If you are trying to learn how to save a broken relationship but continually come up short with answers, you are not alone. In fact, many people struggle everyday to keep their relationship strong and avoid a break up. This is normal human nature to worry about your relationship. The world we live in today offers many temptations and makes building a strong relationship that much harder. However, all broken relationships can be fixed by hard work from both parties and some tips listed below.
The first thing you need to decide is if this relationship is worth saving. You really need to take some time to yourself and think about this. Have you tried speaking with your partner and they have yet to change? Do you truly still love the person you are with? Are you willing to sacrifice your time and effort to make things work? These are all questions you must ask yourself before you move forward. It takes a strong effort by both people to save a broken relationship.
You need to realize that in a relationship you are not always right. Many times one person always feels that their thoughts and feelings are the only ones that count. However, leading with that mind set is a sure way to end a relationship for good. You must learn how to swallow your pride and take responsibilities in your actions. Be sure to always hear what your partner has to say and try to come to reasonable decision after. Always placing the blame on your partner and never taking any responsibility for the wrong doing will have your relationship broken in no time.
Never let any discussions turn into major fights. Being able to talk with your partner in a calm manner will go a long way. By turning all discussions into fights nothing ever gets accomplished. Not only that but it keeps you angry at your partner and that is very damaging to your relationship. Learning how to save a broken relationship is a process. It has many steps and your ability to stay calm, respect your partners feelings and talk about things will help you save your relationship.
Being honest with your partner is a very important step in saving a broken relationship. You need to honest about your feelings toward your partner and ask that they are honest back. This could bring out some unpleasant things but getting it out in the open now is better than holding a grudge. However, this could also make you and your partner both realize how much you really love each other. This process will not be easy if you and your partner have a ton of anger held in. But this is a necessary step in healing a broken relationship. Clearing your mind of all anger and negativity towards your partner will allow you to love them for who they are, not for what they did in the past.
How to save a broken relationship continues to be one of the most asked questions by couples today. Take a moment to think about all the tips and advice you read above and make a concentrated effort to save your relationship. That is, of course, if you decide the relationship is worth saving.
CONTRIBUTION OF SWAMI DAYANANDA SARSWATI
Work place of humans has two departments. The first one is Action or Karma and other is Spirituality or Adhyatma. Most of the ancient sages and religious teachers all over the world have advised to follow either of the two departments in order to attain perfection. But it was Swami Dayananda Sarswati, who made it clear to the world that both of them are necessary in a balanced form to reach Truth.
The ultimate aim of mankind is to Realise the one who is Ultimate. A Rig Vedic verse has meaning that a scholar person keeps looking toeards the path of God, in the same way, a person’s healthy eyes keep enjoying the Sun rays.
Swamiji’s biggest contribution was in the revival of rituals, form which people were getting repelled due to wrong samsakaras from their birth itself. He cautioned the people that they have been worshipping artificial God imagining that they were actually worshipping the real God. A potter makes a statue of Sri Krishna and boats himself for having this. But this is just a result of his imagination.
Arya Samaj was a result of his clear thinking. In it’s second law, he made clear the features and nature of the real God. He believed that God is one who is omnipresent, most powerful, honest, unborn, un-decaying, incomparable, possessor of the whole knowledge, ever-young, fearless, regular, pure and creator of this whole world. So only he should be worshipped.
By giving such exact and honest description of religion, Swamiji proved that a Shudre is also religious if he does his Karma in right way And even a Brahmin is most irreligious if he does anything wrong to others. By discripting religion in such a way, he made religion a regular part of regular life from a matter of temples. This introduced the questioning over many wrong rituals that existed on the name of religion in the whole society. Sages of the middle ages have mentioned religion, philosophy and unworldly powers but they have missed to mention the existing troubles in the society of their time. Sri Adi Sankaracharya opposed the wrong beliefs of Jains and he established the theory of one Brahman. He took favour of the Vedas. But he did not touch wrong beliefs like Child Marriage, Widow no-re-marriage, caste descrimination, touchable and untouchables and eatable and uneatable. Ramanuja and many others kept their movements limited to temples only. None took favour of education of women and Shudras or invitation to other religious groups to understand our religion. It was his the result of his strenuous efforts that today Vedic knowledge is being seek by the whole world. He gave special effort to this since Vedas contain the whole knowledge.
