For a daughter, having her father at her side is the most important factor that results in the overall positive development in her teenage years. She looks upon her father as a kind of leader, a protector and a provider. In short, Dad matters a lot.
For every daughter, a father who understands her, loves her, and has a healthy relationship with her gives her the confidence she needs to face the world. A mutual trust binds the father-daughter relationship which is a very important aspect of a family.
There are certain factors that influence the type of relationship that a father has with his teenage daughter.
1)The Father-Mother Relationship – A teenage daughter often watches closely how her father treats her mother or how is their relationship with each other. A good and healthy relationship between the parents helps in the future grooming of the daughter’s life with her own family & husband.
2)Setting up boundaries – Most fathers believe that setting up boundaries and using strict discipline may at times hurt the relationship with his teenage daughter. But this is not always true. Studies have shown that, it is sometimes required to put some kind of boundaries for daughters who end up in trouble. Setting up strict rules and boundaries may often result in alienating the daughter from the father, while on the other hand, giving a teenage daughter a free rein to do what she likes may at times land her up in big trouble. For this an ideal balance of strict discipline as well as an extent of leniency should be practiced by the father.
The teenage daughter is at a crossroad of her life where it is absolutely important that she has a good and strong relationship with her father. For this, try to develop a healthy relationship with her at an early age. Always try to be an understanding father. Prepare your teenage daughter for her adult life. Always try to see to it that your daughter is brought up in a safe, loving and supportive environment.
- Always maintain a emotional stability with your spouse which helps to create a feeling of joy in the teenage daughter.
- Strong relationships are maintained by the teenage daughter with opposite sex when she grows up, only if she has a good father-daughter relationship.
- Try to use simple language and an open-ended conversation when speaking with her.
- Sex is a very delicate subject in a father-daughter relationship and it has to be handled very carefully. Try to see to it that she talks about it with someone she can trust, may it be the father himself or the mother, aunt or her adult female friend. Let it be explained to her in a very formal way.
- Try to monitor her day-to-day activities in and outside the house e.g. her friends, the activities she is interested in or at time even monitor her facebook activity.
- Take time and speak to her on subjects which interest her like dancing, reading books or any other activity she is interested in.
- At times, take a break from your work and accompany her for a long drive, trekking or a family picnic as it helps in maintaining a strong and loving relationship.
- Make it a compulsion to attend most of her co-ed activities that she is taking part in, may it be a drama, a band or a sport. This encourages the daughter seeing her father come out to see her perform.
- Find out what she is interested in and listen to her with interest, at times encouraging her in her passion of the subject.
- Spend as much time with your daughter and indulge in various activities together like going for a walk, or picking her up from school, reading books with her or making a new recipe in the kitchen.