Friends are really important for us to keep us relaxed in life. People do share their secrets with them which they can’t share with anyone else. Even they are the ones who help us when we are in any difficulty. I have lots of friends and I am proud to have them as they always stand in support for me whenever I ask them and even I always remain ready to help them when I see them getting in trouble and that’s life we have to help people if want to seek help from them. But not many people have friends there are people who don’t know how to make friends. Its not that difficult I am giving some tips for them and hope it would be help them and they would make lots of friends following these:
Spend more time with people surrounding you
It’s a fact that if you devote more time with some specific group then it is more likely that you would be able to make friends from that group. As I too do that and most of my friends are either from school/college time or the place where I worked or working. Therefore its better to try to make friends which you think you could be able to devote time with.
Join some organization/social group which interest you
Its good to join some group of the same interest that you have. I co-relate this with an example like my father is retired from government services 6 years back and in the starting he used to get bored while sitting at home whole day. He started doing yoga in the morning and joined a group who used to do Yoga in the park and that way he made lot of friends and now he has so many friends from that group that now he does not feel bore being at home too as he has several friends to get along with.
Talk to people
I have noticed that people who are talkative make friends easily than the people who don’t and are shy. Some people don’t even feel shy to talk with the strangers they just smile and start talking to them. This is good way to make new friends but one should also make sure that the stranger with whom they talk should be worth enough to be a friend.
Get together
In many get together we find some new people and we make them friends if we talk to them. It happens with me many times whenever I go somewhere in small functions I meet lot of new people and make new friends there by communicating with them.
Be a good listener
It is always said that when a person listens to people he/she is liked by people. Consider the case of an organization where the person who listens to the problem of a subordinate is always liked by him than those who don’t and just ask them to work and meet targets.
Many of the people make friends at work place so it’s not a bad idea to have friendship with your colleagues or subordinates. I too have lots of friends at my work place I do get a benefit of having a friendly environment in the office too due them.
Friendly nature
It is said that those people who have positive attitude towards life are likely to make friends compared to those who have the habit of crying even on the small issues so be broad minded and take things not very seriously people will definitely get attracted towards you ending up with the friendship.
Many qualities like loyalty, politeness, willing to help others are certainly the qualities which always attract people so we must try to have these qualities to get friends.
Hope this will help you all to get friends I know its not at all easy but we can try some of the tips who knows we may get few friends added in the list by applying them.
It takes just a minute to make up your mind,sixty seconds that can change the course of your life ..
Time Is a Precious Commodity
Most people tend to think that a minute is an insignificant amount of time.We get to hear people say " I'll be there in a minute ' or " Wait a minute ', when they really dint mean a minute , but were actually talking about ten,fifteen or even thirty minutes, probably longer than even that ! A minute as a figure of speech is something that we all take largely for granted. But, as we grow older one begins to realize that a minute was not only vital but that it was the starting point of all things.Minutes create hours and we simply cannot afford to throw them away.If you throw pennies or rupees as the case may be , you have the opportunity and the capability to earn it back or make more.
But, that is not the case with time, you have a limit on your time , the number of minutes you live on this earth. So, it is very important to respect the minutes which in turn make hours ,days and years .Once lost , that minute can never be recaptured again.What you do with your minutes is what ultimately determines what you are doing with your life.
Time Management
When we consider the fact that we all have twenty four hours to each day,1,440 minutes and no one gets a minute more than that however rich or powerful the person may be , we also begin to respect the importance of time .What is far more crucial is what people do with the time given to them..
Do you see many others moving on in life , while you are steady at going nowhere ? May be you have come to the conclusion that nothing much can be done with your life ! However, have you ever analysed and thought as to what or who is holding you back ? The obvious answer is Yourself ! It is upto everyone of us to take charge of our life and make it what we want and it takes only a minute to make up your mind that now is the time to decide and get on with what you want of your life and fulfil your dreams.It may not seem like a big deal but it definitely is a big deal, because a minute is the starting point of building your dreams and that's why we must cherish every minute and use our minute wisely.
Kipling rightly said " Fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds worth of distance run ' - means use your time wisely because the minute is unforgiving, it does not care who you are or what your position is? When we take the average life span of a human being and convert the years into days and minutes , and feel those minutes ticking away , we realise the importance of time . So make sure that every single minute of your time works for you. This calls for decision making and to make a decision you must first know where you want to go.You need to have a dream and be motivated !
