Do you think comparing kids is a healthy habit?

I often come across parents who brag about their children and repeatedly compare their children to others. I believe that every child is unique and has his or her own growth milestones. Every child has unique set of talents and should be encouraged. When we make comparisons in front of a child we unknowingly hurt the child. Their confidence is also hurt in a way. What do you think?

You are very right. Children should not be compared with other children. It saps their confidence and many times they go into withdrawl syndrome from where they may only partially come out. Parents may think they are doing to motivate but usually reverse is the result.

I often come across parents who brag about their children and repeatedly compare their children to others. I believe that every child is unique and has his or her own growth milestones. Every child has unique set of talents and should be encouraged. When we make comparisons in front of a child we unknowingly hurt the child. Their confidence is also hurt in a way. What do you think?

It should never be practiced by any of the parents across the world. It creates the inferiority complex among the kids. Every one is unique in this world. Sometimes, it may enable the kids in involving vengeance activities against the person whom you are comparing with.

It is very wrong to compare children with others and it is also very detrimental to their growth! A child who often gets compared to others ends up losing self confidence!

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

So true. We often compare children within the same family which is wrong. Instead of acknowledging the achievements why do people always pinpoint on the drawbacks. Even we have our own drawbacks. We should try to think from a child's point of view. How he or she feels.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

Yes children suffer from inferiority complex when they grow up and personality disorders.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

They are only interested in producing robots who can attend tution classes.

Yes there are so many sensitive issues nowadays relating to children and teenagers which are very important for a child's overall growth. Schools do not pay attention to these issues. They are only interested in academics and sports. These growing years are very vital. A child should learn to be sensitive and responsible for his peers.

Yes there are so many sensitive issues nowadays relating to children and teenagers which are very important for a child's overall growth. Schools do not pay attention to these issues. They are only interested in academics and sports. These growing years are very vital. A child should learn to be sensitive and responsible for his peers.

Students are treated like raw materials to be supplied to tution classes for being processed into entrance exam blasting machine guns. Extra curricular activities are not encouraged nor desired. Parents are also only after percent marks.

Children love to hear a hearty complement from their parents, not comparison that corrodes the self esteem in the children. Comparison with other be it children or adults is nothing short of committing Harakiri

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the oher and parents are the root cause of it.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the oher and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote

I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote

I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.

There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote

I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.

There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.[/quote

If the parenting is good, there is no need of council ling. The best council ling comes from Best parenting.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote

I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.

There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.[/quote

If the parenting is good, there is no need of council ling. The best council ling comes from Best parenting.

That would be like living in an utopian world. Counsellors are needed in the real world even for children of good parents. After all children have a world outside parental world also.

It could be either way - some parents are forever criticizing their children in comparison with other children which is very bad for since it makes the child feel insecure and lose confidence in himself /herself...Either way we need to be careful while not comparing our children to other children nor to our own kids when there is more than one child in the family ..

Yeah...comparison between siblings is very very common due to which there is a lot of rivalry among children. Sometimes the rivalry is carried into adulthood too!

In some form relation oriented psychology should be taught in secondary level schools to sensitize students.

It should be taught..but sadly, our education curriculum does not contain anything remotely connected to sensitizing students!

In India we dont even have the system of having a counsellor,for which the initiative shd be taken by the government.Some private schools do have counsellors and it has proven very effective in tackling home related and teen problems that are comon among students...Most children seem to suffer from some complex or the other and parents are the root cause of it.[/quote

I do agree with you. It's the home from where good habits or bad habits spring up. There is no educational institute like Home. And there are no good teachers like parents.

There is a growing need for counsellers. I know of a counseller who is flooded with cases especially of young school and college going children. She is unable to cope with cases. The suggestion of appointing them in schools is very good. Most of the time parents attitude and pressure creates the need for children to avail counsellors help.[/quote

If the parenting is good, there is no need of council ling. The best council ling comes from Best parenting.

That would be like living in an utopian world. Counsellors are needed in the real world even for children of good parents. After all children have a world outside parental world also.[/quote

Sarvepalli Radha Krishnan and such great people never had Councillors. because they had good parenting. For this elementary thing one need not be in utopia.

Parenting is no doubt the most important aspect , but when a child beegins schooling there is interaction of a different kind and it is not easy to stop him/her from learning bad habits which may not be easy to detect in the beginning but later when it gets out of hand parents become paranoid....I personally feel that parents and teachers should be in continuous communication which helps a lot since they are able to discuss and compare and make amends as and when needed....