hi boddunan friends,

when i am going to college, i am interested in making penfriends and doing other correspondance means collecting information from different countries,on that time i have published my name and address in their local penpal papers and other related papers,so i have lot of friends,from Canada,USA,Japan,Suriname,mexico,England,Spain,France,Germany etc etc,but out of all letters received by me,i can read and understand only English letters,i a m giving replies to English letters only,i have have corresponded with pen friends more than 5 years,in those days we have exchanged several things as gifts, stamps,coins,currencies,view cards,cameras,camera films,greetings etc etc,but all are stopped when i have entered in the business,when i have entered the business the International Postage have increased obnormally, intially In India an Airogramme is available at the rate of  80 paise, then the postal department was increased the rates of aerogrammes and airmail letters,so to curtail my postal expenses,i have completely stopped corresponding with friends,some 3 years back, i know little about the internet,computer, email ids, firstly i have taken the email id in Yahoo.com that is continuing till now,two years back i have sincerely tried for friends from all over the world, i searched several penfriends sites,social network sites, chatting sites,language learning sites,but i could not succeed in getting friends,but unfortunately i have joined a site that is mylot,there i have more than 450 friends at present still i am getting friends from that site,i have some close friends also there,so i wish all my friends "Happy Friendship Day"

Long relationships are a genuine examination to a couple's dedication & of his own limits. LDRs accept a large number of attempt to conserve & frequently people regarded in them, recognise that they develop into a situation of emotion that they never came up themselves in earlier. As your mate is miles departed from you, it's very at ease to let matters go incorrect & contribute your long distance chat up to an earlier end. Certain humans feel it hard tomaintain the distance through communicating, other people get excessively possessed with what their mate is executing when they're not there & as an effect they whorl down a road of jealousy & mistrust. They key is equaliser & following certain primary steps to hold your relationship fit & secure.

Intercommunicate & visit ofttimes

It can't be strained enough how crucial communicating is for all relationship, particularly if it's an LDR. With the length acting to keep you & your sweetie isolated, your defence is holding whole lines of communication loose. It does not matter however you do it as long for you do it. All long distance mates should find out agencies to put across that build both partners comforted & glad. You are able to speak on the telephone daily, send out e-mails, facsimiles or text messages & whatsoever you do be sure you share your tones & prospects & be faithful each other. Try to bring in the time to visit one another as frequently as conceivable or as frequently as your budget allows you to. A human relationship can't flourish if the only affair you've is the calls. You want to assure one another up close & personal all chance you acquire. The key present is to assemble certain \"patterns\" about frequency of communicating & visits & bond them, consistency can help a LDR live on. (Ascertain our intercommunicate best & journey section)

Prevent jealousy & be believing

Among the easiest directions to destruct an absolutely flourishing relationship is to envenom it with jealousy & drama. Once you begin a long distance relationship you must be honest of the troubles in advance. It always facilitates if you go in a relationship with the estimate that everybody is ignorant & worthy of faith till proved otherwise. Do nott fall in the trap to question your mate all time he/she resolves to go away for a drink with humans you have not met or he/she did not come back to you aright away once you called in & left alone a message. Barely because you're in a LDR, you goes will nott break. Your mate will of course have a social living wherever he/she lives & so should you. For sure it serves to have your eyes clear & not be completely naif but being excessively mistrustful is unhealthful for you & your relationship as well. You should both hold your cultural action & be bright with yourselves.

Be positive

Delaying positive & not centering the minus points of a LDR is crucial to holding your relationship blooming & your mate content. Living away from your sweetheart isn't all bad news. Employ the chance of personalised time to engage your interests & sidelines as well as your job aims. Additional positive aspects it that long distance going out bears on both of you to be more fanciful, intercommunicate better since you do not have \"personal\" time & test your feels. As farsighted as you see the long distance kinship as a part-time situation, you'll keep your chin & convey that feeling of protection & felicity to your mate also.


Long distance seeing is completely about a equal relationship between mates; a relationship built upon firm groundings of desire, agreement & conclusion to get in work. The 2 mates should be sensible about their outlooks & willing to collaborate so that this relationship could direct to a blessed end. If these parameters are minded of, you've nothing to concern about.