Think, Believe and Achieve
We see that every great accomplishment and every outstanding achievement comes about because people were willing to go after the impossible !To do the incredible you must first dream the impossible and then you must get motivated and make it happen .
' Motivation' is a word taken from the Latin word motere which means to take action. Every minute that educates,inspires and motivates you is a minute that can also change your life.When we talk about motivation and motivating ourselves we are also talking about understanding, believing , acting and achieving our dreams. Like they say , If you aim at nothing that is probably what you will hit ! Some people have the knack of coming up tops inspite of all adversities ,it is not just a matter of luck , but staying motivated and effective time management from their side . A dream mixed with self confidence ,determination, persistence and strong action is bound to succeed . It has been told that Excellence is the best job security there is , so also the best way to manage your time.
Finding your life's purpose keeps you positive and mentally engaged .It could be anything that you believe in right from being a housewife and a mother to being a career oriented person or trying to excel in some art. While you are here it is essential that you find a purpose and lead life to the fullest, pursue excellence and live your dreams.
Have Faith in yourself to achieve the impossible and you are sure to get positive results.Time management is all about putting your time to the maximum use. It is only when you act that you can excel ! The Chinese have a powerful proverb which states , " I hear and I forget, I see and I remember , But I do and then I really understand " so we have to do or act upon our dreams, motivate ourselves and achieve our goals.
Change Is The Essence Of Life
You go to the beauty parlor and get yourself a new hairstyle or wear a stylish new outfit which makes you feel good .Similarly, we must also change and reinvent ourselves to improve and excel. A change is welcome when an individual is learning and moving higher up in life .
An attitude change boosts ones morale.Our attitude is nothing but a combination of our thinking, our emotions and our way of viewing events , things and circumstances around us , which means one's attitude is what you do and how you respond to situations in your life . Developing a positive outlook , positive expectancy and a positive mental attitude pays rich dividends . Thee is a saying ' Miracles usually come to those who expect them and welcome them'. It is no use that you become a whirlwind of activity but achieve nothing. You should be willing to give that extra little bit, constantly improve and reinvent yourself.
Following the Seven Simple Rules of Life helps !
- Choose to be happy and you will be happy,it is as simple as that ! Smile at the world and the world smiles back at you .
- Greet each day with expectancy no matter what past burdens you are carrying with you. Hope is the best tonic for us.
- Treat others the way you would like to be treated by them. This way you will not get any upleasant shocks in life !
- Take time to dream,also introspect and think deeply!
- Be Grateful ! we must remember that if there were no problems there would be no opportunities as well !
- Life is a lot like going to school, all or most attend , but very few understand and put it into action.
- Work hard ,Prepare for the difficult times ahead but most of all Never Give Up !
To conclude, it only takes a minute to change your life and your attitude towards life and the minute you make the decision the battle is won !
Sycophancy is not the art of real growth
There are several ways to progress in our lives being it social or professional but flattery is certainly not the right way to do it. Only time honored hard, honest and sincere work is the right choice to go up the ladder in most cases and the one who choose to do it through wrong means certainly would bite the dust sooner or later. No boss is going to like any thing better than a punctual, responsible and hardworking employee does for his organization than some one looking too sweet but doing nothing at all.
In fact, flattering is limited to a particular boss only but hard and true work is appreciated by one and all and has no substitute for the same. If a sycophant finds himself in a tough situation then only does he realizes the value of hard work or ‘works hardy’, flattery does not come forward to save him in such cases. One needs to work hard and according to need to impress his bosses rather than being a sycophant to please a particular boss, which in my view is not sufficient to impress the whole team.
Complete your work on time
There is no shortcut to success apart from hard work and planned schedule. If you cannot complete your work according to demand of the project and plan it as per the required schedule of advance planning, you are not going to impress your bosses. One has to be very careful to keep updated and up to the mark to be a successful worker who deserves all the appreciations from his seniors. They might not say so on your face but while the time comes, you shall find yourself right on top of the promotion list.
Being hones is must
In case of failure of , that is part of the game so no big deal, be hones and tell it to your seniors so that a way could be found out to make things right. Hiding it and finding ways to save you would only complicate the situation further beyond repair. The honesty in such cases only reveals your character. Never try to hide the facts because once you begin compromising with your true thoughts than you are no more trustworthy for any one because that gaming with the system is bound to show its colors sooner than later.
