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Should live in ralations be accepted ?

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The marriage and property relations are governed by personal law viz. Hindu, Muslim etc. the marriage by customs of religious community is generally recognized. But now there are many couples living together without formal marriage. This is called Live in relation. The judicial opinion seems to be recognizing such relation as lawful marital relation. The question is how these relations should be dealt- under religious personal law of male or female partner and what wold e the status of children. I think that the personal law applicable to male should be applicable in such live in relationship. The minimum period of living in together should be one year or even earlier if a child is born. As this is a socially important issue, due consideration and thought is necessary.

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Harish- Extra marital relations and live in relations are certainly not acceptable in the society and these are considered immoral. However all immoral activities are not illegal. The apex court has only ruled that no body can be punished for extra marital relations, live in relations or airing views favoring these.
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@Gulshan

You are right and domains of legality and morality are different. If I steal to feed a starveling, my action may be morally right but legally it stands at an altogether different plane. Now coming to the main topic,every educated person needs to have an open mind on concepts which originate outside our shores.I,for one,never believe whatever comes from the west is good for us.We need to filtrate these before we accept and absorb them keeping Indian realities in mind.Sexual promiscuity can never be good for any society.And live-in relationship should be viewed in this light and as I have pointed out earlier that its limited acceptance and acceptability are a clear proof of Indian psyche rejecting this.
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The Apex Court judge during proceedings in the case of South Indian actress- Khushboo- referred to Radha and Krishna. In today's agra based newspaper, dainik jagran, the item is on front page. The devotees at mathura/ Vrindavan are unhappy at mention of Radha and Krishna in the context of live in relation. It may be stated that Radha and Krishna are worshiped. Krishna and Radha were childhood friends only and by no way their relation can be considered as live in relation.
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Now I understood the topic of discussion.This is a serious issue that may destroy our Indian Culture.So it should not be allowed.
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Yes, live in relation should not be accepted by Indian society.Cultural invasion is a severe problem.Beware of it.
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Live in relation is not accepted by most of Indians- especially those in small towns and villages. The only issue is whether this should be considered illegal and punished. although bad, this is not illegal and courts will not interfere.
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Live in relationship is quite common in western countries like US. However, the question here is about its acceptability.
To be acceptable anything in this world should have higher advantages and lesser disadvantages.

Advantages in this case are in the favour of the two individuals who are into such relationship.

Whereas disadvantage is for the offspring who are result of such relationships. The biggest disadvantage to the offsprings is the psychological harassment during their growing years.

Now it depends on the individuals how to convert the disadvantages into advantages and move forward.
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As in the case of pre marital sex this also may be allowed by law.But we have to keep away ourselves.
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The trend of live in relation is confined to metropolitan and big cities. The people do not actually belong to these places and locals do not know them. Nobody will inquire about marital status. If you find any couple together, you will assume that they are married. Thus, the couples can live together without formal marriage without any one noticing them. However, I do not know why these couples should just maintain live in relation if they like each other and intend to live together permanently. Only a small and simple wedding ceremony and registration is required.
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Yes gulshan... the law says that the customs of the male are to be followed...... the female changing her surname itself says this!!!!
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No Deepti. Law does not say anything about whose customs to be followed. The customs are of communities. Most communities are patriarchal. The head of family is male. But many communities especially in North East are matriarchal. In such communities, female is head of family and she inherits property. Marriage and property relations are governed by community personal law. So, we have Hindu law, Mohammedan law and Christian law for governing such relations.
The live in relations are not accepted in any community. These relations are not lawful but also not illegal. so, there can be no punishment or any disadvantage for live in relations and extra marital/ pre-marital relations.
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It is not a cultural invasion. It is a deep-rooted social stigma that is present right there in Indian societies irrespective to relations and lineages.

People are trying to legalise this social shame and make the society a hell.
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So it purely depends upon the relation and understanding of the partners. Nothing to do with society.... What ever we feel comfortable should be followed
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Humans are bound to follow social protocols... if you live your life based on mutual agreements and understandings then there will not be any difference left between humans and stray animals.
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@aanbul
The things depends how the society handles it. In western culture these things happens and they don't have any social problems. But here if some one talks every body starts murmuring about the thing and makes it an issue.
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Mostly people follow social customs. The people living away from their home town are often cut off from their main stream social life and indulge in loose relations like premarital sex and live in. These are socially bad but the law does not interfere in such cases. The law comes in picture when there is a cognizable offence or in case of non cognizable offense, the aggrieved party complains. Moreover, in such relations, there is no aggrieved party as such.
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Human civilisation and its various societies are more than 2500 years old. humans have discovered solutions to each and every possible mischiefs that people are expected to commit.
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As a deterrent to the illegal relationships and even child abuses right inside families, forgetting blood relations humans have discovered the 'Red light area' where they could quench their evil desires.
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In spite of all that people want all that they desire, legalised so that they need not follow any rules and social protocols.

Please spare time to read this article:
Do we have a child within us…?http://harishjhariasblog.blogspot.com/2009/07/analytical-article-do-we-have-child.html
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At the end it all depends on ones self control.
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Gulshan Kumar Ajmani

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