Stop drinking at once because the latest research shows it is more harmful than thought.Alcohol may be considered as a social evil but if taken in limits it a very good way to celebrate and belive it or not it does help a lot to straight many things.It is not tht one need alcohol to make friends but it always fun to have drink with a bunch of good friends, though in limits.Who says drinking always lead to a bad company or people who drink make a bad company. Dont generalize the things. My friend have been drinking for past 10 years or so. He never had been any embarrassment to anyone or made bad company for anyone.Like every other thing it also has aftermaths if taken beyond limits.But dont project as if people who drink are villains or make some mad company.

Too much drinking is bad, but if You know your capacity and you keep under it, then it's fine. That way you will have fun. After all there ain't no fun in gathering without drinks. we do it to pump everybody up. Else we will just around and do paradushanam. No enthusiasam or energy. but if bring in drinks we will have more energy and will do some. something at which we can laugh at or have fun.

Positive effects of drinking alcohol

1. a subjective sense of good health

2. better mental health on some indicators, such as reduced anxiety and depression, especially in response to stress.

3. better long-term cognitive functioning, usually measured in old age.

4. better work performance, measured in higher income

5. better work performance, measured in reduced absence or disability.

6. better social integration and adjustment.

Indeed, drinking successfully is one of a handful of controllable health behaviors that significantly contributes to overall physical and emotional well-being.According to my concept moderate consumption of alcohol is good .

Drinking a tradition? Well its a good question you have raised. I guess there is nothing wrong for drinking being a part of any tradition. Many of the civilzed society has been doing very fine with drinking being a part of their civilization. The examples can be cited as follows
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1) Drinking wine is a tradition of France. And this I guess is known to the world that France produce the best wine.

2) Scotch from Scotland. People say you don't need to go to Scotland to feel it, you just need to taste its Scotch. The essence of Scotland can be found in Scotch.

3) Drinking Osake (Japanese rice beer) is a part of Japanese culture. The entire family, right from the young one to the old drink the same. A son serves drinks to father and father to son and its really a fun together.

4) Drinking Mai Zau (Bodo rice beer) is part of Bodo culture.

I would say there is nothing wrong in drinking, but how you behave after drinking is the million dollar question. A gentleman attitude is required. Moreover if you are in corporate world, a non drinker appears to be like an outcast in parties, so its better to tune yourself with little amount of drinks rather than being an outcaste.

Almost all drugs contains alcohol, so directly or indirectly you consume alcohol. But explicitly having a habit of drinking is absolutely  wrong.There are many things which are not written in the Bible in black and white but we should diligently find out from the word of God to get an answer.Bible says that "If you know that you can do some good and you don't do it then it becomes sin for you."

And drinking is an obsession.Pahetic things happend by drunkards but occasionally it's fine.when someone wants to enjoy, this is best choice.But when you are drunk need to be controlled or else be alone.Never bother anyone,never argue,never drive,never speak with elders.whatever heavy drinking is very bad,it can damage a person's health and his prestige.

"Drink,Drink and Drink,
But only if you know what it does to you..
I believe,"Life is but once!"
So,Drink,Fag,anything but once and in limits!

what i think personality = mirror + soul.Here mirror means how do You look and soul means your inner world which denotes dreams,heart,confidence,attitute.Personality is our reflection to the people before us. It is the way how we bought to present ourself or how we "actually" are !It is not only tht personality is our daily "virtue" but also ther comes two sides to it like ther is always two sides of a coin at times people behave their actual "persona" but at the other point of time they behave completely different person which is contrary to wat they are in "real sense".

yes,it could also be truely said that we are not same people at different times.i.e different shades of out persona comes when we come in contact with different people.This is left to "our" exclusive judgement !
As specified that the personality we own is wat we have acquired since we are on this earth till now i.e from the people around us depending upon the people in our contact "those" traits are reflected in our persona.
Of course its also said that what is the reflection of our outer-self is what is people conceive about us.Its could be said first impression of ours.personality is not only related to our image thts our body but its more than tht i.e how we speak , how we act , how we take up different matters of life , how we perceive life means ur opinion abt the world its ppl and also the thgs around us

Thus, its all reflected in our "persona".our Personality inculdes( what other look in us + what we pretain to be + what we are ) .Yeah socity,life,time they all modify ur personality,but  man is made by love of  mother,disciplane of father,values of your family and so may factors.Also changes,may be they are uncertain but they are sure Personality alter with time.

