Some patients do deal with problems patiently while another group may emotionally attach themselves to the problems and respond in that way. It depends on each person’s personality and it can deeply influence his character, relations and even his success in career. An attractive personality helps one person to get easy attention, love and care from his family, co-workers, friends and society. It can increase both self respect and self confidence as well. Also, the positive energy it gives can help one person to go up each step of his success journey more easily and also helps him to develop and maintain healthy relationships with everyone far and near.
For personality development
First step is to know oneself better – both the positive and negative faces of your character, your abilities and weak points. Also, you need to know what else is needed for the improvement. You should be able to identify your positive inspirations as well as criticisms to move up one step further. If you are able to correct according to the criticisms taking them as positive points, no doubt, it’s a nice step. No need to change your character to attract others. It won’t work too long as wearing a new, strange face is just temporary. But if you are a person who is not able to develop new relations, then you should think about it seriously.
One should decide, ‘which factors should I change?’. If you get frequent advices from family members, friends or even strangers, never hesitate to check if they are right. For that, a self study is needed and slowly you can develop positive changes in your character. It’s true, it’s more difficult to change the character of an adult than a child. Child’s mind is just like wax which can be moulded to any desiring shape which is not at all an easy task with an adult’s mind. Sometimes, it may take years to adopt a new style of thinking, talking, approaching a similar situation in a new way etc. So, it’s better to start from simple things by changing small habits, later taking more tasks. For a person who spends a lot of time worrying, thinking about unnecessary things, it’s better to decide, “I won’t spend more than half an hour daily for such thoughts” than determining fully, not to worry at all. When this target is achieved and your mind has adjusted the change, carry forward that decision one step further reducing that thinking hours from half hour to 15 minutes. As it’s told, ‘slow and steady wins the race’, slowly he will reach the goal. The pleasure attained by your mind at this level is a kind of satisfaction and self confidence for your mind to meet more challenges of life. Also, if you set your targets very high far from your finger tips to reach, its failure attempts may prompt you not to try at all and slowly you may move away from the tasks.
It’s oneself who decides those tasks. Yet, you can seek opinion of your life partner or friends who know you near. Ask them to examine if they are seeing improvements in your attitude. A person who is near to us can access our mind easily, even our simple improvements of our character. Also, one can seek the help of a councilor, psychiatrist, books, personality development workshops etc.
Develop better skills of communication
For any field, to remain there and to attain success communication skill is an inevitable factor. First, know the person with whom you are interacting. Show patience to hear his views, ideas and opinions. Also accept its positive facts. Give him more opportunity to talk and ask questions. Use language fitting to his communication skills and knowledge rather than showing our skills. Also confirm yourself, if your ideas are reaching him through your words and body language. That’s why it’s told body language is very important. Facial expressions, gestures, eyes, body movement, sound pulse and its variations, touch etc can play an important role in getting a good impression about you. Even a sweet smile with little or a few words can touch the other person’s heart more easily than thousand words. Even if our ideas are good, if it’s not conveyed in a good way through our body language and expressions the other person may get a bad impression about you. A simple smile or occasional nodes when he talks make him feel that you are listening and that you are interested in his talks. Also, maintain good eye contacts while talking. Directly looking into someone’s eyes can increase your self confidence level and can also leave a good impression about you.
Stepping stones to personality development
Control habits
Very often, controlling your habits can give you good results in return. Choose dress codes most suited to the occasion. Avoid bad breath and maintain hygiene. Have complete and healthy diet. Exercise regularly and have good sleep. Yoga practices can also help you. Gradually developing such good habits can deeply influence your personality giving you more positive energy and a little more discipline in your life. Nail biting, putting fingers inside the nose, scratching hair and body parts – such habits show lack of self confidence while talking to a person and should be avoided at any cost.
