The Growth And Development Process In Babies 

It is beyond an iota of doubt, that babies have some inborn capabilities and along with it they develop further capacities. With the passage of time these capabilities get sharper and stronger. With growth their mental capabilities also expands. Slowly and steadily, they learn to lift their heads, moving around, holding objects in hands, standing, climbing ladders etc. Like this, within two years they get ready by developing those capabilities. This process is also known as motor development in medical terms.  

Development in babies 

The developments or activities of infants or babies can be summed up into three categories namely, physical, social and cognitive. 

Physical 

The first two years in babies are marked by the growth or development of height and weight. The different organs of the body also develop quickly. Their sense of hearing, vision, shape and size develop by gaining new abilities. 

Social 

This is also known as emotional development. Feelings like trust, friendship, pride develop within them. Gradually they begin to show the affection to others. 

Cognitive 

Role of mothers 

The new born baby goes through the nonstop process of learning, understanding and adjusting. So  questing is what is the role of mother? Yes, the role of mother is what matters for infants. A mother is like a teacher, friend, philosopher, guide to the new born or infants. Hence, mother, father and other family members play an important role in the overall proper development of a child. They need special planning and an important role to play in it. Of course, mental preparation is required  but together  with that some special facts and statistics should be borne in mind. 

Under what circumstances breast feeding needs to be avoided? 

Hepatitis B 

Aids 

WHO or World Health Organization warns us that in certain regions of Africa the epidemic, Aids, is widespread like any other deadly disease. Even in this condition WHO advises that if bottled or canned milk is not available then mothers could breast feed the child. Bottled or canned milk(Formula milk) contains Melamine which can mimic protein in certain food quality taste and because of this harmful ingredient many babies died in the past. This very incident proves the fact how careful we need to be when we think about formula milk feeding. 

Mental Preparation 

Mental preparation about breast feeding is required even before your child is born. There are certain amount of misconception about breast feeding which needs to be removed from mind. 

1) For breast feeding mothers need to have a positive attitude towards it right from the beginning, that is, the time she is pregnant. 

2) Those who are becoming mothers for the first time find it difficult to hold their baby properly and breast feed. Here, a proper training or help is required. Most often than not nursing staff fail to impart knowledge to these mothers since they remain too busy attending other patients and due to the lack of patience in them. 

Baby friendly hospitals 

Now let us look at the concepts of baby friendly hospitals in foreign countries. 

What mothers need to know?

1) Mothers need to know how to sit and hold their baby properly for breastfeed. 

Diwali - The Festival of Lights is here and people around the globe, yes, Diwali is celebrated not just in India but abroad too. Many generations of Indians have settled in far away places and they still celebrate Diwali with equal fervour although with the local touch of whichever country they are in.

Diwali - the very word brings to our minds sweets, new clothes, expensive as well as cheap appliances and things for the home, jewellery, lights - electric as well as traditional ones, and of course, gifts, for our near and dear ones.

Gifts although synonymous with material objects bought with money can also mean a small act or a deed tof kindness that brings joy to others, a small word of kindness or encouragement that brings hope where there is none left.

For me personally, I remember Diwali of my childhood about spending long times with my mum a few days before Diwali started and helping her prepare a variety of dishes called Faraal in Marathi. This faraal includes various sweets like laddoos, karanjis, savouries like chakali etc. and need a lot of effort and time to prepare them. Although I was not able to prepare anything on my own, a little help in whatever way I could was a great help to her and just spending time with her helped me learn to cook well with love and attention to detail as well as to be patient while cooking. This was a gift that I got from her, the reason why I love to cook and feed others.

Gone are those days since now emphasis is more on spending money to buy readymade sweets as they are easily available, although buying them readymade is not as exciting as preparing them together. Yet, the good point is that the women of the households do not have to labour much and they can spend that time with others in the family, I must say a precious gift for those women who would otherwise miss out on a lot of fun with the family.

A simple act of kindness, a word spoken softly, a simple thank you to someone who does your chores is also a gift. There is a woman who comes daily to collect trash from all the homes in my building and she also cleans the staircase and the huge parking lot daily. She comes daily does her work and goes home, she never asks for favors or any money even though she is quite poor. But today being Diwali she came tin the morning to ask for a small amount of gift money, a common practice in Maharashtra, and I gave her Rs. 50 and a box of sweets and savories that I had prepared. When she saw the note and the box, her face lit up and her eyes welled up anwith tears and I could not help but ask her the reason. She said that I was the first person to give her Rs. 50, others had only given her Rs. 10 and no sweets.

