Is this what you are thinking at the moment? I know He must have found someone else. He is lying to me these days. He must be roaming around with another lady. All these doubts and there starts the impairment of a loving relationship.
Dipti was undergoing this difficult phase of her life where she was losing her trust on her partner. Is it Dipti’s fault or the circumstances have compelled her to think negative? What if her husband is coming late from work, what if he has female friends, what if she sees him talking to a female? Are these the reasons for her suspicion and is it valid? If yes, her relationship is going to be jeopardised sooner or later. Let’s look at few basic things which we can’t ignore and they happen intentionally or unintentionally when we encounter such situation:-
a) Lose of trust: - You start losing your trust on your partner/husband once you start looking at him with suspicion.
b) Making assumptions: - Second thing that starts is our assumptions which are meaningless and completely irrational. He is coming late from work, Ok that means he must be going with someone after his usual office hrs. I saw him talking to a female, which must be his new girlfriend.
c) Nothing is ignored: - You start observing trivial and trifling things/changes in him which you have never taken notice of or not ever bothered about. You start looking if he is got any new hair style, what uniform he is wearing, what perfume he uses etc.
d) Checking purse and other important stuff which you have never done before: - You tend to check his purse whether there is a slip containing some important number or somebody’s address. If you find one that too with a female name on it, there u lose your peace of mind and you start brainstorming & searching for something which does not exist at all. It does not stop here , if you don’t find anything further, you start searching everywhere, his laptop, telephone diary, office diary etc.
e) Keeping an eye on his phone: - There used to be a time when your husband’s phone ring, you used to give it to him, saying that it’s for you. Now the situation is, if it rings you will pick it up and will lie to him, it’s nothing to do with you, it’s for me. In the middle of the night, when your husband is fast asleep, you find nothing more important than to check his mobile messages, calls etc.
f) Developing communication gap: - With all the above things getting piled up in your mind, automatically you stop communication with him. Though he takes efforts to talk to you, it does not affect you
So these were things which started happening with Dipti which finally led to the end of her relationship, which could have been saved. Such a situation can be very detrimental for anyone and needs to be settled before it comes to an end. How? It’s not an easy task but let’s have a look on few things which we should never ignore when encountered with such a situation.
a) Don’t ignore the obvious: - you can see, he is working hard and is coming late from the work just for a happy and comfortable life for both of you.
b) Be patient: - Even If you are having some doubt, avoid losing your temper and don’t just get into unnecessary arguments with him. Though it’s difficult but try to be patient to behave normally with him.
c) Keep the communication doors open: -- Give him a chance to describe and clarify things to you. Keep the communication on from your side and listen to his part as well, don’t keep it for the last day.
d) Don’t encourage & justify your doubts: - Avoid justifying your doubts by looking for something or the other from his appointment diary, mobile, purse etc.
e) Introspect yourself: - Before reaching to any conclusion, ask yourself, examine yourself, what are you doing and is that right? It will help you to take your time and understand things in a more logical and rational way.
f) Stop assuming: - Keep yourself hundred miles away from false alarms. It’s always better to ask than to just sit and think, this might have happened, or this could be the case. You can be absolutely wrong.
I wouldn’t do this ever in my life, I will only do whatever my parents would say, I don’t believe in the concept of love marriage and many more such statements we do say at certain point of our life. Do we really stick to “Wouldn’t do ever, Will always do, I don’t believe” kind of things?
Case 1:-Saloni, eagerly waiting to be a bride in the next month, while sharing her thoughts and beliefs about love marriage 4 years ago amongst her friends. She said “I don’t believe in the concept of love marriage and would get married to whoever my parents decide for me”. Two years back she met a guy in her classmate with whom she fell in love with. She told her parents about it. Initially they didn’t like it and were not very happy about it. She went around with this guy for 2 years in spite of her parent’s reluctance and now she is going to be married to this fellow after a month. Recently one of her friends also got married but Saloni’s parents does not want to invite her in their daughter’s marriage. Saloni feels the same and says about her friend, “there is no harm in going for love marriage but she shouldn’t have done it in another caste.
Case 2:- Saurabh, son of an I.A.S officer, talks about his father,” My father is a very honest man and he just hates taking or giving bribe.” Saurabh had just appeared for his engineering exam and he could not do well in his exam. He was very worried about it and asked his father to do something about it. His father met the director and offered a lot of donation, sort of bribe for his son’s admission. Saurabh’s friends who knew that he didn’t do well in the exams, asked him how did he get the admission? He said “My father had to give them some money since it was really a big issue, it was the question of my future that’s why my father bribed the director, otherwise he wouldn’t ever do this, and I am sure about it”.
”Well it’s difficult to decide who is right or who is wrong here. But one thing is very clear that Saloni justified what she did and is justifying for not inviting her friend even. It’s not just about Saloni or Saurabh, it happens with everyone. The only thing is that if it happens with others, it’s unacceptable but if it’s with you, conveniently modify the so called your value system and principles.
We keep on changing our statements, our principles and some values which we decide to stick to forever in our life, as per our convenience or whenever required. We take the liberty of being a human being in that case but why we are never ready to accept this truth, May be because of:-
Ø Fear of loss of identity
Ø Fear of being defeated
Ø Fear of loss of self-esteem and confidence
Ø Fear of being denounced and defamed
Ø Fear of loss of respect in the society
There are many such fears one may encounter while accepting the fact of having changed as per one’s convenience. So does that mean we shouldn’t ever accept it? Ask this question to yourself and find out which one is easier for you, confessing the truth of your convenience or carrying on justifying it & denying it from others.
