Very often friendship is a case of ‘birds of the same feather’ flocking together. Sometimes, however, a friendship springs up between a bad man and a good man. So the ways of friendhsip also are mysteriouss and inscrutable. Sometimes opposites or extremes meet. Even bad man with undesirable qualities have friends.
Let’s take examples of friendship that are pleasing to the heart of dozen people. In those cases, let’s ask ourselves, what qualities are essential in a friend? The first of these qualities and the sum of them all may be described as friendliness. And what is friendliness? It is not easy to give a definition of freindliness but we all can recognise the quality. Friendliness evokes friendliness. It transcends limitations and pecularities or differences of tastes and temperaments, preferences and prolivities.
A friends should have forbearance and tolerance. He should not be short-tempered or peevish. Friendship fourishes best when there is mutual give and take. Friends sometimes differ, but they should agree to differ. A friend should be lively, he should have a good joke or a lovely remark for appropriate occasions. To be with such a friends is to have cares and dullness of spirit chased away. Liveliness begets liveliness. When a lively person enters a room the company feels as if another candle has been lighted.
A friend should be a good talker and a good listener. He should be able to make us feel an interest and a zest in life. His very coming lifts us feel our spirits and puts us in an agreablemood. Another valued quality in a friend is the rare gift of understanding. A condition of fruitful or rewarding friendship is not to have too many friends. One should have only as many friends as on one’s finger tips. We should have fit friends though few.
Friendship is an art. Tact, sympathy, the gift to share joys and sorrows, adaptability, cheerfulness, the ability to make us feel a sense of moral support in ours friend’s presence, sincerity, companionableness, kindliness, unselfishness, warm-heartedness, lovability and lovingness , the gift for those little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love which lend such a charm to life are the qualities of an ideal friend. There are times and occasions when friendship is sorely tested and tried. Friendship should be able to stand those tests and trials.
Organizing Birthday Parties-Some Tips
1.The first and foremost thing is to decide on the date,venue and time of the party.It is always better to conduct birthday parties at home as the congenial atmosphere here can never be felt in hotels.
2.It would pay to to have a rough estimate of the number of persons likely to attend the party.This will help us to avoid wastage of food items.
3.It is better not to spend too much on invitations.Make your children design some cards on their own.It is time to bring out their talents.Your child will feel very happy to see her self design in papers.It is the first step to boost his/her creativity and self confidence.
4.If you have organized the party in some function halls in hotels then don't forget to specify the landmarks and the route map to the location.Also specify the telephone numbers in the invitations.
5.It is good to select a party theme and specify it in the invitations.For example you can specify party themes like "king's and queens","Favorite cartoons","Flowers","Vegetables and Fruits"and so on.The main purpose of specifying party themes is that the children should dress up according to the party themes specified in invitations.It would be really nice to see children dressed up in a refreshingly different manner.
6.It is good to purchase dresses and all other accessories for your child and all other members of the family well in advance.This is to avoid the last minute tensions.
7.It is good to place the order for the cake well in advance.Try to design the cake in a novel way which you think your child would like.
8.Arrange for photography and Video coverage well in advance.
9.Clean the house thoroughly one day prior to the party.
10.Decorate the house with balloons,color papers,wall hangings and festoons.It is good to decorate the house with things that highlight the party theme.
11.On the day of the party,it is good to receive all guests in person.
12.Serve them with a glass of juice or water once the guests take their seats.
13.If more time is available for the party to begin, entertain the children by playing some favorite songs and cartoon CD's in DVD players.
14.It is always good to stick on to the time specified in invitations.Time Management is very important.It should not be a problem to guests who might have come from a very distant place.
15.It is good if your child say "Thanks" on receiving the gifts.It is also good to get blessing from elders.
16.Decorate the cake cutting table with all greeting cards and do not throw it away after the birthday party.Ask your child's friends to share some good things about your child and sign the card.It would really give a pleasant feeling once he/she goes through the cards some years down the lane.
17.Ensure that the knife used for cutting the cake is user friendly.
18.It is not good to scold your servants in the presence of guests.
19.The serving plates,spoons,forks and tissue papers should be kept ready.Allocate a separate table to place these items.
20.It is better to buy small packed drinking water bottles,for economy and hygiene.
21.It is good to serve children with salt biscuits, hand make cookies ,fresh fruit juices and cakes instead of junk food like pizzas,potato chips and aerated drinks.
22.A small playing area can be set up temporarily for very small children.In this way they will also indulge themselves in other activities.
23.For young kids games can be hosted before and after cake cutting.Games that focus on knowledge sharing,oratorical competition and games that focus on a theme can be selected.Games are there for children to enjoy.They should learn some good things from the games.They should learn to share things.Both success and loss should be accepted with the same mind set.
24.Place a clean towel and a hand wash near the wash basin.
25.Have a huge garbage container to collect the waste paper plates,spoons and tumblers. Never leave it unattended.Dispose it immediately.
26.It is good to gift children with some things like notebooks and toys to see happiness on their face.
Hope these party tips are very helpful to you!!!
