it down to use it in one of my articles, rather decided to write a full article about it- sounds so good- ‘Do not take or give advices’ unless you want one or asked for one. Let me share a secret with you- we are not an agricultural oriented country any more but Advices oriented. Any one can offer to help you without you asking for the same. They do it without any consultation charges or a fee in lieu of that. We are too generous while it comes to advices, unlucky too.
Some times people pose too big and knowledgeable without considering your abilities just because they have a slight edge over you due to their powers that they enjoy at official level and use it as weapons to offer you advices, which they never have followed ever themselves. You must think twice and smile while alone considering that you are capable enough to sort out your problems without any trouble…. Yes, you have sorted out your problems many times big or small so, why do you need those unwanted advices coming from strangers without asking for those.
Trust me you are no lesser capable
I mean it, you are no lesser capable and knowledgeable than any one in this world when it comes to solving your problems irrespective of what some of them make you believe to show their importance. Listening to no good for nothing advices, you are loosing nothing but your valuable time and self-confidence only. Try to improve your will power, self-confidence and power to take right decisions that would create a positive energy in you. Never have doubt in your own ability that would make you a perfect decision maker all the way. You are out to win the world and you shall win over every problem.
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