You must look liking working
I know some people like to work but do not want to show themselves off. However, this is important that your work should reach to your boss because there are some smart workers around in every organization who are looking for taking credit for others work. Therefore, this is necessary that you should work tactfully and discuss your work with your boss from time to time to control the situation well and keep reins in your own hands. Be careful to not to look over-smart and too assertive while handling the boss, that should be done smoothly.
You should respect your boss but with self respect in mind
I have seen some smart workers who happened to be ‘yes men’ there is no harm doing it up to a limit but not at the cost of your own respect. If you choose to be a yes man even if the point in question is totally wrong or harmful for your project make it clear. Put forward your own viewpoint that should help in making your image better and self-respect grow. I also know that some bosses like and get impressed by flattery. In such cases he might take you for granted, give him respect but never compromise with your own principles.
Do not shirk from responsibility
I know some good workers remain overloaded with work because they know how to deal with it but this becomes a little hard while you reach to your work place and another assignment is waiting for you. Now what would you do! A refusal is not the solution but a minus point for an efficient worker. This could be another trial for your efficiency. The good workers are always under the scanner and tested different ways therefore this is wise to discuss with your boss before accepting the new assignment explaining him in detail about your ongoing project and work schedule already in hand. Talk about time frame before giving a nod in affirmative. That certainly would bring you in good books o your boss.
Do not wait for things to happen move them your own way
There are times when a colleague must go on emergency leave, move forward and offer your services to share the workload of project before the boss finds some one to do the job. That would certainly give you a few extra points and your managerial skills would be highlighted to make it a big plus in the eyes of your superiors. This only shows your abilities to handle the situations and coming good at crucial junctures in adverse conditions, even your coworkers would find it motivating and helpful.
You should be little extra active
How would you like to help your superiors or colleagues while you have no particular project in hand and can spare time to support your coworkers? In fact, this habit can do wonders for you because the habit of helping others is a rare gesture and this stands you out of the crowd. People who really matter may notice it sooner or later and their lies your chance to go up the ladder. There is no harm helping others out of their workload if you can afford to do that.
Go beyond the rules
Sounds strange, yes it does! However, this is not as strange as it sounds. Most people think that going beyond the rules is not done, true in most cases this is not good to go against set rules but if you have some nice solutions to solve certain problems there is no harm applying them. At the most, you can discuss about such applications with your superiors before applying them. In some cases, these may look like a risky game but if it works, you have a bright future waiting for you.
Now back to Flattery
- I recently was on a public forum where members were discussing sycophancy a way of going to next level in different fields of life. I have my own way of thinking on this subject, please read them as I have tried to raise a few points here-
- You can find it a way of going up only in case if your boss finds your work satisfactory, no boss can afford to have an employee at the cost of loosing targets and imperfect work.
- You must understand your responsibilities yourself; no boss likes to repeat them occasionally unless you want to make him feel bad. Sycophancy works up to a limit only.
- You should accept your shortcomings humbly no matter those are big or small. You cannot hide them with the help of false excuses.
- One should avoid criticism, bad comments and dirty politics because such things only divert you from your chosen path up to a great extent and make you forget your performance.
- You cannot help it but to keep yourself up to date and understanding things well while with your coworkers, misunderstandings only reduce your capacities of a good worker, Cooperation not only improves yours but the performance of the whole organization.
In our daily life money is very, very important. To get that money we need energy to work. To get that energy we have to eat healthy food. We can prepare healthy food by using vegetables, rice and dal. These food items are produced by farmers. The real enemy of our world is not terrorism. The real enemy is hunger and poverty. Plants and trees are giving food items for us. To plant the plants and to take care of that is the work of farmers. In the forming they have daily works, it is the permanent work till the end of the world. It is not like our ordinary job. They worked in the form day and night. But they don't get enough money to survive their life.
In the forming there is no fear for the next day. They are working for us in the heavy sunlight and heavy raining. They are hard working for us from morning to night. India is the large scale producer of spices. Spicy items are not found in foreign countries. We are thinking spicy items coming from farmers very easily, but it is very hard to produce spicy items. India is producing spicy items in large scale for all the countries, and export the spicy items to the countries.
India is a producer of raw rice. In Tamilnadu large amount of rice is produced in the district of Tanjore. South India is producing rice in large scale. South India is producing rice in large scale. Pepper is produced mainly by Indians. It is only produced by India not by any foreign countries. India is a producer of pepper for foreign countries in large scale.
