Parenting

In the beginning most children are reluctant to leave the comfy home atmosphere and spend time with strangers in an alien environment. Parents can speak positively about the school and be there initially until the child gets used to the teachers and class mates. In some cases children play truant even when they are in school , which in some cases may be due to poor health or some problem at school, better to speak to the child on a daily basis about his or her activities at school, so that parents are aware if there is some minor problem, which the child may not divulge otherwise.

 

The best way i think is too make them understand what education means in this bad world because they are child and they don't know the importance of school in their life

One of the best things to do is to make the child very comfortable in terms of what he or she thinks is the best in life.  Since children do tend to play before the fifth standard, the best thing is to put the child in a good play school, and leave the child to reason out on his own or her own.  Since children grow maximum till the age of seven, let the child mingle freely with children of his or her age, and let him or her express himself or herself.  Engage the child  in some small conversation and spend time with the child, particularly during dinner or breakfast. 

Most importantly, allow the child to be a child.  Never ever treat a child like an adult or try to bring to his or her attention facts of life or other things that a child of his or her age need not know at all.

Make the child feel that school is,such a fun.. Let the child meet the other kids of same age, let them mingle with each other. Slowly child will develop affectation towards the school. Another important thing ua to understand what makes child refrain from going to school.. Is it discomfort with other kids, or is the school environment not good, or is he so much attached to his mother that he doesn't want to leave her? Once we know the reason foe his dislike, we would be able to solve the problem

In my opinion, most children refuse to go to school because of bullying in the school.  and Kids who are struggling academically too refuse to go to school. Children, especially kids often experience separation anxiety. It's the responsibility of the parents to to remove such problems in the very beginning.

 

usha manohar wrote:

In the beginning most children are reluctant to leave the comfy home atmosphere and spend time with strangers in an alien environment. Parents can speak positively about the school and be there initially until the child gets used to the teachers and class mates. In some cases children play truant even when they are in school , which in some cases may be due to poor health or some problem at school, better to speak to the child on a daily basis about his or her activities at school, so that parents are aware if there is some minor problem, which the child may not divulge otherwise.

 

True...most often, a child's reluctance to go to school is due to separation anxiety, fear of being away from the mother in the company of strangers. To overcome this, the teachers also need to work to make children feel comfortable> When my son first going to play school, his teacher had a policy that the first two days, mothers also had to sit in the class with her child, third day onwards, we just had to wait outside the classroom at a place from where our kids could see us. Many women used to complain about it saying their time was being wasted, but I felt it necessary and important. Because my son never once cried in school, even when he started attending regular school which was 8 kilometres away and has to travel by a school bus alone. So making a child comfortable and secure in the school is very important.

the main reason why children don't want to go to school is that they become more comfortable in their respective houses in comparison to school. Child become more friendly in their houses rather than school. many parents use the help of bribe, which i think the parent shouldn't do. 

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

In the beginning most children are reluctant to leave the comfy home atmosphere and spend time with strangers in an alien environment. Parents can speak positively about the school and be there initially until the child gets used to the teachers and class mates. In some cases children play truant even when they are in school , which in some cases may be due to poor health or some problem at school, better to speak to the child on a daily basis about his or her activities at school, so that parents are aware if there is some minor problem, which the child may not divulge otherwise.

 

True...most often, a child's reluctance to go to school is due to separation anxiety, fear of being away from the mother in the company of strangers. To overcome this, the teachers also need to work to make children feel comfortable> When my son first going to play school, his teacher had a policy that the first two days, mothers also had to sit in the class with her child, third day onwards, we just had to wait outside the classroom at a place from where our kids could see us. Many women used to complain about it saying their time was being wasted, but I felt it necessary and important. Because my son never once cried in school, even when he started attending regular school which was 8 kilometres away and has to travel by a school bus alone. So making a child comfortable and secure in the school is very important.

It is good that your son is being so sensible and has adjusted so well, because I know some children take months together before they get used to the routine. My youngest daughter hated school in the beginning but after constantly talking to her, and the teachers, things became easier..