Swami Vivekananda, favourite desciple of Sri Rama Krishna Paramhansa, also took his earlier spiritual education from Arya Samaj. Many other great leaders too received a lot of knowledge from it.
Swamiji’s contributions cannot be weighed ever. Generations too come will feel the education he gave to the world.
SACRIFICES OF SAVARKAR IN FREEDOM MOVEMENT
Indian Freedom Movement has seen sacrifices of many Martyrs who have sacrificed everything for freedom. ‘Vinayak Damodar Savarkar’ is one among them. He was born to free India, he lived for it and he died for it.
Savarkar was born in Bhangurpur village of Maharashtra on 28th May, 1883. He received patriotism from hid forefathers. His grand father Vinayak Dixit and father Damodar too were great patriots.
Savarkar used to listen stories of patriotism of Shivaji and Maharana Pratap since his childhood. In the student life itself, he dreamt of being great Revolutionaries Gary Baldi and Mazzini. He used to work for nation since then. He was much impressed from Lokmanya Tilak. With blessings from Tilak, Savarkar started boycott of British items and his action of burning of foreign clothes in Pune became famous all over the country. Britishers were alarmed at the situation and they started to look for some reason to dismiss him from his college. He was dismissed and was fined. Even then he passed Bombay University exams with good grades. While studying in the college, Savarkar started two societies ’Mitra Mela’ and ‘Abhinava Bharat’ to destro British Government in India and free India.
In 1905, he went to England for study of Law on advice of Bal Ganga Dhar Tilak. Even then his nerves were not peaceful. He lived in ‘India House’ there and this place was main center of Indian Revolutionaries. Savarkar became associate of Sri Shyam Krishna Verma and after sometime, he was made head of ‘India House.’ Here itself, he wrote ‘Mazzin’, ‘History of Sikhs’ and ‘Swatantray Samar’. British Government put censorship over the books reaching India but somehow some copies reached. This made Savarkar very famous and so even after completing his Baristory, he was denied certificate.
Savarkar’s famous book were witten in Marathi but its English transliteration also go published. This book gave a lot of views to the revolutionaries. It contained the description of the 1857 Revolution. With publication of this book, Revolutionary associates in London arranged an Association.
Savarkar made a plan to free India. He thought that spreading revolutionary ideas through posters and speeches are helpful but they are not very effective to destroy the root of British Government. He said that firstly weapons should be sent to India and for receiving military training revolutionaries should be sent to Belgium, Americas, Switzerland, and Egypt. His idea was to establish secret societies in all villages of India and these societies be connected to the trainers in other countries for good action.
Savarkar was not limited to revolutionaries in England, he helped those in India too whenever he could. He sent 20 Browning Pistols to India secretly in 1909.
Upon knowing the actions of the revolutionaries, British Government tried to arrest him. So he flew to Paris in the beginning of 1910. He lived there in house of Bhikaji Kama. He returned back to England in March, 1910 and then he was arrested for having flown. After his arrest, Virendranath Chattopadhya and Aiyyar managed the revolution. After judgement, he was ordered to be sent back to India.
On 8th July, when his shp was standing on the Port of Mersailles, he escaped through the Pot Hole of the Toilet. And after this event, he came to be called ‘Vir Savarkar’.But he was recaptured and was given to British officers. Newspapers of France opposed the action of the French Authorities.
Keeping all the oppositions and movements, British Government sent Savarkar to India. He was brought to Bombay on 22 jUly, 1910. The Government tried its best for Savarkar to get worst punishment possible. Savarkar spent 1911-1924 in Cellular Prison in darkness. During his days in there, he was being used in cart instead of bull. He also was to grind grains with stone grinders. He was brought to Ratnagiri Prison after 1924 but he was released for 5 years on account of his bad health.
