I wouldn’t do this ever in my life, I will only do whatever my parents would say, I don’t believe in the concept of love marriage and many more such statements we do say at certain point of our life. Do we really stick to “Wouldn’t do ever, Will always do, I don’t believe” kind of things?

Case 1:-Saloni, eagerly waiting to be a bride in the next month, while sharing her thoughts and beliefs about love marriage 4 years ago amongst her friends. She said “I don’t believe in the concept of love marriage and would get married to whoever my parents decide for me”. Two years back she met a guy in her classmate with whom she fell in love with. She told her parents about it. Initially they didn’t like it and were not very happy about it. She went around with this guy for 2 years in spite of her parent’s reluctance and now she is going to be married to this fellow after a month. Recently one of her friends also got married but Saloni’s parents does not want to invite her in their daughter’s marriage. Saloni feels the same and says about her friend, “there is no harm in going for love marriage but she shouldn’t have done it in another caste.

Case 2:- Saurabh, son of an I.A.S officer, talks about his father,” My father is a very honest man and he just hates taking or giving bribe.” Saurabh had just appeared for his engineering exam and he could not do well in his exam. He was very worried about it and asked his father to do something about it. His father met the director and offered a lot of donation, sort of bribe for his son’s admission. Saurabh’s friends who knew that he didn’t do well in the exams, asked him how did he get the admission? He said “My father had to give them some money since it was really a big issue, it was the question of my future that’s why my father bribed the director, otherwise he wouldn’t ever do this, and I am sure about it”.

”Well it’s difficult to decide who is right or who is wrong here. But one thing is very clear that Saloni justified what she did and is justifying for not inviting her friend even. It’s not just about Saloni or Saurabh, it happens with everyone. The only thing is that if it happens with others, it’s unacceptable but if it’s with you, conveniently modify the so called your value system and principles.

We keep on changing our statements, our principles and some values which we decide to stick to forever in our life, as per our convenience or whenever required. We take the liberty of being a human being in that case but why we are never ready to accept this truth, May be because of:-

Ø  Fear of loss of identity

Ø  Fear of being defeated

Ø  Fear of loss of self-esteem and confidence

Ø  Fear of being denounced and defamed

Ø  Fear of loss of respect in the society

There are many such fears one may encounter while accepting the fact of having changed as per one’s convenience. So does that mean we shouldn’t ever accept it? Ask this question to yourself and find out which one is easier for you, confessing the truth of your convenience or carrying on justifying it & denying it from others.