How do you think an argument should be dealt like?

The following aspects should be taken in to consideration during an argument.

Don't raise your voice. It is amazing how issues of hurt feelings or differences can be resolved with a whisper..

 Create a process for resolving  without anger.

Allow the other member to take time and to express his or her point of view

Abuse  will never be allowed.

rambabu wrote:

The following aspects should be taken in to consideration during an argument.

Don't raise your voice. It is amazing how issues of hurt feelings or differences can be resolved with a whisper..

 Create a process for resolving  without anger.

Allow the other member to take time and to express his or her point of view

Abuse  will never be allowed.

Whisper?? Why not express one's views in a normal conversational tone?? But I do agree with you that raising one's voice only worsens the matter.

I have a slightly different view on arguments. For me how to deal with an argument depends on with whom I am arguing. If its someone close like my family or a dear friend... I will probably agree to what ever the person wants to prove or else jst divert the topic, because i do not want to strain the relationship. Where as if the  argument is with a third person, i would genuinely try to explain the logic behind my thoughts and argue to an extent where both the parties are satisfied :):) and if i am arguing with a stubborn person, i will probably just leave it there without much conversation/argument

jabeen wrote:

rambabu wrote:

The following aspects should be taken in to consideration during an argument.

Don't raise your voice. It is amazing how issues of hurt feelings or differences can be resolved with a whisper..

 Create a process for resolving  without anger.

Allow the other member to take time and to express his or her point of view

Abuse  will never be allowed.

Whisper?? Why not express one's views in a normal conversational tone?? But I do agree with you that raising one's voice only worsens the matter.

 By saying Whisper, I meant in expressing one's view in  a soft tone

What about saying - "I will kill you" in a very soft tone- will it cool down the tempers? 

Saying a harsh word, if said in a cool and mellow voice will definitely  work, instead of banging the table, pounce on the member like Cheetah

How I deal with arguments always depend on the person with whom I am arguing. If I know the person, I can predict the course our argument will take and I would have also got an idea how to tackle it. I know our chemistry and whether the argument will turn out to be healthy or just go ugly. 

It also depends on the topic of argument. If it is something that does not bother me much, I can give a leeway and drop it. But if the topic is too close to me or something I follow with conviction, I do not give up and keep my tone polite and firm.

But if it is some unknown or not so well known person, I prefer to avoid arguments or abruptly cut it off. 

The primary purpose of an argument is to give knowledge  of the argument's final conclusion. But some maintain that the primary purpose of an argument is to give  people justified belief that the argument's final conclusion is  true.

The things to be avoided are threatening and intimidating the participating members in the argument.

Normally when I get involved in an argument and the other person does not want to listen to any reasons, I don't waste further energy on it, even if I know that I am correct. Its no use talking with a person who is not ready to listen.

jabeen wrote:

Normally when I get involved in an argument and the other person does not want to listen to any reasons, I don't waste further energy on it, even if I know that I am correct. Its no use talking with a person who is not ready to listen.

Yes.Instead of fist fights and howling, in an argument, the wise way is to leave the scene. the very purpose of an argument is to to know and let know from the participating members.

jabeen wrote:

Normally when I get involved in an argument and the other person does not want to listen to any reasons, I don't waste further energy on it, even if I know that I am correct. Its no use talking with a person who is not ready to listen.

Absolutely, especially when people are stubborn and thank they are always right...

when someone is really interested in others' opinion and is a good listener, argue with him. Otherwise ignore.  

Argument should be done in accordance with the thoughtful processes of individual and the parameters affecting the limit of argument should also be limited towards the optimum capacity to understand yourselves so that one should see and perceive own limit. 

mohan manohar wrote:

Argument should be done in accordance with the thoughtful processes of individual and the parameters affecting the limit of argument should also be limited towards the optimum capacity to understand yourselves so that one should see and perceive own limit. 

Very true! But when get into heated argument, we tend to loose the thoughtful process and perception gets blurred. Situation turns into cacophony and in those times silence comes to rescue. And it is the wiser one who chooses to give up and be silent

I feel a good arguments on any matter reveals so much knowledge. Here you get the knowledge while sharing your thoughts, your points of views. Both the party should follow the base subject. Yes, there might be time when the discussion takes off the track but should come back on the main topic. Also, while argumentation, one should not take it personally and start using arrogance behaviour. While argumentation, there should not be a thought like who is more educated. If the discussion going on right track, there is no point showing one's "ego". If arguments happens without taking it personally, or without showing arrogance behaviour, or without bringing ego in it. I feel that arguments always brings positivity. And this is how it should be done.   

usha manohar wrote:

jabeen wrote:

Normally when I get involved in an argument and the other person does not want to listen to any reasons, I don't waste further energy on it, even if I know that I am correct. Its no use talking with a person who is not ready to listen.

Absolutely, especially when people are stubborn and thank they are always right...

Earlier, I used to waste a lot of energy and time into such arguments, trying to prove my point and see what I was talking about etc. Now I have realised that it is simply not worth the effort spending time on a person who has closed him/herself to your point of view. So I simply speak my mind and walk away.

During those times reaching to the level of silence is the most difficult proposition but it also shows when one goes into silence mode or hibernation per say, then it shows the level of control of mind one had and the way meeting with difficult circumstances could lead to control these situations and it shows the level of maturity of brain also. 

The ideal way to deal with an argument is not to be dogmatic. If necessary one of the Parties must be ready to step down.

The idea is not to create an ugly scene during arguments.

Bajirao wrote:

Some people don't like to argue..such people usually keep silent, agree with whatever an opposite person agrues with but ultimately he does whatever he wants to do..

That is being smart and remaining firm in ones convictions ..but one need not agree with the opposite person , just remain silent and listen !

Don't pull the thread until it snaps, This ia my way a follow during arguements