Hearing of the sacrifice of Swami Shraddhananda in 1927 in Delhi, Savarkar joined Suddhi Movement ad started reuniting the society. He was released permanently in 1937 and then he was welcomed warm-heatedly in Bombay. He opposed all evils of the society and he remained Chairman of Hindu Mahasabha from 1937 to 1947.
Symbol of patriotism, sacrifice and courage, Savarkar left the world on 26th January 1966 at the age of 83 years. Though he is not with us, his sacrifices for he Independence of the Country will be felt forever.
Some people are never sick, summer and winter, while others require the handkerchief and all seem to fail. To increase resistance is a lot of money, but mostly with limited results. If we want to protect against colds, flu, allergies and various diseases of affluence is much we can effectively channel resources. We can change our eating and living habits, but our mood, emotions, sex and social contacts have an important impact.
Be positive, make useful, get active and go outside
It is proven that a good mood and can deal with stress and criticism of the health benefits. Conversely, we know have long known that negative emotions are bad for the constitution.
It is also proved that it is important for you to feel useful. People who do not feel useful are more prone to depression as a strong negative effect on health. In men it is also a proven thereby potentially problems.
Also sports and being active is good for body and mind. The correct materials are released in the head and body and all important body processes work better. The best is a combination of an endurance and strength training, but of course also all other activities meaning.
Tips
* Treat yourself well. If you look good, you feel better.
* Make your home, your car or your desk clean, tidy and cozy. Prefer to work with all windows and doors. Sing or turn on the radio. Even better, nice work regularly in the
* garden. You'll be happier, you feel useful and you're doing good.
* Often make a long walk, do it by the weather and preferably in nature.
* Be friendly and cheerful against your fellow man and take a nice remark to strangers or tell them goodbye. Friendliness and cheerfulness works quickly contagious.
* Put the groceries in a cheerful mood on the bike if it rains steal. Know that you are healthier and fitter and more boring than going through the road passers in the car.
* Do you get criticism or you get a lot of stressed people around you to immerse yourself in coping than once. Coping is about the way you deal with problems and stress.
* People who are managing a bit more resilient. This has proved a positive effect on the resistance.
Guilt, shame and other unwanted behavior
Guilt is a negative emotion that we do to ourselves. Many people who feel guilty tend to punish themselves. A negative emotion is amplified by a new negative emotion. We feel so poor that we do our negative behavior to repeat. We promise to get well, but that is usually a form of self sabotage.
Shame is another emotion that we have nothing and who only comes from ourselves. In both cases, we forget that we are not perfect, as nobody is perfect. People who feel ashamed or feel guilty are usually not pleasant company.
This also applies to people who are uncertain or modest. Too much uncertainty or modesty is not appreciated, that people are not nice. Let yourself go, accept that you are not perfect, as nobody is perfect and dare to show who you are and what you want.
All negative emotions have a negative effect on resistance. It has direct effect on the fabrics in our head and our body processes and everything is enhanced by our surroundings, our negative emotional reaction.
Tips
* People love people who love themselves, though they have so many errors. A confident and humorous and funny ugly is better company than a dull or boring handsome.
* Confuse self-confidence not arrogance. Do not think you are better than another, but do not be afraid to make mistakes and dare to laugh at yourself.
* If you make a mistake or does something not appreciated please be honest and open about it. Criminal yourself and do not pull back, but excuse yourself and accept that you have shortcomings.
* Promise not get well, but prefer to do something right is positive. So you break negative spirals.
Sex and your relationship
Also sex is proven to be several good reasons for your health, like having a good relationship. Talking about issues is good, but do not always elle long talks about the shortcomings of others. It is better for yourself and others to accept and appreciate for what they are worth.
If you keep commenting on your partner or your bothers him or her, keep yourself once a mirror. It is often difficult to analyze yourself, but how you respond to one another, almost always more about yourself than about the other. Often you will see yourself in your skin or not is up or bothers the other to your own shortcomings.