PEOPLE often talk about what woman talk all the time on phone .which topics do they talk about. this article is about the topics on which the woman chit chat on phone. the following are the topics on which woman chit chat more on their phone.
1.EARNINGS/BUSINESS- woman on phone talk a lot about the earnings of themselves or their other family members. they try to show their attitude by showing high earnings and behaving as rich.
2.QUARRELS- woman always are interested in finding out the quarrels which happens in the neighbourhood . they have a fun time discussing the quarrels that happened in their neighbourhood.
3.SHOPPING- doing shopping is likes by most of the woman . woman often on phone discuss about what they shoped, how costly things they buyed etc
4.TRAVEL/TOUR- woman like talking about on the phone about the new places they had went to, how fun they had travelling to a particular place etc
5.MOVIES- some woman are movie lovers they often talk about the movies they saw, discuss about the story of a particular movie,talk about their favourate actor and actress etc.
These are the some of the topics on which woman spend their time discussing on phone. Actually there are many more i could have write but i only focused on the main topics on which most of their time gets spend.
A social network, in the parlance as "network" is called, is a network of people or groups of people. For example a collection of people who know each other, or organizations (companies, institutions) often work together. Therefore, a business network also seen as a form of social networking.
The verb 'networks' (in relationships and an opportunity to gain new relationships) is also derived.
The term social network is now often the subject of scientific studies, of interest to industry. Because social networks the way people communicate on the redefinition, it is interesting to see how these networks impact on managerial issues. So what is studied to investigate potential employees social network could alleviate the costs associated with the adverse selection problem. There is also looked into the possibility of applying social network analysis, to refine, classify and rank the requirements for collaboration and information management in an organization. Moreover, the imaging of informal social networks, helping managers to systematically identify and contribute to important strategic collaborations. Studied the influence of informal networks of top managers with those of other companies to check the uncertainty that comes from sources dependency. Thanks to these studies is clear to businesses how to use social networks and what impact they have.
Hi friends in this article let us discuss about a French explorer and more than importan he has one of the longest name which you would have very rarely seen.
Pierre Paul Francois Camille Savorgnan de Brazza was a French explorer and he is the one who was responsible for finding and also for the early administration of the French Congo. This region was formerly a colonial possession of France in the west central Africa. The image of Bazza is shown below
At that time there was a Scramble for Africa as most of the European powers wanted to invade and also to claim African territory and this happeded during the late 19th century.
But however the French managed to retain Congo and credit goes to Brazza as he made several treaties that secured the French foothold in the Congo River region.The French Congo region is shown below
Brazza was born January 26, 1852.Even though Brazza was a French national his parents wre from Italy and he was also born in Rome, Italy. The reason how Bazza came to France was that his father,had connections in France and this helped him to get the Brazza’s entry into the French naval academy.
In 1874,Brazza was brought to French Gabon,which is a small coastal colony located north of the Congo River as a duty on a French warship.This was the turning point in his life and from here, he started to make trips up the Gabon Estuary and the Ogooue River.
When he returned to France again,he became a naturalized French citizen and also managed to win the support from the French Government for an expedition to explore further the inland and also to promote the French interests in the area.
As a result of this from 1875 to 1878,river system of present-day Gabon was expored by Brazza and he also discovered the source of the Ogooue river, but while he was about to find he was forced to retreat because the local Africans started to attack him.The image of the Ogooue river is shown below
But the problem started in 1879, when an Anglo-American explorer called Henry Morton Stanley started to begin the development in the lower Congo River region,and he also staked claims and he started the negotiating treaties in the name of Belgian king Leopold II.The image of the Henry Morton Stanley is shown below
And as a result of this the French Government ordered Brazza to go back to Africa so as to secure a French foothold in that area.Brazza assembled a team in 1880 and he headed back up the Ogooue river and he managed to built a station on its headwaters , and he also named the station as Franceville.
After these developments he and his troops started marching south to the Congo River,and they also beat Stanley on place called Stanley Pool (which is now known as Pool Malebo). After this victory Brazza signed treaties with a local ruler and and he also founded a settlement which later became the city of Brazzaville.
The treaties signed by Brazza treaties was very important as it provided the basis for France to control the larger part of Congo during the mid-1880s.In 1891, the French Congo, was declared a French protectorate and as a result of this in 1910, it became part of French Equatorial Africa and today this is occupied by both the Republic of the Congo and Gabon.
Highest position was given to Brazza as he was appointed as the commissioner-general of French Congo in 1886 but he was not efficient and he proved less successful as an administrator, as he was only a skilled explorer.
However in 1898, Brazza was replaced, when Leopold’s Congo Free State (which is now the Democratic Republic of the Congo), located on the other side of the river was efficient enough in making money from rubber exports whereas Brazza couldn't do this.
In 1904 a report was issued to the French Government which describes the systematic use of forced labor and also the brutality on African workers in the Frenc Congo.
So Brazza was sent back to Congo in 1995 to investigate this problem and after he returned to Congo Brazza also found European rubber harvesters using the similarly shocking practices there.
However he couldn't report to France and he eventually died in the French colony of Senegal on September 14, 1905.
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