Be a good listener
Though you are able to talk well, if you are not giving enough room for others to talk, you need more improvement. It’s good to help others by giving them information. Yet, if you are not willing to hear what he talks, will he make you his friend? Never! Instead of talking like a radio, make it a two way telephone talk. This will help you to know his interests and carry forward the communication in a better way. Also, never interrupt while he is talking. Be patient and try to become a good listener. You can clear your doubts too, by asking him questions suited to that situation. Pre-assuming his character, less attention to his talks and remaining quiet till he stops are also bad remarks. Never serve advices and solutions before hearing problems fully. Also, never fall under sensitive emotions like anger, jealousy, anxiety and despair while he is talking. It can transmit bad impulses and make him worry too.
Spend time wise and effectively
If you are able to complete a task within the time horizon, the self confidence, satisfaction and happiness you get back is really precious. If you are able to spend your time wisely, you can complete your targets without tensions. Isen Hover principle, Parato explanation, ABC technique etc are some of the common management time management techniques. Giving more importance to emergency task modules can often help you to use your time more effectively. In between, you can do some easy and interesting tasks to avoid boring created by some less interesting tasks. Use your best efficiency time for critical tasks while lazy hours for simple and less important jobs. The feeling that, I have completed some difficult and important modules itself can give you more confidence and less worries and tensions helping you to complete the remaining ones more effectively.
Just check, where you are spending more time and work on improving corresponding functions. Also, never give your assigned jobs to others for completion. It may develop a lazy habit inside you. But if needed, you can seek help from others without hesitation. Also, keep everything in your table neat and tidy. Also, arrange things in an orderly manner giving first preference to most important things. Never misplace anything carelessly because even searching an important file can take a lot of time from your pockets without any reason.
Easy solutions to difficult problems
If you are able to foresee problems of future, you can take precautions today itself. Prevention is always better than cure. Very often, you can solve your problems scientifically. Knowing the root cause of an issue is the first step towards its solution. Thus you can determine its present situations and changes if required. For a solution, prepare a chart consisting of both positive and negative problems and analyze each of them before taking a decision. You can include suggestions of both your family members and friends. For each suggestion, think both its positive and negative consequences which form the next step. After that, most useful, less complex, less time consuming, less problematic and more practical ways should be selected. Then collect things and gather information needed for its fulfillment. Also reassure if your selected path and solutions are feasible and practical. If your answer is no, then go for the second choice in the list and repeat everything as same.
New knowledge and new acquaintance
Attain every piece of latest information. It’s the gun powder to talk before everyone with confidence. Knowledge of different subjects can help you to make relations with persons of different tastes. Also, it gives more opportunities to make more friends. In return, you can know more about different subjects and helps you dealing with persons of different cultures and life style. Communicating with successive people can give you good principles to grow further. Also, keep distance from people with negative thoughts.
Expert opinion
You can seek an expert’s help if you are not able to achieve your own kept targets to overcome negative impulses of your character. Counselor, Psychiatrist and Psychologists can offer their timely help if needed. Through personality tests, it’s easy to know one’s character and personality and it helps to clear the negative points more easily. Also, a psychologist can give good advices too. To overcome anger, anxiety, shyness, denial of criticisms etc an expert opinion can help you a lot. To keep yourself away from bad thoughts and increase your confidence level, psychotherapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy are also available now. Depression, anxiety etc may need medical aid which should
never be avoided.
Never give up self confidence
The most important factor is our self confidence. So, at any stage never lose your self confidence or self respect. Instead seeing what treasures you already have feel yourself that you are lucky. It you try to catch unachievable targets, it may result in despair and feeling that you are unlucky and that you are a less important person. Never lose your self respect at any circumstance. Be humble in your talks. Yet never feel or make others feel that you are a less important person. God has given everyone some talent. Finding them and choosing right paths at right time can help you reach your dream world if you are willing to work hard. Instead of thinking about the bad incidents and experiences of your past, better concentrate your mind to the next bright day morning and dreams to achieve.
Through this article, I have given some simple points about personality development. Hoping it will help you at least a little bit.
Indian citizens aged 60 years and above are considered senior citizens. Central and state governments provide many benefits to the senior citizen. Many of us do not know this. The awareness is not enough. Consequently, they are reluctant to use the facilities. Let us discuss the special benefits and previleges given to senior citizens. .
