Yes there are so many sensitive issues nowadays relating to children and teenagers which are very important for a child's overall growth. Schools do not pay attention to these issues. They are only interested in academics and sports. These growing years are very vital. A child should learn to be sensitive and responsible for his peers.
It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..
Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!
In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.
It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!
It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..
Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!
In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.
It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!
In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the oher and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote
I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.
It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..
Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!
In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.
It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!
In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote
I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.
There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.
It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..
Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!
In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.
It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!
In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote
I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.
There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.[/quote
If the parenting is good, there is no need of council ling. The best council ling comes from Best parenting.
It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..
Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!
In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.
It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!
In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote
I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.
There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.[/quote
If the parenting is good, there is no need of council ling. The best council ling comes from Best parenting.
That would be like living in an utopian world. Counsellors are needed in the real world even for children of good parents. After all children have a world outside parental world also.
It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..
Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!
In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.
It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!
In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote
I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.
There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.[/quote
If the parenting is good, there is no need of council ling. The best council ling comes from Best parenting.
That would be like living in an utopian world. Counsellors are needed in the real world even for children of good parents. After all children have a world outside parental world also.[/quote
Sarvepalli Radha Krishnan and such great people never had Councillors. because they had good parenting. For this elementary thing one need not be in utopia.
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....[/quote
This certainly a better view. I agree parents and teachers should be in continuous communication. If it is done there is no necessity of counselling..
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
I agree with you. Parenting is a never ending job.even your offspring becomes the PM of a nation, still, the PM is the offspring of a parent. I heard Narendra Modi's mother still guides him.
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
I agree with you. Parenting is a never ending job.even your offspring becomes the PM of a nation, still, the PM is the offspring of a parent. I heard Narendra Modi's mother still guides him.
In fact parental guidance is most essential during teen years since all problems begin at that stage and later of course one can be in the background and give advise when and if asked....
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
I agree with you. Parenting is a never ending job.even your offspring becomes the PM of a nation, still, the PM is the offspring of a parent. I heard Narendra Modi's mother still guides him.
In fact parental guidance is most essential during teen years since all problems begin at that stage and later of course one can be in the background and give advise when and if asked....
Yes. Parental guidance is needed from the formative years to teenage stage. From there, your own upbringing will say whether the child need your guidance further or not. After attaining adulthood some may get offended for the parental intervention. Of course, the parent knows it all and act as the conditions may be.
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
I agree with you. Parenting is a never ending job.even your offspring becomes the PM of a nation, still, the PM is the offspring of a parent. I heard Narendra Modi's mother still guides him.
In fact parental guidance is most essential during teen years since all problems begin at that stage and later of course one can be in the background and give advise when and if asked....
Yes. Parental guidance is needed from the formative years to teenage stage. From there, your own upbringing will say whether the child need your guidance further or not. After attaining adulthood some may get offended for the parental intervention. Of course, the parent knows it all and act as the conditions may be.
Wishing is one thing and reality is another thing. The fact is that many children unfortunately go astray in spite of good parents and their sincere efforts. Many times parents are not able to provide proper care and guidance. It is for such cases that need for counsellers is recommended. If everyone led a healthy life there would be no need for doctors and medicines.
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
I agree with you. Parenting is a never ending job.even your offspring becomes the PM of a nation, still, the PM is the offspring of a parent. I heard Narendra Modi's mother still guides him.
In fact parental guidance is most essential during teen years since all problems begin at that stage and later of course one can be in the background and give advise when and if asked....
Yes. Parental guidance is needed from the formative years to teenage stage. From there, your own upbringing will say whether the child need your guidance further or not. After attaining adulthood some may get offended for the parental intervention. Of course, the parent knows it all and act as the conditions may be.
Wishing is one thing and reality is another thing. The fact is that many children unfortunately go astray in spite of good parents and their sincere efforts. Many times parents are not able to provide proper care and guidance. It is for such cases that need for counsellers is recommended. If everyone led a healthy life there would be no need for doctors and medicines.