If personality has anything to do with our looks then Mother Teresa wouldn't have become this much popular?people might say Aishwarya rai and her looks but we had miss world in 60's itself,honestly i don't even know her name now.Looks are not permanent but personality is sometimes.It is a reflection of your Heart, Mind and Soul,what ever you are is reflected in your personality.

"A pious soul has a reverence for itself" - these are the lines which inspired Ayn Raynd to write "Fountainhead".Can your personality change?.i can have as many as four personalities a day and i am even very much aware of the changes in me and i can feel the changes in me(attitude,behaviour). Believe me its true.Our personality reflects the atmosphere we are in. And i strongly feel we cannot exhibit the same kind of personality everywhere.I feel there are 2 aspects of human personality, one is a permanent part and another is a flexible/reactionary part.

The permanent personality traits like,
- being joyful\ sulky
- being introvert\ extrovert

I feel in most cases, people remain the same throughout their lives, even though for some period of time they may reverse due to social condition or demands ( like a introvert may need to socialize a lot due to his\her job requirement to deal with clients ) but nevertheless, the person gets back to his\her own traits, like a rubberband regains its shape, its apparently permanent traits.The other part maybe the traits of personality effected by the society and cultural norms and upbringing of a child.

-the feeling of superiority\inferiority
- worthless\ deserving
- spendthrift\ miserly \ balanced

These traits can change with every turn in life and society, and what a person is today, may not be the case tomorrow because he may yeild to social pressure and change his ways using his willpower and thats what we call "turning a new leaf".lot of examples in history of A becoming B, but their innate traits of personality remained the same i.e. introverts remained introverts, when they were miser as well as when they became spendthrift.Part from those basic traits of someone's personality, people gets changed and they should be , it is just like LIFE, if it remains same, it will start smellind and we will get annoyed .so is the case somehow with general persoanlity traits of a person.keep changing to get attracted by people around you . Just like as people change their physical appearance for a new look. Yes it takes a lot of determination and will power but most important factor that contributes to success in anything is the desire for it. This desire, at least as far as my experience is concerned, cannot be inculcated. It is either present in some degree or absent.

Earlier i was this introvert, people hating, recluse. I loved to be left alone with my walkman and a cup of coffee. Sometimes a TV set. I couldnt talk with people. I did not make a single friend till standard 10th which was when i fianlly dcided i needed to associate.Today, after aproximately 4 years of persistence I've become quite an extrovert, I have friends in almost all walks of life except science and all over india. I wont say I dont stay alone anymore, I love to stay alone at times. I can still work better alone than in a group but it doesnt mean I cant work with people like earlier.Now I LOVE meeting and associating with people.I agree parents and home environment contributes alot to one's persoanlity but that should never stop one from being what he wants to be. One must learn to take the responsibility for being what he is and the initiative to become what he wants to. Change is not just possible, at times it is necessary!

Life is a game of cards. you dont decide what cards you get but you can and must decde how to play them. Its not what cards you have, it whether you can get the result you want out of them. It might not always end up in what you wanted it to be but it leaves you with experience that makes you wiser for the rest of your life. Moreover, uncertainities shouldn't stop you from aiming for success. Just imagine what would've happened if the great explorers would never have left their countries to hunt for the other parts of the world?The part of changing handwriting to change or improve ones personality traits is called grapho-therapy and yes it is possible to change personalitiesIt usualy take around 25-30 days to change ones personality depending upon the intrest and effort put in by the person.In some cases where most of the personality is right and only one or to changes is necessary , it may take as less as 5-7 days . This also depends upon how well the analysis is presented to the person and how well the person has realised the need for the change in the personality.