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

usha manohar wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

In the beginning most children are reluctant to leave the comfy home atmosphere and spend time with strangers in an alien environment. Parents can speak positively about the school and be there initially until the child gets used to the teachers and class mates. In some cases children play truant even when they are in school , which in some cases may be due to poor health or some problem at school, better to speak to the child on a daily basis about his or her activities at school, so that parents are aware if there is some minor problem, which the child may not divulge otherwise.

 

True...most often, a child's reluctance to go to school is due to separation anxiety, fear of being away from the mother in the company of strangers. To overcome this, the teachers also need to work to make children feel comfortable> When my son first going to play school, his teacher had a policy that the first two days, mothers also had to sit in the class with her child, third day onwards, we just had to wait outside the classroom at a place from where our kids could see us. Many women used to complain about it saying their time was being wasted, but I felt it necessary and important. Because my son never once cried in school, even when he started attending regular school which was 8 kilometres away and has to travel by a school bus alone. So making a child comfortable and secure in the school is very important.

It is good that your son is being so sensible and has adjusted so well, because I know some children take months together before they get used to the routine. My youngest daughter hated school in the beginning but after constantly talking to her, and the teachers, things became easier..

I guess it is because the schools take a little efforts to get the mothers too involved in the school routine when kids start schools, which was not the case previously a few years back.

Babu saroj wrote:

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

Do you even realize and understand what you really write?

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

In the beginning most children are reluctant to leave the comfy home atmosphere and spend time with strangers in an alien environment. Parents can speak positively about the school and be there initially until the child gets used to the teachers and class mates. In some cases children play truant even when they are in school , which in some cases may be due to poor health or some problem at school, better to speak to the child on a daily basis about his or her activities at school, so that parents are aware if there is some minor problem, which the child may not divulge otherwise.

 

True...most often, a child's reluctance to go to school is due to separation anxiety, fear of being away from the mother in the company of strangers. To overcome this, the teachers also need to work to make children feel comfortable> When my son first going to play school, his teacher had a policy that the first two days, mothers also had to sit in the class with her child, third day onwards, we just had to wait outside the classroom at a place from where our kids could see us. Many women used to complain about it saying their time was being wasted, but I felt it necessary and important. Because my son never once cried in school, even when he started attending regular school which was 8 kilometres away and has to travel by a school bus alone. So making a child comfortable and secure in the school is very important.

It is good that your son is being so sensible and has adjusted so well, because I know some children take months together before they get used to the routine. My youngest daughter hated school in the beginning but after constantly talking to her, and the teachers, things became easier..

I guess it is because the schools take a little efforts to get the mothers too involved in the school routine when kids start schools, which was not the case previously a few years back.

Kalyani, my two younger children started their schooling in London and the system there is quite different in that, it is mostly play time and word building during the Kindergarten years with absolutely no stress and excellent parent teacher interaction, and added to that I was teaching in the same school. But my daughter preferred staying at home because she had some kind of fear of leaving home. But I really appreciated the manner in which this was tackled by the teacher and within a week Naomi was fine with the school. In fact  loved it so much that she was very sad when she had to go to the primary school , which was in a different building ! I guess each child is different and on an average the youngest and only children normally take longer to  adjust , that's what we had been told when we were taking training for nursery classes, which meant we had to tackle them differently !

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

Babu saroj wrote:

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

Do you even realize and understand what you really write?

Any type of greed is not in interest of child. It makes them rigid.

 

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

Babu saroj wrote:

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

Do you even realize and understand what you really write?

Bribing a child is the worst education one can give as parents. 

 

The main reason for the refusal of a child  to go to school is, the child, after a period of  caring, the child fears to leave that cozy atmosphere. It's a natural phenomenon. Now after the introduction of Play Schools concept in the Educational system,  this fear in the children almost disappeared. My own Grand child, who started  her schooling recently never refuses to go to School. Some times, she even talks  even during sleeping about her playmates in the School. Play Schools are doing a good job in this regard.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

Babu saroj wrote:

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

Do you even realize and understand what you really write?

Bribing a child is the worst education one can give as parents. 

i am not saying about giving bribe to the child, what i am saying is that giving something to the child like his favourite dish when he/she will return to home from school, so that he/she go to school and learn with an interest 

 

Babu saroj wrote:

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

Babu saroj wrote:

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

Do you even realize and understand what you really write?

