The sad part is although education has reduced dowry cases in the civilised educated society but problem of dowry hasn’t crushed from the roots.
Iam writing this article because I have seen lots of cases of such kind of smart and shrewd ways of acquiring dowry in my city and in my surroundings.
Nowadays because of fear of increasing complaints and cases by girls against their In-laws dowry has taken a sophisticated form.It does not hurt girls physically or does not leave any proofs of torture but the girls are hurt emotionally and in sophisticated ways so that she cannot raise voice also as she has no solid grounds to prove torture just by words and forced just to bear things in her heart.
The girl’s parents are giving the best of best to the boy and his family in the name of dowry or call it a lavish wedding but still girls are often told by their In-laws that their parents have given very good gifts, but could have given better saris’, better sweets, better household items and rich and expensive gifts.
Girls try to ignore these things and never speak to their parents about it on their own but parents feel such indifferent attitude and unexpected words of In-laws of their daughter.
They finally decide to always give the best costliest and expensive gifts to their son in law, more cash and more of jewellery to their daughter and her In-laws.
Even after doing so In-laws often comment that marriage was good but decoration and venue could have been better and it would have been good if dry fruits and cash would have been given more.
They often comment on the gifts given by daughter in law’s parents on several occasions that if this would have been given it would have been better or if that would have been given it would have been better.
They directly indirectly say their daughter in law that so and so parents of the girls give excellent gifts to their daughters which was indirectly comment on their own daughter in-law and her parents.
Their demand indirectly increases to such a height that tolerance of the girls break and they finally choose to complain this to their parents and as we know the consequences are nothing but the relationship which should have been long lasting spoils between everyone.
The solution to such problem is very complicated as by reading we find such issues so petty and minor but the person who goes through such mental torture only can understand the pain. As nowadays people are educated so they know the legal process and its hassles and fear them, so instead of torturing girls directly they are hurting them by words and constant comments in order to get their demands fulfilled.
The solution according to our mindsets is that the parents of the boy should not use such weapons to get their demands fulfilled and encourage dowry in a new modern form.
As we know the demands of a person are never ending process so girl’s parents should also become firm and should not fulfil the demands of boy’s parents often.Girl should also become strong and firm and instead of tolerating must question the boy’s parents boldly of their indirect reckless behaviour. If all the girls and their parents will become bold such sophisticated measures to acquire dowry will stop automatically.
Those who are educated will soon open their eyes and will not do such low level deeds because definitely such people knows, our education doesn’t teaches us such acts and deeds instead it teaches us to broaden our vision.
The ultimate solution is with God who has still not enlightened the people towards dowry. If dowry is taken through any means whether through torture or sophistication it is a crime and God should stop people from doing such crime.
The essence of this article is that all the parents of the boys should free themselves from greed. They should understand the worth of a daughter and feelings and sentiments of others. Above all they should understand the worth of a person instead of giving supreme importance to money. And even Girls and their parents should become bold and raise voice against such injustice.