The sad part is although education has reduced dowry cases in the civilised educated society but problem of dowry hasn’t crushed from the roots.
Iam writing this article because I have seen lots of cases of such kind of smart and shrewd ways of acquiring dowry in my city and in my surroundings.
Nowadays because of fear of increasing complaints and cases by girls against their In-laws dowry has taken a sophisticated form.It does not hurt girls physically or does not leave any proofs of torture but the girls are hurt emotionally and in sophisticated ways so that she cannot raise voice also as she has no solid grounds to prove torture just by words and forced just to bear things in her heart.
The girl’s parents are giving the best of best to the boy and his family in the name of dowry or call it a lavish wedding but still girls are often told by their In-laws that their parents have given very good gifts, but could have given better saris’, better sweets, better household items and rich and expensive gifts.
Girls try to ignore these things and never speak to their parents about it on their own but parents feel such indifferent attitude and unexpected words of In-laws of their daughter.
They finally decide to always give the best costliest and expensive gifts to their son in law, more cash and more of jewellery to their daughter and her In-laws.
Even after doing so In-laws often comment that marriage was good but decoration and venue could have been better and it would have been good if dry fruits and cash would have been given more.
They often comment on the gifts given by daughter in law’s parents on several occasions that if this would have been given it would have been better or if that would have been given it would have been better.
They directly indirectly say their daughter in law that so and so parents of the girls give excellent gifts to their daughters which was indirectly comment on their own daughter in-law and her parents.
Their demand indirectly increases to such a height that tolerance of the girls break and they finally choose to complain this to their parents and as we know the consequences are nothing but the relationship which should have been long lasting spoils between everyone.
The solution to such problem is very complicated as by reading we find such issues so petty and minor but the person who goes through such mental torture only can understand the pain. As nowadays people are educated so they know the legal process and its hassles and fear them, so instead of torturing girls directly they are hurting them by words and constant comments in order to get their demands fulfilled.
The solution according to our mindsets is that the parents of the boy should not use such weapons to get their demands fulfilled and encourage dowry in a new modern form.
As we know the demands of a person are never ending process so girl’s parents should also become firm and should not fulfil the demands of boy’s parents often.Girl should also become strong and firm and instead of tolerating must question the boy’s parents boldly of their indirect reckless behaviour. If all the girls and their parents will become bold such sophisticated measures to acquire dowry will stop automatically.
Those who are educated will soon open their eyes and will not do such low level deeds because definitely such people knows, our education doesn’t teaches us such acts and deeds instead it teaches us to broaden our vision.
The ultimate solution is with God who has still not enlightened the people towards dowry. If dowry is taken through any means whether through torture or sophistication it is a crime and God should stop people from doing such crime.
The essence of this article is that all the parents of the boys should free themselves from greed. They should understand the worth of a daughter and feelings and sentiments of others. Above all they should understand the worth of a person instead of giving supreme importance to money. And even Girls and their parents should become bold and raise voice against such injustice.
Being a good Indian
Every Indian citizen has some rights and some duties. Let us understand what is meant by these words rights and duties. A person who works in a school has right to expect payment for his work. In turn, it his duty to come to work on time every day and to do his work in the best possible way.
Two examples of the rights and duties of Indian citizens
- They have a right to expect that the towns are kept clean by the local government. To do this the government needs money to employ workers. It is the duty of each one of us to pay taxes so that this can be done. It is also our duty to cooperate by throwing garbage only in dustbins and not in public places or on the roads.
- We have a right to own cars and drive them on the road. We also have a duty to pay taxes so that roads can be kept in good condition. We have a duty to follow traffic riles and drive safely.
A good Indian is one who not only obeys the laws of the country, but also does something to help others.
Ashok Rao was a young collage student in Hyderabad, Andhra Pradesh.
One day, while he was walking along the railway line, he noticed a large gap in the railway track. Any train passing over it, would certainly meet with a major accident.
Before he could decide what he should do, he heard the whistle of a train. He looked up to find it rushing towards him at great speed. His mind raced. How could he prevent an accident in which hundreds of people might die?
He stood between the railway lines and began to wave his hands at the oncoming train. He shouted too… but it came rushing on. It looked as if the driver had not seen Ashok Rao desperate signals.
Finally Ashok took off his coat and weaved it vigorously from side to side. At the last minute, when it seemed as if he might be run over by the train, it came to a screeching halt just a short distance away.