Court cases related to senior citizens
Priority is given to cases involving senior citizens. They are heard tand verdict delivered quickly.
Right to information Act(RTI)
If senior citized file an application under Right to Information Act, they get higher priority than others. Their application is filed and rapid action taken.
Health
However there is no priority for medical examination for senior citizen who visit the hospital. But doctor can be accessed directly without the token number. It is not practised in several private hospitals. But, in government hospital and primary health centres,there is seperate queue for senior citizens.
Government of Delhi operate a special hospital for senior citizens. There is no concession in payment bcause many diseases generally occur in old age. More profits for private hospitals come from the senior citizens. So they don't offer any consession.
Tax Saving
There is some relaxations in income tax and other taxes for senior citizens.
Bank
The public sector banks, post offices the special saving scheme is there. The name of the savings scheme is 'Senior Citizens savings scheme'. Banks are giving higher interest rates for senior citizens.
State bank provide the following services with 50% of cost
- Duplicate passbook
- Issuing bank statements
- Delivery of cheque books
- No maintenance fees
Want to know more facilities, kindly check with the nearest bank.
Telecommunications
Senior citizens can apply for a new telephone connection to the telecommunications sector. Telecommunication sector make many special arrangements for senior citizens. Priority for the complaint of senior citizens is high comparing to other fellow citizens. Telephone charges also there is a 20% of discount.
Indian Railway
Indian railway give more concessions to senior citizens. Women senior citizen get 50% consession in rail fare. Men senior citizen get 40%. In the past, it was 30% for men. But now it has increased to 40%. The minimum age for getting this facility for women is 58 years. The minimum age of getting this facility for men is 60 years.
Don't forget to take photo identity card. It is very essential for avail this facility. There is a seperate counter there for senior citizens for getting tickets, cancellation of tickets and others.
Dear senior citizens take advantage of this offers without fail. Junior fellow citizens also let them allow to get these benefits without any queries.
Airlines and State Road Transport
Air India offers 45% discount in Air tickets.
State road transport provide the front seats for senior citizens and disabled persons.
These days due to increase in demand of electricity but limited resources we must ensure that we are not wasting electricity. Moreover the way the rates of electricity are increasing we should minimize its use and should economize. We all know that electricity is essential and we can’t survive without it I wonder how ancient people or people in village where supply is not proper survive without it but surely I think that when they could live without it then why can’t reduce its use.
Therefore throughout this article I will try to give you few tip how to save electricity and eventually money for our self:
Switch off appliances when not in use:
Turn off the appliance from the switch on wall to save electricity. I have seen many people forget to switch off ceiling fan and light even when they are not sitting in that room. They should not forget it as it may help a lot to save some bit of money. Try to have a habit of sitting in the park/roof and switch off the MCB for at least 2~3 hours in the evening during summer and in afternoon during winters. Also when you are going out of home for holidays and you know no one would be there at home during that time its better to turn down MCB of your house. Also switch OFF refrigerator for few hours that may reduce consumption of electricity and minimize use of it during winters I normally don’t switch ON refrigerator in winters as I don’t find if it is required in winters. Fix your AC to sleep mode that would reduce the consumption of electricity. All members of the family should try to sit in a common room. In addition to this we should not have a separate TV in all the rooms however we should have a common TV installed in the common room where we all could sit and watch it together.
Reduce usage of hot water:
Minimize use of hot water. Try to wash full load of dishes than to wash them in small lots. Try to use cold water where we can like some people have the habit to take bath with hot water in any season so we must not do it. Try to reduce even to wash clothes with hot water if possible. Don’t waste water as these days we need pumps every where to fill tanks which unnecessarily consumes electricity.
