But now not only a boy choose girl but the girl also choose the boy . Parents of girl also more awaken about selection of boy for their girl so that they can see a beautiful future of their girl with the chosen boy so every thing of boy and his family is checked or can say investigated before marriage.

You are right isha today the culture has changed it is not like the old culture.TO marry a girl the parents are taking alot of care on girls future.In some cases they are winning and some cases they are failing.

I think the system is really irritating though it is happening in both cases now-a-days. However to get geniune match such system is unavoidable but some limitation can be implemented.

Today it is quite impossible to get a genuine match to every one.

To me, the marriage negotiation appear very disgusting. These are like business transactions. At worst, these are like animal mating.

yes gulshanji what you told is correct it became like a business taking dowry and staying in life after the finish of dowry again it restarts.

I agree with Gulshanji. The word you have mentioned "animal mating" is justified.
In past, boy and girl were not allowed to see each other or talk to each other. They see each other after marriage. That's why many a times marriage becomes nightmare. I call it a murder.
A black man got married to a fair beautiful girl of much younger age.
Totally absurd.

There are many disadvantages as well as advantages in this traditional way of marriage in India. Some of these can be taken off such as having to show the girl. Instead of this the girl and the boy could meet at a appointed place and meet each other and share their experiences and what they want from their partners.

Another thing is that the girl should also have an equal say in the proceedings of the marriage and to choose her life partner.

Saying this, the trend is now changing for the better in the urban settlements where women and girls are financially strong and have their own views regarding marriage.

On the other hand, Indian marriages are not so bad that they should be taken off altogether. It is also a culture that has made India one of the most culturally forward nations of the world, where still the elders and joint family system enjoy a say in the marriage, where the whole family come together to enjoy a occassion like this.

yes i agree with Gulshan ji. In present days Marriage has become a business transaction issue.this is really worste

but i am not agreed . if everything is not discussed then in case if a drinker marriages with good natured girl then about that girl's future. she will have to live in hell like home . so it is necessary to discuss everything between two families before marriage.