Human Nature and Changes  

Conflicts in between human nature and changes are a permanent feature and it’s never easy to decide how many changes should we accept and how many are forced on us. But we all feel in terms as if whatever is going on in our lives is not as per our choice. Here lies the basic problem as we wish to change but how much, is there a limit for a change or is there really a need of a change?

If you believe Dr. David DiSalvo, the famous writer and educationalist he feels living your life according to your choice you will have to change your nature. If you read his book “What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite”. I am quoting him-

“Since our brains are adept at finding and drawing conclusions from patterns, it's not surprising that coincidences captivate our attention.” ― David DiSalvo, 

If you think minutely you will feel that there goes a constant battle in between your ideas and nature and the need of change is never ever reached successfully. Then what is the right solution for such a case and that shakes our self-confidence. Actually when there is no perfect combination in between our nature and thoughts that prompt us for improvement we feel disappointed.

Let’s look at the problem from this angle. If we keep on changing ourselves at the slightest of suggestions coming from within us then it will be difficult to adjust with society and if we do not change our “self” will not let us live normally. It’s like walking on a double edged sword which is not an easy proposition.

So what should we do? The answer is, stay somewhere within your own normal and natural limit but without being too adamant. If you can bring positive changes without refusing to be persuaded or having to change your mind then there is no harm doing that if it can bring peace of mind for you. But it’s entirely your choice how much change you can accept easily.

So what should I do?

Have you ever gone through the situation when you gave your best for completing all necessities and doing everything required to finish your project but when the time came to submit your work you were informed that the requirements have been changed and you have to work again from the beginning on that particular project! Isn’t it a tough proposition?

Now look at another possibility of a failed project the person you were depending on for completion of a particular project but he withdrew his support at the very moment when you were expecting it least and you had no option but to give up your dream project.

My question at this point is how do you react in any of the situations mentioned above? There is a short statement expressing a general truth the person that knows to smile instead of feeling dejected or getting angry has better chances of coming out of his problems from such a situation. The people who know how to face the complicated moments can always handle the situation in far better way. 

We all know the fact that life is not bed of roses but we have to face problems at every point whether at work or home. There is always a chance that we shall have to be prepared to cross a hurdle to reach to our desired destination changing according to circumstances.

And when I say about changes I don’t mean to change our ideology but it’s all about our strategies. I agree we cannot change our circumstances immediately at the onset of any problem but we can certainly change our focus which provides us with new possibilities. 

Actually it all depends upon your mental and physical status and the fact that one does not learn to face problems overnight. Once you learn how to face the problems and the art of fighting with obstacles how not to lose your balance you will find yourself better prepared reaching to target even more easily. 

Desires are necessary for a better life

Okay, I agree with you on one point here. Desires play a big role in progress of human life. For example take my case when I need something but cannot decide where to begin with or have no idea clue where to start. I go in the nearby Himalayan forests or to the bank of River Ganges and sit there for hours just wishing that situation will change according to my own desires. And trust me at most of the times I reach to a conclusion which satisfies me as per my desires.

You know an expert boatman always does his job tactfully in the flow or sometime against the flow but he always leaves us at our destination. Every expert boatman knows his limitation and allows only limited number of passengers according to capacity of his boat. Desires are like oars in the hands of our boatmen propelling the small boats and guiding them in our journey across the river. As I said in the beginning desires play the role of motivator in our life.

At most times I know my desire for something  I so dearly want or a person whom I so badly wish to see beside me as if my entire existence  depends on that but not able to gather enough courage to admit that. I have tried to suppress some of my desires at times but as long my desires were genuine I never succeeded doing that. For me forcibly ending my desires was never acceptable to me so I never did that.

I feel some of my desires were not genuine but I have my own ways of diverting my attention from my ingénue desires. I divert my attention toward my writing projects, my books or my online world that clears all my doubts. Let me share a secret with you my desires force change my passions, my values, my strengths, and my motivations but everything that happens in the process happens for the betterment of my life. 

So I repeat here at this point that it really depends upon your mental and physical status and the fact will remain that one doesn’t learn how to face problems, and you can’t do it overnight. But, once you recognize and learn how to face the art of fighting with obstacles and how not to lose your balance then you will certainly find yourself perfectly prepared and reach your target easily.