Money Makes Personality

Is it necessary to have lots of money to make once personality or without money a person can make his/her personality that everybody called simplicity but if we acquire simplicity we will be out of fashion .There is only little relation between money and personality..i cannot totally ignore it but yes the way of your living ,some manners and all depends on whether one is wealthy or not but MAKING PERSONALITY when viewed as A GOOD PERSON then money may not necessarily do so.Its in us , our genes and DNA that we inherit but when we realize and see the things we tend to change.All these is gradual and never ending process but not primarily because of money.Everyone is good. As for personalities, what make you such a good jugde of what makes a good personality as opposed to a bad one? people are just different. they do things differently, from different people. money or not, as long as you are being true to yourself, you are what YOU would call a "good" person.For the "good and bad" theory people I would like to hear they tell me how come, in the variety of cultures of the world, there be only good or bad? The europeans thought that way 500 years ago and extinguished the native american tribes because they were bad for not being religious. That is a very simple thought, but was good enought to some.Now, if you take personality as the growing mind, as the facts which make each person unique, then you`ll have it more accuratelly.That being said I answer, money surely "makes" personality, as a simple bug you kill, can build your personality, every action builds another piece, each and every time you think, and acquire another knowledge, you grow your personality, I guess, knowledge builds personality, and knowledge can be acquired in anything,so does personality.

Of course different cultures have their own perspectives on whats right and wrong,but those are jsut norms. Norms refer to what is accepted and unaccpeted in a particualr society.  But are we not familair with the basics of the good adn evil that are regardless of any creed, culture or religion?Money plays a very little part in one's 'character'.What is personality anwyays. Its a combination of genes and environment.
And money is but only a lil part of one's environment.

Personality Vs Character !

In "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" and subsequent books, Stephen Covey has said that in recent times, there has been a lot of emphasis on "Personality", how it can be built up and how it can be projected. His view has been that this has meant that there is a focus shift away from "Character", which is deeper and ingrained.In a lot of current-day discourse on people/ brand/society, there is a great emphasis on the as it is projected, the "personality" that is expressed through tone and imagery one create, and there is less emphasis on the "character" - as to how genuinely people-centric it is, what its deeds are, that are adding value for the life and to the society by large.I request to all you dear friends, educated upwardly mobile successful in the respective area of specialization to give your opinion in relation to built and operate like mind society within the society we live.

well castles cannot be built in air,one needs something substantial for it.The same goes for personality,without proper character imbibed in it,its just an utter waste.Well very truly stated that these days character is gradually becoming a thing of past.The onus largely goes on the parents and primary school teachers to inculcate the values which hav formed the basis of our indian society,some may call it old or obsolete but the culture and its values are of prime importance and the reason of our very own existence and the wisdom our land is known for.

Personality vs Appearance

Your personality is an appearance. And, you do not have the same personality always, when you are with different people. You may look the same, but some people may love you, and others may hate you. We can judge others' personality by their appearance because we give them that personality.No,we cant judge someone's personality ,just by their appearance.Because appearances can be deceptive .

We may get cheated or lead into deception by just rendering a thought of good behaviour or label a person good personality ,which we may be wrong at times.Many cheats ,thieves,murderers get away with crime because of false appearance only.So ,though we may be able to study and know a bit about any person--we cant judge a person just by appearance.


How to Improve your personality?

1.Believe in yourself
2.Believe in what you are doing
3.Believe your teacher
4.Believe that one day you will rule
5.B genuine,be true,be honest,be cool

Personality Development:

Your personality is the type of person you are, which is shown by the way you behave, feel and think”. Everyone wants success in his/her life. Everywhere people like to see the smiling face and serene mind. Is it really hard to achieve this things? Then why We feel that we are lagging somewhere. whats the reason?As i saw in many years, the self oriented attitude. Having good job & good family is the only defination of happy and successful life in view of many people. They never try to see beyond this and are happy in their own world. But when they have to interact socially then problem comes. They might feel somewhat hesitated and cant express themselves properly. How many of us spare some time for our society? How many of us is engaged in constructive activity of one or the other kind? Might be very few people.So if you want to leave your footprints in every sphere of life, get rid of this self oriented attitude.