I was stunned and felt sad at the same time since most people in my building are working in IT companies and earn hefty salaries so giving her mere Rs. 10 was a joke. In a city like Pune, all you can buy for a measly Rs. 10 is a cup of tea! The reason why I felt horrible is that, among the various pooja rituals, we worship a new broom on the night of Diwali. A broom sweeps away all the dirt and trash and keeps our homes healthy and disease free so it is  worshipped as "Aarogya Lakshmi" and yet, they could not find it in their hearts to treat this woman, who keeps our surroundings clean and dirt free, with respect. It seemed like Diwali has now been reduced to materialistic ritual like all other festivals and spirit of giving has vanished.

And then I read about a handful few who do extraordinary acts by taking time and effort to do something for these ordinary and invisible beings in our society. The workers of a social service organization in Pune gathered together a number of homeless people, people who clean and sweep gutters and toilets, bathed them and gave them new clothes to wear, served them sweets and felicitated them. They were given traditional lights and lanterns to put up in their homes, which they would not have afforded to otherwise. This was something they had never experienced before in their lives and many were moved to tears, the children overjoyed on receiving the first firecrackers ever. I think this is a step forward to bringing people from the lower strata to the mainstream of the society - which is going to be a long journey but a step forward is better than none taken.

Another gift that one can give others is by spending time with those who are lonely. Many students and young professionals are taking time out from their busy schedules of work and study to spend time with lonely elderly people living in old age homes.

Only an hour spent with them on Diwali day can bring endless joys to these people who are past their prime and are no longer useful to others that they have been thrown aside by their kin. By holding their shaking and wavering hands and lighting a tiny lamp will lit a lamp of joy in their hearts that will be remembered for the remaining days of their lives.

Spending time with your family, I mean quality time talking to each other and not sitting together in front of the television, is a gift too. With busy schedules of everyone, both parents working outside the house, children busy with study, tuitions, extra classes etc. the family time together is missing. So gift your family the joy of time spent together playing childish yet fun games, eating together, most importantly listening to others, is a day well spent and it likely that will become your child's favorite and most dearly remembered time. You could turn this kind of activity into a family tradition, a tradition that your children will look forward too, and pass on to their own children.

Appreciate your neighbours, a simple word of gratitude for looking after your house and your cat when you are away on vacation or you are working 14-hour sessions daily, collecting your important mail and courier packages while you are away. You do say thank you to your neighbouring lady, but writing a simple thank you along with Diwali wishes will make her feel extra appreciated and will strengthen your friendships. Similar appreciations to your friends will go a long way too.

While you are at it, do not forget our Mother Earth from whose bosom we have all grown and nurtured. Plant a sapling each Diwali and take care of it. Mother Earth will really appreciate this effort and bless us all in return!

So while you are lighting diyas around your homes and bursting crackers that lit up the night sky, do not forget to light a little lamp of hope and joy in others who are not so fortunate as we are.

A very happy and a prosperous Diwali to all!

           We learn various thing from other.Wherever we go,whatever we see in other,there is always something that we learn and sometimes try to owe that positive or good things from them. Many people try to make according to themselves.Learning and learning goes on but that learning is of mean when you own it. 

          Today,i was watching a television serial on Discovery "I Shouldn't be alive". I saw a man fighting fro his life in ocean.You would be shocked to know that how many days he spent alone in that ocean,76 DAYs.He has left from his home to travel in the ocean with a small raft. I started to watch in the half of the SHOW,i.e when he has already passed 30 Days in ocean.He saw one big ship and gave the signal so that they can rescue him. Initially he realized that they have seen him,and he started to enjoy that he is now rescued,but later when he saw that ship is not coming to him,he was sad. 31st day,32nd,33,34,35,36,37,38...40.

           At the 40th day he started to gave up. He was lost,but he knew that he is flowing in the lane from where the ship goes. Days were passing and nothing was there in his hand. He was not having food. He was having few cans of water to drink.He was hungry and decided to catch some fish in the ocean. He was having one needle and has tried to catch fish from it. Pirana fish was there in the ocean. As he caught the fish,fish blown his raft from its teeth and water started to fill in the raft. He tried hard to blow the raft with the help of pump,that he was having with him. Days passed and still he was trying much had to blow the raft even in dark,when he was not in condition to blow,as he was feeling asleep.