At first the driver was angry that he was forced to stop the train. But when he got down and saw the gap in the tracks, he hugged the young man and thanked him profusely.
Ashok Rao was given a special medal called the Ashok Chakra to honor him for his brave act.
Meena and her mother were alone at home one evening. Meena noticed the light on in the bedroom of their neighbor’s house. Running to her mother, she said, `Mr. and Mrs. Suresh Gupta are still away in Mysore on their holiday. Yet there is a light in their upstairs bedroom. What should we do, mother?’
Her mother quickly picked up the telephone, dialed 100 and informed the police. Both of them slipped out of the house and informed the neighbors. All of them kept a watch on the Gupta’s house till the police arrived.
Ravi a young student travels by bus to his school everyday. He usually waits pats bus. He finds him a seat if needed and helps him cross they busy road in front of the school. Ravi helps Ram in his studies by reading aloud from the textbooks, so that he can learn more easily.
Self discipline and fortitude
William Jackson of Birkenhead, a member of the British parliament, shows us how we can improve ourselves. His father, a surgeon, died leaving a family of eleven children.
William was the seventh son. While the father was alive, the elder sons had a good education. But after his death, the younger children had to fend for themselves. William, at eleven years of age, was taken out from school since there was nobody too pay for his education. He had to work at the docks from six in the morning to nine at night. Later he was taken to the counting hose. Having some time for himself, he began to read every single line of all volumes of the Encyclopedia Britannica. His studied at night. Later he put himself to a trade. He was diligent and he succeeded at it. After some years he had his own ships sailing on all the oceans of the world. Besides he had commercial relations with practically every country on the globe.
Do not let the hardships and problems rule over you. You should overcome them with courage and fortitude. You should have faith in your capabilities. Only then will you be able to achieve success in life.
Are you self discipline?
At times, in school, a certain work is tough or certain orders are difficult to obey. Still, do the work and carry out the orders and you will discipline yourself to your own advantage. What would happen in a garden if every plant grew as it liked? There would be too little to admire in it. Similarly in school you must be a plant in the hands of and under the direction of your superiors. They see your own good. Your parents, superiors and teachers cannot say yes to everything you want. You must train yourself to accept `yes’ or `no’ and to have your wishes opposed and controlled. You must learn to deny yourself certain things you like. Bear cheerfully the arrangements you do not like. It is sign of a mature person to settle differences and to reach a compromise.
Do you have enough self-control?
A boy with out self-control is just like a wild runway horse. Lack of self control leads us towards greater pitfalls: pride, impurity, anger, envy and laziness. Person without self-control becomes a slave to his mind and is liable to break every law. Such a person can be a danger to the state and to the society. You must learn to face opposition. The school will give you ample opportunities to test yourself and to measure your likes and dislikes. This will be helpful when in later life greater and more difficult situations will arise.
An ancient fable tells us about three merchants crossing a desert. One moonless night as they came to a dried up riverbed, they were startled by a voice in the darkness. It said ``
Pick up stones and then continue walking without stopping. In the morning, at daylight you will be both happy and sorry.’ They obeyed the orders. When the first rays of the sun burst in the East they looked into the bags and discovered that what they had picked up were not rocks, but precious stones. Then they understood the words: `at daylight you will be both happy and sorry,’ they were happy that they were rich but sorry that they had not picked up more. The same thing happens in our lives. We are happy for what good we have done. We are sorry for losing the chances that came our way.
Good deeds shall not go unrewarded: in heaven they all are written down so when life’s books are opened the good will receive a crown.
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Shopping cart covers for babies should cover the entire seating area to be able to protect adequately. Shopping cart covers are extremely easy to use. Purchase one that can fold easily into bag like a diaper bag which you carry always when you have your baby with you. Get a shopping cover that have enough pocket to store toys, snacks juices and wipes. Extra pockets can be handy for easy access to a shopping list, keys, and wallet. Shopping cart covers for babies are available online. You can also find out in your town for home sewers who make and sell top quality shopping cart covers. You can also search online on different websites that provide information on how to make one. Having a shopping cart covers for babies is a valuable investment as prevention is known to be better than cure. If you find purchasing a cart cover is an expensive affair, invest your time and search for old resources that you can use to make one for your child. You just need to keep into consideration the above described features suitable for shopping cart cover.
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