Live in relationships

It really does not matter whether one is a kannadiga, malayalee, tamilian or a north Indian because most of the youngsters nowadays  are above these petty differences. So anyone from any state or region can be in a live in relationship. Parents need to handle it without hitting the roof or getting hyper about it..

I strongly believe in marriage but if you ask me to condemn live-in relationship then I am not game for it. I would try to convince my dear ones not to go for such a settlement but if they prefer to opt the live-in system then I won't stand against them. It may take some time to accept it wholeheartedly but I will definitely try to convince myself to accept it. Life is theirs and I can't force my thoughts upon others. I won't criticize such practice but will be a little uncomfortable one for me to accept. Earlier, divorce was not an Indian practice but now it has gelled in and in the same way live-in will be acceptable in the future.

Surely, the kind of mindset we are brought up with, these things still seem to be a taboo. I can say on my part. I am a parent and for me it will not come easily owowing to the insecurities and emotional vulnerability. But if my children have strong conviction and are happy with it,  I might take it with a pinch of salt. Moreover, societal mindset and norms change with time. And once children are adult, they own their responsibility and their consequences. We as parents are there to only be for them

It's all about personal preferences, and a third person can never give an opinion in it.

What I feel it, marriage relations are more durable comparing live-in-relationships, and provide more security. It goes well with family, relatives etc - a tradition Indian culture has followed for many centuries. It's easy to break a live-in relationship and move on comparing marriage relations where one has to spent a lot of time and energy to get legal divorce. For the same reason adjustments from both sides are more in marriage relationships comparing live-in. (It's the big advantage of live-in relationship also). It's not all about society, but children of married couples get more respect in the society where he lives. It's true.

I often think, the two persons engaged in a live-in relationship are not willing to take the 'risk' of married life. By tying knot, they are taking the relationship one step further. As a person who believes and strictly follows this tradition, I believe in one man-one woman relationship, that too in a married life which lasts forever. And if two people love each other sincerely, they should revise their decision several times before taking it to next step, either marriage or live-in. More important is if it lasts forever.

I am yet to come to terms with it. I still believe strongly in marriage. I do not want our society to go on copying the West specially in matters related to family and personal relations. As on now i am totally against live in relations irrespective of whether it is for someone from my own family or any third person. But i really dont how things will be say 10 or 15 yrs down the line. My ideas and perspectives may change... who knows :)

live in relationships are permitted as long as they are in limits

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I just feel that individuals who agree to get into a Live in relationship should be mature about their decision. There is nothing right or wrong as the decision is finally theirs.