Try not to change your partner, that is counterproductive and is not usually necessary. If you are pleasant company for your partner and there is a change, he or she set to work with themselves. If you have nicer together shows the shortcomings of others a lot less serious.
Do you often comment on other than that generally means that the other person does not feel comfortable if he or she is facing you with a less positive attribute of itself. Accept that this is not too heavy and involve yourself.
Tips
* Regularly do or say something nice or tickling, massage or hug your partner more often. Let them know you appreciate the other.
* Nobody is perfect, dare to laugh at your own shortcomings.
* Ask your partner just to have some patience with you when you have a bad temper and the inclination to give to the other. Your mood is naturally.
* Humor and teasing are often fast valued, if only because the other shows that you have fun yourself, in the presence of the other and because of that pleasure soon contagious.
* Try not to be insecure in bed, but it shows us what you like and that you enjoy it.
Social contacts and leisure
People with more friends seem to be healthier than people with few friends. Not everyone finds it so easy to make contact, but you do not immediately become friends with one another. The pleasant contact with people has effect.
Relaxation also works wonders. Stress is a major factor weerstandshogende, a resistance-reducing relaxation. For relaxation we can think of walking in the nature of sports, but also social events. The point here is that the head is not busy with the everyday routine.
Tips
Tell me more often spontaneously hi to your fellow man, even to strangers on the street.
If you find it difficult to make contacts may well work to sign up at a club or association where you're active in groups like a team sport or bowling, shuffleboard or cards for example.
*The great leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, Dr. Babasaheb Ambetkar, Mahatma Jyoti Phule, worked hard to educate the masses and make them realize that they should get proper treatment from the society.
Sweeper
He sweep the roads clean and we remove the garbage you all through. Sometimes, the garbage stinks. He become sick but he does not complain.
You all throw sharp objects out of you windows. They hurt badly at times but nobody cares. Many people do things that they should not do blame him.
Drainage cleaner
Going down the manholes and cleaning the sewers is a horrible task. He is not given masks to cover our faces. He is not given protection for our feet. Everybody throws plastic bags and other undesirable things in the drainage. The drainage gets blocked. When the rain comes the roads are flooded. The traffic stops, electric supply is interrupted. But for all this, we are blamed.
We want nothing more but a little consideration from the society.
Construction worker
You live in tall buildings, in big houses which we built. We climb to great heights, carry bricks, sand, stones etc. sometimes we have to climb to the top floors, without proper support and are exposed to great risks.
- Our houses are thatched shelters, changing as we move our places of work. Our children are just running, changing as we move our places of work.
- Our children are just jumping about in the sun.
- Our babies are tied in hammocks to the branches of trees.
- Fortunately, mobile crèches provide some solution as they teach our children and look after them. The mobile crèche vans do not always comes as they have to go to many other places.
Post man
He brings you letters, percales, greetings etc.
Whether in extreme heat, cold or rain, and he do his work. He climbs so many floors every day in many buildings. As it is extremely tiring at times, it was suggested that every buildings should have a mail box on the ground floor in a common place and that the residents should collect their mail from there. This did not work. People felt that some important letters may be lost so the same old system continues. People welcome him eagerly, as he brings news. When there was a postal strike, people were upset as important letters reached late.
Milk supplier
He brings milk to your door everyday and supplies you with energy food.
He gets up early in the morning and goes to the milk center. If the milk van comes early we are lucky; otherwise he has problems. People get displeased, if the milk is delivered late. So he always has to be in a hurry. There are some people, who do not open the door soon enough, he has to ring the bell or knock several times. Some milkmen indulge in wrong practices, and hence he has looked upon with suspicion.
Vegetables vender
He brings the vegetables to your doorsteps.
He goes to Gudimalkapur to fetch them from the whole sale market. He did not get the vegetable cheaper as before because the main wholesale market. They have to travel in crowded vans.
In the market the prices are very high selecting fresh and good vegetables is indeed of difficult task as they have to purchase them within a limited budget.
Any way, it is job of him. He has to do it, whatever be the difficulties. Some of the customers are understanding and do not mind paying a little more. Others bargain and sometimes put to great loss.
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