For me these were the highlights of this article are very true whether we choose to differ on this is a different thing altogether:

//While an increasing number of fair-minded and enlightened men have made home-keeping a partnership, for the most part managing the home — whether they work or not — is still treated as a female domain.

//We should be pushing for paternity-leave benefits at the workplace and flexi-hours for men and not just women.

//Instead of demanding daycare and crèches for the children of female employees, we should ask for it as a benefit for all employees. - Because even here the responsibility is forced on women to take care of their children even when they are at work.

I understand, ability to nurture comes naturally to women but certain things have to be inculcated in men too.

For me these were the highlights of this article are very true whether we choose to differ on this is a different thing altogether:

//While an increasing number of fair-minded and enlightened men have made home-keeping a partnership, for the most part managing the home — whether they work or not — is still treated as a female domain.

//We should be pushing for paternity-leave benefits at the workplace and flexi-hours for men and not just women.

//Instead of demanding daycare and crèches for the children of female employees, we should ask for it as a benefit for all employees. - Because even here the responsibility is forced on women to take care of their children even when they are at work.

I understand, ability to nurture comes naturally to women but certain things have to be inculcated in men too.

Thats exactly my point, it needs to be taught from childhood by both parents that the responsibility of running a house shd be equally shared and unless the male child is made to do so he will not understand the concept nor will he take an interest since society conditions him not to do so...One has to really fight against the system to bring in any positive change !

For me these were the highlights of this article are very true whether we choose to differ on this is a different thing altogether:

//While an increasing number of fair-minded and enlightened men have made home-keeping a partnership, for the most part managing the home — whether they work or not — is still treated as a female domain.

//We should be pushing for paternity-leave benefits at the workplace and flexi-hours for men and not just women.

//Instead of demanding daycare and crèches for the children of female employees, we should ask for it as a benefit for all employees. - Because even here the responsibility is forced on women to take care of their children even when they are at work.

I understand, ability to nurture comes naturally to women but certain things have to be inculcated in men too.

Thats exactly my point, it needs to be taught from childhood by both parents that the responsibility of running a house shd be equally shared and unless the male child is made to do so he will not understand the concept nor will he take an interest since society conditions him not to do so...One has to really fight against the system to bring in any positive change !

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You summed it up quite well. Earlier generations were not used to the idea and hence did not inculcate these habits in their sons. But we can, by consciously encouraging them to participate in various chores and by doing things around house together in a fun way./ That way the boys will get used to working around home and also enjoy it. Each one of us has to make that effort to bring a positive change!

For me these were the highlights of this article are very true whether we choose to differ on this is a different thing altogether:

//While an increasing number of fair-minded and enlightened men have made home-keeping a partnership, for the most part managing the home — whether they work or not — is still treated as a female domain.

//We should be pushing for paternity-leave benefits at the workplace and flexi-hours for men and not just women.

//Instead of demanding daycare and crèches for the children of female employees, we should ask for it as a benefit for all employees. - Because even here the responsibility is forced on women to take care of their children even when they are at work.

I understand, ability to nurture comes naturally to women but certain things have to be inculcated in men too.

Thats exactly my point, it needs to be taught from childhood by both parents that the responsibility of running a house shd be equally shared and unless the male child is made to do so he will not understand the concept nor will he take an interest since society conditions him not to do so...One has to really fight against the system to bring in any positive change !

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You summed it up quite well. Earlier generations were not used to the idea and hence did not inculcate these habits in their sons. But we can, by consciously encouraging them to participate in various chores and by doing things around house together in a fun way./ That way the boys will get used to working around home and also enjoy it. Each one of us has to make that effort to bring a positive change!

Absolutely ! personally I too have had to fight against criticism from relatives even friends who would comment seeing my son help out in the kitchen " In our house we dont let our sons and men enter the kitchen " as if it is a great deed they were doing. I wd say, in my house it is very much the done thing ..My mother and to a certain extent my m in law were very supportive and that really helped and I am glad that my children dont have any gender bias today. They just share home and kitcen duties when they are home.

This article by Barkha Dutt actually speaks my mind. Go check... Why women' can't have it all


Why do women have to quit work or work from home to manage household chores and look after babies. Why do women have to struggle..I can relate to what is there in this article..why do women have to juggle with so many roles and keep too many balls in the air?