Reduce excessive heating and cooling:
Room heaters and AC consumes more power so it’s better to operate them with care and try to fix timings for operating them. Like we use our AC mostly in night that too I switch OFF it in early morning when temperature is not so much and switch on cooler if required. Use localized equipments rather than using central AC or heating system as they consume more power. Always set their temperature not more than 10 degrees less or more than the atmospheric temperature depending on the season. Its better not to use heating systems in winters its lot better to wear warm clothes and to use quilts and blankets. I don’t use heating system at all but then it all depends on the temperature of course if the temperature goes beyond Zero degree then one must find it better to use heating system than to go to see a doctor but then we should minimize its use.
Few other options to save electricity through investing some money:
Check insulation of appliances:
For example one can check heat loss in geysers by toughing it and if you feel the geyser is warm than it may be losing heat and it may be consuming more power so it needs a better insulation. Similarly check for the ceiling fans, exhaust fans, coolers if their bearing is working properly if not then they should be oiled/greased for proper working.
Install efficient lighting:
Compact florescent lamps use 75% less power than old electric bulbs so we must use CFL only to save electricity.They are the best and the basic thing one can do to save energy.
Use of solar heater:
We know sun is rich source of energy and we hardly use its energy for our work. Solar heaters are the best option through which one can save electricity by installing it. This can save at least two third of water heating cost
Insulating ceiling/roofs:
Insulating ceiling /roof nicely can keep home 5 degrees warmer in winter and 10 degrees cooler in summer. More comfortable house temperature always saves power as then we don’t need to make inside temperature comfortable with the appliances.
Always use thermostat and timers in the equipment as that would always save energy by not letting them to operate over the extreme conditions.
These are few tips for saving electricity and ultimately money hope you people will find it worth and start working how to save electricity at your home and at your workplace.
With the arrival of September the season of festivals starts in West Bengal and many other parts of India. Biswakarma Puja, Ganesh Chaturthi, Durga Puja, Dashera, Kali Puja, Dipawali, Bhai Tika, Chhat Puja and many others are celebrated at very few days interval. It is a time of extraordinary religious fervour and devotion, fun and frolic, extravagance and indulgence.
Community worships are a special phenomenon during this season. Millions of rupees are spent on more than lifesize idols, beautifully built "pandals" (makeshift temples to place the idols), electrical decorations and everything that goes with a community worship of a deity.
Where does the money come from?
The money is collected as puja contribution ('chanda' in the local language) from the households in the neighbourhood, shopkeepers, businessmen, factory owners, trucks and buses passing through the area. Much before the puja season sets in young men go around with collection receipt books, knocking at the doors of local households, visiting shops and factories, stopping vehicles passing through the locality. How much money is one supposed to pay as puja contribution? Most of the time it is left to the generosity of the contributor but quite a few times it is not so. The hapless contributor is supposed to cough up as much money as written on the receipt by the collector. Soon, the puja organising committees get enough money to start the balls rolling.
How is the money spent?
Now, it is the time to open the treasury. The idols are to be bought. Pandals have to be built. Decorators have to be hired. Brahmins(Priests) have to be assigned with the secred duties of offering puja. Drum beaters have to be hired. Some part of the collection will have to be spent on helping the poor with blankets. Poor students may be given copybooks and pens or pencils. All this is done with a bit of ceremony and exhibition. A common feeding of all who contributed to the treasury has to be organised. Usually, a special dish called "Khichadi" (a mixture of rice, lintel,and vegetables) is served. And, a picnic or a dinner party may be thrown for those who are actively involved in conducting the whole affair. If the fund allows, may be a free entertainment program for all. Some famous singer may be invited to sing from the stage set up for this purpose. A popular actor may be invited to beautify the occasion. He or she would do it for a thick envelope stacked with currency notes. Everyone is happy to hear the singer or see the actor. If they could shake the celebrity's hand, they got more than their money's worth.
At the end of the puja the idols are immersed in a river or a lake with a lot of noisy sound of music , bursting of crackers and free style dancing.
After the puja the streets wear a forlorn look. The skeletons of the pandals are left standing for a few days more, mourning the departure of the deity. The drums have become silent. People are seen sitting at tea shops or at local clubs talking about the puja days. Everyone looks a bit sad. Everyone finds a huge hole in their pockets.