Bribing a child is the worst education one can give as parents. 

i am not saying about giving bribe to the child, what i am saying is that giving something to the child like his favourite dish when he/she will return to home from school, so that he/she go to school and learn with an interest 

This is what happens, when you are not clear about your thoughts and put them in writing. Now, you yourself can see, how your response created wrong messages in the members.

 

 

 

 

 

usha manohar wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

In the beginning most children are reluctant to leave the comfy home atmosphere and spend time with strangers in an alien environment. Parents can speak positively about the school and be there initially until the child gets used to the teachers and class mates. In some cases children play truant even when they are in school , which in some cases may be due to poor health or some problem at school, better to speak to the child on a daily basis about his or her activities at school, so that parents are aware if there is some minor problem, which the child may not divulge otherwise.

 

True...most often, a child's reluctance to go to school is due to separation anxiety, fear of being away from the mother in the company of strangers. To overcome this, the teachers also need to work to make children feel comfortable> When my son first going to play school, his teacher had a policy that the first two days, mothers also had to sit in the class with her child, third day onwards, we just had to wait outside the classroom at a place from where our kids could see us. Many women used to complain about it saying their time was being wasted, but I felt it necessary and important. Because my son never once cried in school, even when he started attending regular school which was 8 kilometres away and has to travel by a school bus alone. So making a child comfortable and secure in the school is very important.

It is good that your son is being so sensible and has adjusted so well, because I know some children take months together before they get used to the routine. My youngest daughter hated school in the beginning but after constantly talking to her, and the teachers, things became easier..

I guess it is because the schools take a little efforts to get the mothers too involved in the school routine when kids start schools, which was not the case previously a few years back.

Kalyani, my two younger children started their schooling in London and the system there is quite different in that, it is mostly play time and word building during the Kindergarten years with absolutely no stress and excellent parent teacher interaction, and added to that I was teaching in the same school. But my daughter preferred staying at home because she had some kind of fear of leaving home. But I really appreciated the manner in which this was tackled by the teacher and within a week Naomi was fine with the school. In fact  loved it so much that she was very sad when she had to go to the primary school , which was in a different building ! I guess each child is different and on an average the youngest and only children normally take longer to  adjust , that's what we had been told when we were taking training for nursery classes, which meant we had to tackle them differently !

Very true Usha, each child is a different and unique individual and needs to be tackled differently. Some children immediately take up the idea of being separated from their mothers and get on well at school while some take their own time, we must let the kids do that settling at their own pace.

Babu saroj wrote:

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

Babu saroj wrote:

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

Do you even realize and understand what you really write?

Bribing a child is the worst education one can give as parents. 

i am not saying about giving bribe to the child, what i am saying is that giving something to the child like his favourite dish when he/she will return to home from school, so that he/she go to school and learn with an interest 

When you suggest that a child should be promised something for sending him/her to school is certainly a kind of bribe. Bribing does not always mean to give some money. What a little kid will do with money but the moment we say, 'if you go to school and then after you come back from school I will give you ice-cream or toy or anything under the sun' is equivalent to bribing which is absolutely wrong.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Babu saroj wrote:

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

Babu saroj wrote:

well if the child is not willing to go to school then it's better to promise him to give something which he/she will like a lot and so that he/she will get ready to go to school 

Do you even realize and understand what you really write?

Bribing a child is the worst education one can give as parents. 

i am not saying about giving bribe to the child, what i am saying is that giving something to the child like his favourite dish when he/she will return to home from school, so that he/she go to school and learn with an interest 

When you suggest that a child should be promised something for sending him/her to school is certainly a kind of bribe. Bribing does not always mean to give some money. What a little kid will do with money but the moment we say, 'if you go to school then after you come back from school then I will give you ice-cream or toy or anything under the sun' is equivalent to bribing which is absolutely wrong.

Parents are the culprits in most cases where they tend to bribe the child for carrying gossip that they overheard or not telling so and so thing to the father because it would cause friction or helping out at home ! They simply don't realise that in later years children would hold them responsible for any shortcomings in their own behavior !