Taniya, this is a very sensitive and important issue, being a mother of a 5-year-old, I too had a great career but chose to gave it up and stay home to look after my son. I feel that there are sacrifices involved, but not just on the part of working mothers, but also for mothers who stay home. In both scenarios, you win some, you lose some. If I had chosen to keep working, I would have reaped greater financial benefits, which, let us face it, are very very important. In the bargain, I would have lost out on time spent with my child and family. But for a stay-at-home mother, she has her both hands full with household chores, errands to banks, shops, paying bills etc. along with responsibility of cooking, getting children to study, and in many cases shuffling them from one class to another. At the same time, she has no financial independence and has to make do with what she gets form her husband to run the house. And there is NO social life! So sacrifices are involved both ways! It is upto us how we look at the situation!
Taniya, this is a very sensitive and important issue, being a mother of a 5-year-old, I too had a great career but chose to gave it up and stay home to look after my son. I feel that there are sacrifices involved, but not just on the part of working mothers, but also for mothers who stay home. In both scenarios, you win some, you lose some. If I had chosen to keep working, I would have reaped greater financial benefits, which, let us face it, are very very important. In the bargain, I would have lost out on time spent with my child and family. But for a stay-at-home mother, she has her both hands full with household chores, errands to banks, shops, paying bills etc. along with responsibility of cooking, getting children to study, and in many cases shuffling them from one class to another. At the same time, she has no financial independence and has to make do with what she gets form her husband to run the house. And there is NO social life! So sacrifices are involved both ways! It is upto us how we look at the situation!
Working mothers are earning and also bringing up their children. They feel guilty that they are not spending time with their especially small children. In today's times there are many well educated mothers who have given up their jobs to look after their children. I think they are sacrificing more than working mothers.
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
By very definition, sacrifice involes 'losing something' for the benefit of 'someone'. The working mom sacrifices her career for the enefit of her child. So this is her sacrifice.[/quote
Sacrifices or whatever you call. They are necessary for having a blissful married life.
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
By very definition, sacrifice involes 'losing something' for the benefit of 'someone'. The working mom sacrifices her career for the enefit of her child. So this is her sacrifice.[/quote
Sacrifices or whatever you call. They are necessary for having a blissful married life.
But why should it be the woman only who has to sacrifice?
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
By very definition, sacrifice involes 'losing something' for the benefit of 'someone'. The working mom sacrifices her career for the enefit of her child. So this is her sacrifice.[/quote
Sacrifices or whatever you call. They are necessary for having a blissful married life.
But why should it be the woman only who has to sacrifice?
I didn't say specifically it's the women to sacrifice. I meant both
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
By very definition, sacrifice involes 'losing something' for the benefit of 'someone'. The working mom sacrifices her career for the enefit of her child. So this is her sacrifice.[/quote
Sacrifices or whatever you call. They are necessary for having a blissful married life.
But why should it be the woman only who has to sacrifice?
Earlier, or even until recently, it used to be only women. But now, more and more people are recognising the benefits of raising their child together. So even husbands are now seen taking either a sabbatical or little less demanding jobs to help their wives. Even my husband who is a freelance artists, reduced his work to such an extent that he could dedicate several hours each day to help me when my son was born. For one full year he took only very few jobs. Since we do not have any in-laws or anyone else staying with us, it was a great and welcome relief for me. Also, at that time I had given up my career, and his being home made my transition from a working woman to a stay-at-home mother very easy! But of course, it all involved prior planning and a positive attitude on part of us both!
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
By very definition, sacrifice involes 'losing something' for the benefit of 'someone'. The working mom sacrifices her career for the enefit of her child. So this is her sacrifice.[/quote
Sacrifices or whatever you call. They are necessary for having a blissful married life.
But why should it be the woman only who has to sacrifice?
Earlier, or even until recently, it used to be only women. But now, more and more people are recognising the benefits of raising their child together. So even husbands are now seen taking either a sabbatical or little less demanding jobs to help their wives. Even my husband who is a freelance artists, reduced his work to such an extent that he could dedicate several hours each day to help me when my son was born. For one full year he took only very few jobs. Since we do not have any in-laws or anyone else staying with us, it was a great and welcome relief for me. Also, at that time I had given up my career, and his being home made my transition from a working woman to a stay-at-home mother very easy! But of course, it all involved prior planning and a positive attitude on part of us both![/quote
That's an important point you have pointed - A prior planning. Along with it both husband and wife should discuss pros and cons. weigh and implement. With the mutual consent and active participation, nothing seems impossible.
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
By very definition, sacrifice involes 'losing something' for the benefit of 'someone'. The working mom sacrifices her career for the enefit of her child. So this is her sacrifice.[/quote
Sacrifices or whatever you call. They are necessary for having a blissful married life.
But why should it be the woman only who has to sacrifice?
Earlier, or even until recently, it used to be only women. But now, more and more people are recognising the benefits of raising their child together. So even husbands are now seen taking either a sabbatical or little less demanding jobs to help their wives. Even my husband who is a freelance artists, reduced his work to such an extent that he could dedicate several hours each day to help me when my son was born. For one full year he took only very few jobs. Since we do not have any in-laws or anyone else staying with us, it was a great and welcome relief for me. Also, at that time I had given up my career, and his being home made my transition from a working woman to a stay-at-home mother very easy! But of course, it all involved prior planning and a positive attitude on part of us both!
You are lucky and kudos to both of you. This trend is increasing. Old timers do find it odd when husbands help their wives in table cleaning or other house hold chores. In nuclear families it is all the more necessary . Good luck.
Finally. it all culminates to one single conclusion , "Individual's priorities and preferences." The individual's contentment ultimately counts.
True...it is after all a matter of personal choices! Some people put the wellbeing of their child first, some put personal careers ahead of all else!
By very definition, sacrifice involes 'losing something' for the benefit of 'someone'. The working mom sacrifices her career for the enefit of her child. So this is her sacrifice.[/quote
Sacrifices or whatever you call. They are necessary for having a blissful married life.
But why should it be the woman only who has to sacrifice?
Earlier, or even until recently, it used to be only women. But now, more and more people are recognising the benefits of raising their child together. So even husbands are now seen taking either a sabbatical or little less demanding jobs to help their wives. Even my husband who is a freelance artists, reduced his work to such an extent that he could dedicate several hours each day to help me when my son was born. For one full year he took only very few jobs. Since we do not have any in-laws or anyone else staying with us, it was a great and welcome relief for me. Also, at that time I had given up my career, and his being home made my transition from a working woman to a stay-at-home mother very easy! But of course, it all involved prior planning and a positive attitude on part of us both!
You are lucky and kudos to both of you. This trend is increasing. Old timers do find it odd when husbands help their wives in table cleaning or other house hold chores. In nuclear families it is all the more necessary . Good luck.
The times are changing and a new trend of sharing the problems in the family equally is emerging out. The feeling of that there is somebody who shares my burdens itself is the solution. And now this trend is gaining ground.
@TaniyaCH