DANCE OF THE DESTINY

There was a huge rush in the vicinity of the thoroughfare. When our driver parked our car near it everybody seemed rushing like wind. My sister asked me to wait for a while and In the meantime she would have her eyebrows done at a nearby beauty parlour. She said, “Just ten minutes. Keep watching the watch.”I said smiling, “ O.K. But don’t see the scissors or fear the forks when your eyebrows are being trimmed.”But she won when she finally shouted and went off pushing the back door of our Palio, “WOW, A BRO’S ADVICE  FOR MY BROWS.”
           I wondered whether anybody on that occasion was not busy except me. When I was scanning the entire scene of the thoroughfare, my eyes met with the view of a beggar boy who was trying hard to extract something from an elite looking person who was clad in a safari suite and black shining shoes. I couldn't hear what did the boy say and what the gentleman replied but after sometime the man started his Honda City and went off. The rich looking person turned out to be a poor one at the heart. In the distance a marriage procession was coming. The members of the procession danced to the tune of the trumpet. Some of them were simply jumping, some tried to push others while others surrounded the bride. The entire procession had a rhythm. It seemed as if a big python surged to the tune of the music.,

The beggar boy's attention was taken away by the music. I saw his legs jiving. I never had an idea that an empty stomach could dance too. His hands might not have performed their duty to earn food but legs would be party to fun. And what a dance it was! The boys legs went from one side to the other as smoothly as would dodge me to think he was slipping on ice. Whenever the note of the music changed he would jump and cross his legs and now he would dance with crossed legs. Though the procession was still at a distance but ecstasy in his eyes knew no bounds, the notes of music floated in air and vibrated our ear drums. He leaned forth and back and jumped in a loop at intervals. I had seen dance reality shows like YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE where dancers trained by choreographers would set the stage on fire but this dance was quite untrained, uncut, unedited and natural. This was the dance of hunger. This was the dance of destiny. Cruel destiny.

I had heard politicians orate, “Hungry stomachs don't read, don't sleep, don't enjoy.” But lo! I was watching a hungry beggar dance and that too dance so  spontaneously. Not a note missed, not a tune passed without being infused in the steps of the dance. Every part of his body quivered as if it were one of the seven notes of music. They vibrated like the chords of a guitar do when a maestro plays on it1.
 But I could easily feel that the little beggar was quite out of tune with his destiny. He danced one way and his destiny, the other way.
 I held a pity fot the beggar boy  deep inside my heart. And more so because the elite man hadn't given him a single pie. The boy was very near my car. I slid down the window glass and screamed, “Hey you listen,take this coin.” But the boy had no time to listen to me. Procession was approaching nearer and his rhythm and joy were accelerating every single moment. The members of the procession danced, frolicked ans sang and shouted as the procession made its way through the highway. I saw one member slapping the beggar boy and pushing him aside. The little boy fell down but again got up and continued dancing with the same inertia.

I was awe struck. I again screamed and stretched my hand outside to give him the coin but he did not hear my words as they got lost in the hue and cry of the procession. Meanwhile my sister had slipped inside and ordered the driver to start. The car started with a jerk and we raced past the beggar. Our car moved away. In the distance, the marriage procession was gradually disappearing from the sight. The sun was preparing to set. The reddish lights of the dusk had turned the  distant figures into mere shadows. When I looked back from the rear glass of my car, the shadow of a little, poor beggar boy appeared dancing, though with stooping legs.

Anger is one of the human emotions which is considered to the destructor of human peace . But As we all know it is present in almost all human beings . Actually you can say it is rather an outcome of emotion inspired from surroundings , unwanted happening or activities of people we don’t like .

So the reasons of anger can be sorted as

1. One gets angry when people around him/her do not act accordingly.
2. Failure prompts one to get angry over the cause of failure.
3. Unnecessary arguments leads to anger .
4. Jealousy often is the root of anger.
5. Heavy mental or physical pressure results in fuelling the anger element present in every human being.
6. The fear of loosing any thing special in some one’s life leads to anger .
7. Over ambition results in often failure then anger.