So , for feeding the doctors one has to become sick. Anyhow, let me say that what I proposed is not a wishful thinking but practical truth which was successfully implemented by me. Proving that every body who's capable of performing wise parenting will never think of councilling which is present day educational system's trap.
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
I agree with you. Parenting is a never ending job.even your offspring becomes the PM of a nation, still, the PM is the offspring of a parent. I heard Narendra Modi's mother still guides him.
In fact parental guidance is most essential during teen years since all problems begin at that stage and later of course one can be in the background and give advise when and if asked....
Yes. Parental guidance is needed from the formative years to teenage stage. From there, your own upbringing will say whether the child need your guidance further or not. After attaining adulthood some may get offended for the parental intervention. Of course, the parent knows it all and act as the conditions may be.
Wishing is one thing and reality is another thing. The fact is that many children unfortunately go astray in spite of good parents and their sincere efforts. Many times parents are not able to provide proper care and guidance. It is for such cases that need for counsellers is recommended. If everyone led a healthy life there would be no need for doctors and medicines.
So , for feeding the doctors one has to become sick. Anyhow, let me say that what I proposed is not a wishful thinking but practical truth which was successfully implemented by me. Proving that every body who's capable of performing wise parenting will never think of councilling which is present day educational system's trap.
My compliments on your good parenting. In modern world full of stresses individuals with howsoever good parents and parenting can suffer from psychosomatic problems. Apart from medicines, the counseller helps the patient to come out of it by special techniques of interaction. The patient is able to come back to normal living. Please for goodness sake do not call counselling a trap. It is not a fair comment and pardon me for saying so shows a lack of proper understanding of these modern diseases due to life style etc causes. If counselling helps an affected person to come back to a normal life again would you still call it a trap. Till recently in many cases good parenting meant that the children would outwardly show acceptance but be full of resentment inside. Today they have an outlet.[/quote
After going carefully through your response what i could understand is that you formed a wrong opinion about good parenting. Sorry to say that.
Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....
True. ....also parenting is a continuous process, it is not like you teach your child whatever there is to be taught until a certain age and then let it go, you have to take continuous efforts. It is totally unavoidable to keep your children away from others and they are going to learn bad things, so we have to keep telling them what is the right thing to do.
I agree with you. Parenting is a never ending job.even your offspring becomes the PM of a nation, still, the PM is the offspring of a parent. I heard Narendra Modi's mother still guides him.
In fact parental guidance is most essential during teen years since all problems begin at that stage and later of course one can be in the background and give advise when and if asked....
Yes. Parental guidance is needed from the formative years to teenage stage. From there, your own upbringing will say whether the child need your guidance further or not. After attaining adulthood some may get offended for the parental intervention. Of course, the parent knows it all and act as the conditions may be.
Wishing is one thing and reality is another thing. The fact is that many children unfortunately go astray in spite of good parents and their sincere efforts. Many times parents are not able to provide proper care and guidance. It is for such cases that need for counsellers is recommended. If everyone led a healthy life there would be no need for doctors and medicines.
So , for feeding the doctors one has to become sick. Anyhow, let me say that what I proposed is not a wishful thinking but practical truth which was successfully implemented by me. Proving that every body who's capable of performing wise parenting will never think of councilling which is present day educational system's trap.
My compliments on your good parenting. In modern world full of stresses individuals with howsoever good parents and parenting can suffer from psychosomatic problems. Apart from medicines, the counseller helps the patient to come out of it by special techniques of interaction. The patient is able to come back to normal living. Please for goodness sake do not call counselling a trap. It is not a fair comment and pardon me for saying so shows a lack of proper understanding of these modern diseases due to life style etc causes. If counselling helps an affected person to come back to a normal life again would you still call it a trap. Till recently in many cases good parenting meant that the children would outwardly show acceptance but be full of resentment inside. Today they have an outlet.[/quote
After going carefully through your response what i could understand is that you formed a wrong opinion about good parenting. Sorry to say that.
But you will not accept the need for counsellers and counselling. It is indeed difficult to change attitudes. At no point have I discounted good parenting. I have repeatedly said that in spite of it children can go astray due to many other cause. Counselling helps in such cases. I am happy to say that.
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