Information technology has made strides in every field. The impact of Information technology is clearly visible in all spheres, especially in the field of communication. The world of letters has given way to messaging, SMS and chatting. There is no doubt that mobiles have now taken the centre stage of communication. Faster than the computers, mobiles have made communication fast and easy. Moreover, mobiles have now the power to manipulate and motivate people to do better things in life.
Mobiles have made things easy. Mobiles are not just electronic gadgets for making calls or sending messages, but it is something more. They are used for doing a wide variety of things like shopping online, buying tickets and even trading. Ore than this, mobiles have gone to such realms so as to influence individuals. Mobiles can have great influence on the social behaviour and also build up a new culture.
Mobiles have great influence in a democratic world. These new gadgets can change the face of a nation or an individual. They can be used to convince you to vote for a particular person during elections. In India and the US, mobiles are used more to lure voters.
Mobiles can mobilise the society to change the way it thinks. In building up awareness on environment, pollution and other malice in the society, the new technology is a great motivating force.
The SMS set out from mobiles has the gift to reach a large section. It is not that you alone sent it to your friends. Once the SMS is sent, your friends could pick it up and sent to his friends and just the word goes on, a really good campaign tool.
The government and other agencies use mobiles to spread word of important happenings. This gadget can motivate people to make contributions for some health related schemes and also to help a person in need of blood or other things.
When talking of marketing, mobiles can exert much influence. Several companies place advertisements and other information in the wires, which could tempt the users to go for it. Mobiles help the companies to have direct contact with customers.
In all, mobiles can alter the way a society behaves. It has real power of influencing the social behaviour and also in building a new culture. Mobiles have immense motivating powers to change the face of the society.
I take this opportunity to touch on a topic that has affected most of us at some point or another in our life and that is strained relationships. Not many would like to have a strained relationship affect their lives whether it is with neighbours, colleagues or at owns own home with parents, spouses, children or relatives but invariably find themselves in a situation where they are victims of strained relationships.
While the best thing is to avoid issues which lead to strained relationships it is easier said than done. However if a person becomes a victim of a strained relationships due to his fault or forced by situations and circumstances then the following tips would help in rebuilding relationship with that person though the scars will remain forever.
Stop talking for a while:- Most people after having strained a relationship damage it further with repeated provocations just to show who has emerged the winner in the entire episose while the provocation from others is out of sheer frustration generated due to the strain undergone in the break up. There are some people who go to the other extreme to pacify the other person and while it the intent is good from the initiator it is often misunderstood as a surrender by the other person. The best way to address the issue is to stop talking for a while and while it may sound negative the results are actually positive as both the parties are bound to feel guilty with each passing day and are bound to feel sympathetic towards the other person. This has worked in many cases where the patch up has happened faster than expected due to silence. If at all silence speaks then it speaks very well in the case of strained relationships. This formula has worked out wonderfully well especially at workplace where a person spends the maximum time in a day.
Please do not disclose sensitive issues with your loved ones:- If you have fought with your brother then do not disclose it with your wife. Your wife being possessive will always have a grudge against your brother even after a patch up. It is also possible that your wife out of your possessivenessmay take up the issue with your brother or his wife or both and complicate matters further. Women in general are known to be extremely possessive about their family members and are known to react strongly to sensitive issues.
Never discuss issue with mediators:- Most mediators are known to be crooked and actually wait for opportunities to complicate things as they tend to derive sadistic pleasure in seeing others suffering. Mediators escalate things by distorting facts. For example if you have told the mediator 70% good things and 30% bad things about the friend with whom you had a fight which ended in a strained relationship, the mediator is surely going to tell only 30% bad things and conveniently hide the 70% good opinion you had about your friend. There are others who are good at heart but most of them are not dependable due to poor communications and that certainly is not going to help your cause.
Patience more than anything else is the key in repairing broken relationships.
Is this correct to go for a new found love and to leave a stable relationship? There are many such cases where a person may want to leave an old and stable relationship to find a new love or a new passion. But is it good? It’s a new love or a short term infatuation. The answer is probably the second one. All such new relationships based on attraction and passion is over once we are with the person for a while or when our sexual craving for the person ends. All such relationships have no future. So you must consider this and should not be overwhelmed to find a new love or a new passion in your life. You may think that this is what really you wanted but in reality its nature’s trick to entangle you in producing more babies.
Although the culture of different country is different and thinking about sex is vastly different in each country. For example in France you can have your stable relationship as well as you can enjoy the new relationship at the same time. There are no sexual restrictions and your previous relationship is not hurt because you are indulging in a sexual relationship with another person. Therefore you are safe. But in most of the countries especially in the eastern world, such relationships can result in marital discord and you may hurt your older relationship. You can probably lose your older relationship for the newer one. Such relationships are seen in a derogatory way in theses cultures. Therefore it is advisable that if you are not sure about you r new relationship you should not enter into the newer one.
Also, it is more or less infatuation what we call a better person in your life. We look the new person in a rosy haze while we judge our old partner in a more realistic way. You need to decide about what is more important in your life. Whether you have judged the new person in a realistic way? Is it really worth to break our old stable relationship for a new passion? All these needs to be checked. In most cases, it is not advisable to break your old relationship for a new one.
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