 These are the possible causes of anger . If you relate these to your lives you can find similarities. Now as we know the reasons of anger let us discuss the types of anger and how to eradicate this evil from our lives.

 ANGER BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE -   This is the main reason why there is increasing number of divorces in the whole world . A little amount of fight can be called natural but when it turns in to anger that grows silently between husband and wife it becomes the cause of family disintegration and divorce .

CURE—The cure is very simple . Don’t let this anger affect your life so much that you have to get separated. Search the cause of anger . Why often fights are happening between you and your spouse . Kill the cause with discussion and try to understand your spouse’s problems. Love , affection and continuous effort to solve each small and tiny problem from the beginning can eradicate anger between the husband and wife.

ANGER BETWEEN CHILDREN - This seems to be a very small problem but it often leads to great heartedness and anger in future between the two child of a same parent . Avoid showing more sympathy and love to the child who is intelligent and who studies well . This will foster anger within the other one which will only grow with time .

CURE -- So treat your children equally . Just teaching the lesson of love and care is not sufficient as children like to imitate things . Try to create in your home an environment which is free from anger .

ANGER IN OFFICE - Anger in office is a common phenomenon . Whether it can be the boss who gets angry over the worker or it can be the staff who is angry over the boss . With time this anger grows , tolerance level goes down and crimes happen.

CURE -- I can just suggest one thing here that the people who are in supreme authority should behave with their subordinates properly. It costs nothing for few words of love . But bad behaviour is becoming the prime cause of crime through out the whole world . As well If the subordinates will be more duty bound than this will only help them to avoid unnecessary anger and hate redness in the office environment.

ANGER BETWEEN THE NEIGHBOURS - This main cause can be jealousness . If one neighbour is prospers and successful other get jealous which results in anger over the previous . This type of anger leads social disorganisation .

CURE -   The only cure is self suggestion . If you are jealous of your neighbour than ask yourself in what way you are better than him . Nobody in this world is fully happy . Everyone has got problems . Your neighbour too has got hassles in his life . Mix up with him . Share your feelings . Invite him in occasions . You will feel the anger vanishing from your mind.

ANGER PRESENT IN ANTISOCIALS -- This is the main cause of crime in the world . The anger present in antisocial often leads to mass destruction. Nobody is an antisocial by birth . The behaviour and mental setup of the society often makes a person an antisocial .

CURE - The only possible way to cure the anger in antisocial is the love of family and society. From the beginning it’s the role of family to educate that much a child that he can control anger and give priority to love . Then it’s all our duty to treat every single human being with sympathy and humanity so that anger can’t even get a single inch to seat in someone’s mind .

There are thousand causes and types of anger which is not possible to write down in these pages . But I have cited only the main causes , reasons and cure . Lastly Yoga, meditation , music , flowers are some element which only spread the message of peace , love and happiness . Use them in your life .

Spread happiness

Did you know that three are gifts that will multiply your happiness when you give them away? It will make other feel good spread happiness.

Let us talk about some these of these gifs which you can share with others for natural happiness.

 Share appreciation

Feeling appreciated is one of the most important needs that people have. Tell someone how much you appreciate the faith they have shown in you, how well the have performed their task, how nice they look and behave. Your appreciation and gratitude will inspire them and make them happy. Appreciation will return to you many times.

 Share time

Spend some time with the people you love and those who need you. Around you there may be peopled who are old, sick, lonely, sad, and needy. Spend some of your time and share their problems, or just listen to them. It will make them cheerful and lift their spirits. Volunteer time for projects that benefits other in your community, country. Support local organization by sharing your special talents.

Sharing time and talents can result in happiness beyond measure.

 Share knowledge and ideas

Tell someone about a great book that you read so that they can benefit from it too.

The more you share what you have learned, the stronger that information will become in your memory. Sharing knowledge also provides solution to problems. The more knowledge we share, the more knowledge we receive in return.