New standards of being social
A big friends’ list on every social networking sites and big followers list on twitter is a common sign of being social today the people not in this category are not supposed to be called social now. Generally, people take them for old fashioned and unknown of using social networks or unsocial in other words.
However, do you think so that the one who does not have friends online is backward or old fashioned? At least I am not the one who thinks so despite having almost forty thousand online friends whom I do not know at all in real life although there are a couple of hundred whom I know personally but never communicate with them on these sites.
Now the question arises about being personal on such sites! What is your comfort level, how for can you reveal about your personal details on these sites? I would say there is no harm sharing your details up to a certain limit because you are a real person and if you have nothing to hide or you are not a fake then there is no harm if your friends around the world know a little bit about you.
When you interact with others on such sites, you always share your views with them and want to know about their feelings and thinking. There is nothing wrong as far as that is not revealing your private information. People would not take you seriously if your interaction level were zero with no personal touch. People understand you better and give you more weightage if they know about your age, social status and job profile etc. Therefore, there is no harm if you share about your job profile, age group, gender and area you live in.
A platform that keeps you informed
Social networking sites are mainly a platform that keeps you updated about the latest news around the globe and the activities of your friends instantly. This is no more a taboo people used to keep a distance not so long ago. In fact, nothing is too personal unless you want to keep it from your friends. On the contrary, more and more people are coming forward to share smallest of things with friends through messages and tweets for the people who have smallest of values in social circles. This subject may well be a matter of debate as to how does it benefit us reading and liking such news on sites like Facebook but that is trend of the day
This is like writing a diary
The trend of updating in social networking sites is related to people of certain age group in particular, you can see mostly see users in between Sixteen to thirty five more active on Facebook who update their status regularly thinking like writing a diary. Most of these people are students or associated with a profession. They love to share their schedule of the day with friends and family.
Now most of the networking sites have started resetting their rules of privacy to avoid dangerous effects of misuse of some of the messages and photographs shared. Some users set their privacy to ‘friends only’ but there are dangers of misuse of such content cannot be ruled out if it is too personal or of adult nature. The privacy settings cannot save your data from hackers or do not guarantee that others may not be able to have an access on them.
These sites are addictive
Social networking sites have become part of the life for almost every one who has access to a computer and internet. These sites have an addictive effect on the user who cannot keep a distance for a long time and finds himself busy with different activities available on such sites. If you watch the activities of your friends regularly, you would find that most of tem do not mind sharing their private life and other routine activities on such site. Only thirty to forty percent people keep their personal matters private and share only limited activities.
Most of them share while
- They find themselves upset and no one else to share their problems offline
- They try to express their problems through a photograph or updating their status
- Some of the user want to show themselves off and share social issues to make you aware about their knowledge of the topic
- Female love to gossip and share their outings, shopping, fashion sense, films and matters related to boyfriends.
- Some users keep uploading photographs of the different occasions. They never forget to upload every outing, birthdays, marriages attended and what not.
I am a user of almost all the social sites
Yes, that is true I am one of the proud user of almost all the networking sites worth their name but I seldom visit them. That is right again, I seldom visit them but I use them all on regular basis through the sites I write for. As every knows that we have a share button every site that works automatically and updates your work if you simply click on them. Like you can see a share section on this article also, that will share this article on your page if you only click it provided you have an account on that particular site.
You maybe a frequent user of social networking sites but I suggest you to be careful about what you share with your friends because you are not sure that all of your friends are what they pose to be or may not misuse what you share with them. There is no harm as long you do it for fun but sharing personal or private data may harm your cause. People in government jobs where data may reach into wrong hands must be more careful as the government has banned the use of such sites for men in uniform.
In the end
We can see most celebrities update their status and daily routine because they have a big fan following who wants to know about the life of their favorite stars. The stars also want to remain in touch because that is a way of free publicity for them. However, this is absolutely a personal matter for a particular member of the society as to how he/she looks at the issue and how he shares his information.
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