          55 days passed and the condition of raft was same and finally he gave up.As he was sleeping,a sudden call from within came that he cannot die like this without fighting. Suddenly,he woke up and decided to repair his raft any how and finally he decided to repair his raft with the fork,he was having. Finally he repaired his raft.

Days were passing 60th,65,67,70. He was completely lost.His mind was not working. He has lose his weight. As,days were passing,he water cans were also finishing. He was crying. 71st,72...76. 

          On 76th day he has reached very near to one island,the name of island was colarado,its near Antiqua,Barbados. He was laid on his raft,as nothing happening in his heart,suddenly he saw few fishermen coming towards him in a boat.On 76th day he was rescued from an island.

          What a tough battle he fought. He was treated for 6 months in hospital and later he was discharged from hospital when he was well. He saw his parents after 8 months and when he was fighting a battle of life and death ,his parents didn't knew nothing about it. Its really a tough who has fought a such a long battle.He never thought that he will die and never complained to god that why he has trap him here.It was the victory of the man who fought with great power and thats why he was here on "I shouldn't be alive" to tell his story.

I have seen many episodes.I haven't seen such a brave man who has fought for himself for 76 days.

          There are various thing from which we can learn from him and can become a successful in life. You shouldn't ever give up in life and should fought for your victory till the last breath of your life.After that person was rescued,i told to myself that from now i would work hard and never gave up untill i get victory.

          I believe that if God has made our future with lots of struggle,then we should take it as challenge,fought it until we can. We would say that this is not life and we can't live such type of life,but this is only what we call a STRUGGLING LIFE. There is not solution,but to just fight and make this victory ours.We just need to go on and fight till we can. If there is almighty right up there,he will see that how much struggle we are doing in our life and will give a good result. But without,trying almighty can't help us.

For a daughter, having her father at her side is the most important factor that results in the overall positive development in her teenage years. She looks upon her father as a kind of leader, a protector and a provider. In short, Dad matters a lot.

 For every daughter, a father who understands her, loves her, and has a healthy relationship with her gives her the confidence she needs to face the world. A mutual trust binds the father-daughter relationship which is a very important aspect of a family.

 There are certain factors that influence the type of relationship that a father has with his teenage daughter.

 1)The Father-Mother Relationship – A teenage daughter often watches closely how her father treats her mother or how is their relationship with each other. A good and healthy relationship between the parents helps in the future grooming of the daughter’s life with her own family & husband.

2)Setting up boundaries – Most fathers believe that setting up boundaries and using strict discipline may at times hurt the relationship with his teenage daughter. But this is not always true. Studies have shown that, it is sometimes required to put some kind of boundaries for daughters who end up in trouble. Setting up strict rules and boundaries may often result in alienating the daughter from the father, while on the other hand, giving a teenage daughter a free rein to do what she likes may at times land her up in big trouble. For this an ideal balance of strict discipline as well as an extent of leniency should be practiced by the father.

 The teenage daughter is at a crossroad of her life where it is absolutely important that she has a good and strong relationship with her father. For this, try to develop a healthy relationship with her at an early age. Always try to be an understanding father. Prepare your teenage daughter for her adult life. Always try to see to it that your daughter is brought up in a safe, loving and supportive environment.

• Always maintain a emotional stability with your spouse which helps to create a feeling of joy in the teenage daughter.
• Strong relationships are maintained by the teenage daughter with opposite sex when she grows up, only if she has a good father-daughter relationship.
• Try to use simple language and an open-ended conversation when speaking with her.
• Sex is a very delicate subject in a father-daughter relationship and it has to be handled very carefully. Try to see to it that she talks about it with someone she can trust, may it be the father himself or the mother, aunt or her adult female friend. Let it be explained to her in a very formal way.
• Try to monitor her day-to-day activities in and outside the house e.g. her friends, the activities she is interested in or at time even monitor her facebook activity.
• Take time and speak to her on subjects which interest her like dancing, reading books or any other activity she is interested in.
• At times, take a break from your work and accompany her for a long drive, trekking or a family picnic as it helps in maintaining a strong and loving relationship.
• Make it a compulsion to attend most of her co-ed activities that she is taking part in, may it be a drama, a band or a sport. This encourages the daughter seeing her father come out to see her perform.
• Find out what she is interested in and listen to her with interest, at times encouraging her in her passion of the subject.
• Spend as much time with your daughter and indulge in various activities together like going for a walk, or picking her up from school, reading books with her or making a new recipe in the kitchen.