 Share friendship

It is said `friendship multiply joys and divide grief.’ Let your friends know that you are willing to be there when they need you. Visit someone you have not seen for long, telephone friends and relatives who live far away. These small gestures bring lots of joy.

You can also introduce two friends who do not know each other. We succeed with the help of others.

If you would like to have many friends, then share friendship with others generously.

 Share kindness

Perform a random act of kindness for someone- a smile, a compliment, a favor, a good deed. These will multiply and spread very rapidly.

Kindness is priceless. The love and kindness we give to others will be our treasures till the very end of life.

 Share enthusiasm

If you are excited about a new success, tell someone. You enthusiasm will inspire others to move forward with actions that bring rewarding achievement. Think about this-`happiness is not so much in having as sharing. We make a living by what we get, but make a life what we give.’

 For sure you would like to receive these for yourself. Each of these gifts of sharing will return to you many times if you think about how to touch other’s lives spread happiness.

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle and the life of the candle will not be shortened. So, happiness never decreased by being shared.

If you do not like the way the world is, you can change it

 Think what you can do

Little... little drops of water and small …little grains of sand make a mighty big sea. And the pleasant land. Like the little minutes, humble though they may be, make the mighty ages of eternity.

If you do not like the way the world is, you can change it. You have an obligation to change it. You just do it one step at a time. No matter how small your contribution is, that always makes a difference to someone. Do all the good you can by all the means you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can and long as you can.

Remember `I am only one, but still I am one. I can’t do everything, but still I can do something. I will not refuse to do something I can do.’

Efforts

That was a very cold and chilly December dark night. Then years old Ganesh was sitting with his parents in the living bed room and watching news in the TV channel. The room heater was on and they were enjoying the warmth.

Suddenly on seeing something on TV news Ganesh up striate feeling disturbed. That was about a group of homeless people sleeping out side in the cold, with nowhere to go for warmth and comfort. Their plight was miserable. Feeling sorry Ganesh asked his parents, `Why does not anybody do anything about it? It is so cold and these poor people are shivering. `His father said, `my dear Son, there are people who help in their own ways. But that is not enough. There are so many poor and needy all over.’

Ganesh could not sleep the whole night. All he wanted was to help them somehow. Next morning he got up red-eyed and disturbed it again with his father and mother. He said `I truly feel bad for them and want to do something, but what? Besides, I am not big.’

His mother replied, `Ganesh, your concern is appreciable. You need to help but feel that you are to small. But you know son, every bit of help counts. You can make your contributions by talking about their plight to you teachers friends. You can even think of ways in which you all can get together to help them. The beginning of all things is small. At least make efforts.’

Now, Ganesh was determined and in school he spoke to his friends. It worked and together they decided to start a club. The goal was to raise money to help the homeless. They spent all the free time at recess painting rocks, diyas, and wooden boards. They painted birds, animals, flowers, and beautiful sceneries, even names of sports team or whatever they felt like. They, then sold it to teachers and other father and mother who would use them as paperweight, design cloth bags, decorative items etc. initially a group of 6, and the club membership rose to 30. Slowly, a substantive sum of money was collected. Since Diwali festival was round the corner, their colorful diyas sold like hot cakes.

Now they were ready to give the money to the homeless. Ganesh’s mother offered to take them to a shelter for homeless to deliver the money. As they walked inside they noticed poor people and children scattered all over. They gave the money to the `woman in charge. Overwhelmed, she said, `How thoughtful of these children. Wish there were much more people like them then this world actually be a better place. God bless you! Today we have some people from the press. I would like you all to meet them.’

On hearing about the children’s efforts and contribution, the press media and electronic media took their pictures. The children’s photo and an article about them came out in the newspaper the next day. The children felt proud that they did something which gave more attention to the needs of the homeless. The school authorities too were proud and started a big program to help the homeless. Something as simple as some rocks, diyas, some paint and a few caring kids prove that you are never to young –and you do not need much –to make a difference.