In the foreign countries pepper is called as Black gold. Pepper is good medicine for cough. It is the best cough reliever.
Milk with pepper power is a great medicine for cough. Formers should be praised for all the times for their great help. They are serving for the good being of world.
Management of life is most important
You know I always used to think about a particular point during my working days, it’s not that I am not working now but those were my regular working days when I was cut off from myself and was busy with my job and family only. I never had any time for myself. Work, work and nothing else but work, that was my permanent routine.
Then it happened suddenly, I decided to spare some time for myself only. I decided to give-up every thing related to work. No more office or job, just me and my family and as I had no liability as such because my only child was well settled therefore this was not much of a problem for me.
This is all about searching our own self
I recall the book I read in 2009 ‘The monk who sold his Ferrari’ a rich advocate who had every thing and could afford to live very lavishly but too busy earning money and had no time for himself. Once he fell ill seriously inside a courtroom while making arguments in front of a judge he had a stroke and that changed his life. He decided to change his life style after giving it a deep thought. He was simply eager to know the exact reason of him being so busy with earning money and not enjoying the life.
There are number of people who are living almost the same without thinking about themselves and living life just to make money despite having every thing. I know some people spending twelve to sixteen hours earning money, doing jobs, which do not attract them a bit, but they keep on doing it like a robot and that too when most of them can do without doing the same. They are least worried about their hobbies, health or priorities in their lives.
I remember my own incident when I decided to ‘call it a day’ way back in 2009 I had too many issues in my mind, which were disturbing me and not letting me concentrate on my job. That was it, I decided to quit and go to where there was no mobile network, no newspaper and no work pressure whatsoever. Haridwar, my favorite place where I have been to time and again for a day or two but this was going to be a bit different. I had planned to stay there for longer duration. I wanted to know and live for myself this time around, away from every link that connected me with outer world.
The younger generation is wiser in this respect as they take a break from time to time from heir work and go out to take a break after a tiring routine that is demand of the day. They are right, the work pressure of the present day work environment is so tedious for body and mind that it generates lots of stresses to send one into state of ‘stress burnout’ therefore this is absolutely must to take regular break from the work and go to relax yourself.
That is management of body and mind when we cut ourselves off from outer world and try to know about our own priorities of life. This is better to stay in a place where we are exposed to nature, which make us feel totally a different person from the one we usually are while in our regular routine job. People find it altogether different and refreshed when they come back to work entirely rejuvenated and ready to take the bull by the horn. Although I preferred to stay out of a regular job despite remaining busy almost as much as before but according to my own choice and will.
This is not age related
Trust me this is nothing to do with aged people only but most young professionals are feeling the heat of the lifestyle and busy schedules, which are burning them out. I have seen some college students on different tours those were in search of peace after having done studies, movies, partying and other such activities. They were looking to a place where they would not find any thing to indulge in any such activity but stay calm and cool, doing nothing.
I know this is human psychology to indulge in some new activities once they feel their present job too monotonous and eating them up. They want to do some thing new, different from run of the mill type. They want to have some new experiences of life and some of them have really changed entirely after going through such experiences. They have even changed their field of profession that suits them better than their previous jobs.
I must refer to the person here who is selling flowers and Prasad on the roadside on way to Vaishno Devi. I would not disclose his identity but he is a management graduate who held a good post in Delhi in a big multinational company. He is happy and satisfied with his present life in every aspect including peace of mind and money. He is only thirty-five years old so one cannot call him old and tired but only the matter of satisfaction.
The fact is when some one starts afresh in his life with a new profession, new environment and totally cutoff from his old routine, he simply thinks in a different way with a new experience every day. He even thinks about his hidden desires, which he always wanted to do but was not able to fulfill due to his busy schedule. However this is not a common practice but happens occasionally and rarely.
Meditation is one good way to keep fit and fine
There is a very famous meditation center in my area just about one hundred kilometers away in Saharanpur district of UP called Mokshayatan International Yogashram (This is not a promotional destination please) here people come from allover the world in search of peace and experiencing the power of meditation.
Most of them admit that they leave the center as a different person after following the lifestyle of this center. The life style of the center is altogether different from the city life that we are generally used to. Therefore, the change in schedule and life style in such places changes and rejuvenates us from tip to toe.
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