Today's children no longer respect parents and do not generally welcome any advise. They want more and more freedom and do not want any restrictions. They also tend to ask huge amounts of money from even middle-class parents. Why is this happening? Can we change this to some extent? If yes, how?
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We have to bear in mind that change is the essence of life and in India the past two or three decades have seen unprecedented changes and for the older generation it is bit too hard to cope with , the same is the case with the younger generation.They dont know how to handle the new permissive age...In time things will fall in place once everyone gets used to the trends in society, until then these clashes are bound to be there.All said and done the youngsters these days are far more independant in their attitude and thinking which should be welcomed and channelised properly so that they don't go astray !
Our culture is shifting towards west, called western culture. We are deriving many things from them, which is harmful for us. Parents should try to control these things. Freedom is good, but to certain extend.
It's a disbelief that today's younger generation don't respect parents or elder ones. Main problem is that elders have already have a pre-decided mind set and they compare youngsters to their younger days. Here lies the main problem. Also if kids of today are disobedient, who is really responsible? Definitely the family comes in first place, followed by the society in which they live. Now everything is easy accessible in fingertips and kids are far advanced from youngsters of 1980s or 1990s. So, comparison is not at all possible in an 'explosive hi-tech' era in which we are living or neither can we complain. Definitely age between 12 and 25 is the explosive age of kids and now parents give them everything they want...mobiles, laptops etc. Now the era of big families have gone and children few in number have become demanding. It's just a change of flow of time. They never prefer to hear words of others and they may think elder people's thoughts are outdated! Best way is to guide them in a proper way through their eyes, not ours...Let us welcome 'Change' that's going on every moment.......
Children of all age groups always desire to get elder ones' appreciation and the feeling of being self-dependent. But above all, they desire love and carings. If parents are able to guarantee these things and understand them better, then everything is possible. My daughter is now 7 years old and she is very self-dependent. She likes to do her own makeup, combing hair and even her choice of dishes. I never insist her to do what I like. I have just prepared her to be self-dependent, let her do everything....I only guide her, even writing homework and placing books in bag according to next day timetable. For the same reason she wont quarrel with me for any reason which she feels I interfere.
For parents their children will remain small and inexperienced, and as parents they keep on advising their children irrespective of the age whether they are 20 or 45 years old. In such a case as children we should hear them out, and then do what feels right to us as adults.
As parents it is our duty to set the foundation right at the very beginning, it is parents who spoil their kids by giving in to all demands initially, as kids grow..their demands and needs get bigger. So somewhere it parents too who don't take the blame, so parents should teach the importance of money and also explain how difficult it is to earn. Only when parents give adequate knowledge on the importance of good and bad and not do hand-holding always...and let the children learn through trial and error, learn the hard way, children will not learn. Respect the space of children.. will also pave way for smoother relationship.
I think the chief reason for this attitude is solely the failure on part of parents to teach their children the right values and morals. Currently all I am seeing is parents placing more importance on money, clothes, hotelling, malls and generally on having good time. But I hardly see any of them trying to teach their children the proper social skills, the basic things such as adjusting with others, accepting others no matter what, reading books etc. Children after all only emulate their parents. Parents of today's generation, with their double incomes and all the amenities at hand and money to spend, hardly give much thought to others' feelings, rights or wellbeing. So obviously children too become selfish. Where permissiveness is concerned, these children are given money to spend, good clothes but are not taught the moral values. Talking about sex or similar issues is still a taboo, height of hypocrisy I must say, parents claiming they are readying their children for the 21st century and globalization and still not being able to talk to them about sexuality. The result is the children turning to porn which is now easily and freely available to those who want it. Of course, the picture is quite dismal but we can change it if we want to. The first step to changing it is first accepting that it has become a problem. But majority still choose not accept that it is a problem and therein lies the major problem!
Children respect parents but now they don't blindly obey unlike the past generations did. Now we are an independent country and so there is climate of freedom and independent thinking.
what I feel is, the manner of their bought up is the main background of the children's behavior, next comes the family circle and circumstances of home. and then the place where they get knowledge that is school and college. So we need to let them know your family position so that they can be in their limits. they won't compare themselves with rich people
It's mistake on the part of the parents not to have observed the changes in their children. They think that their children still babies and do not have worldly knowledge. And they will be breaking the ear drums of their children non stop.Parents should allow their children to express.
It is due to the lack of proper parenting nowadays. Because, every child grows up by observing their parents everyday. It is the responsibility of the parents to behave properly infront of the children. It is only reflected in their behaviour. So, it is up to the parents to brought up them as a well behaved person in this society.
