Your Neighbors
The old saying goes that your neighbor shares and supports you during your difficult or times when you need someone most. It’s a common fact that the relations are different what these used to be until few decades back but the reasons are obvious, although nothing has gone wrong. People living in your colonies or societies are same but the main problem is the lack of availability of time due to an altogether different lifestyle. Most couples are working with a tight schedule and no one seems to be ready taking extra bit of tension even if it was for the sake of formality. However the truth today says that a neighbor is only a neighbor as long as you do not expect too much from him.
The old was gold
There are different opinions about social values, as most social engineers would say that socialism teaches us many finer points of life and a society consists of family, neighborhood and playgroups. We learn finer points of living a good life from all three segments, which help us becoming good human, good member of society with helping nature. According to social engineers, family comes first while neighborhood and paygroups stand at equal levels which help us learning the process of art of living. However there is no denying the fact that if we have a good neighborhood half of the tensions of life vanish before these begun taking an ugly shape.
Although the changing times have brought number of changes in present day life of our society, you can see it in the behavior of people which has become more formal than compared to what it used to be. People would sit together to discuss but no one has time for social gatherings any more lie before and we have no one to blame for that. Everyone wants to live his own life taking his own priorities in consideration and some times even if you are willing to help your neighbors, probably they are not willing to accept it fearing you may ask for the same in case you are in trouble if ever. Chances are, our relations which have become more formal with neighbors will remain as formal unless the younger generation has other ideas and this statement stands truer for people living in metros particularly in multistoried buildings, colonies and societies with exceptions at old localities where walls of the houses are common and sounds reach to each other easily.
Let me give you an example of bad neighbor
It was probably an evening of summer in 2008 while I was standing in my front yard from where I could see a child of about eight standing in his second floor balcony in the building just opposite across the road. The boy had an apple in his hand and when he tried the first bite he somehow dropped it from his hands that fell down into front yard of family staying on ground floor. A few minutes later a girl about ten years old called the boy down and her mother said some thing angrily, I did not hear the words clearly but saw the boy picked the crushed apple and took it back to his home. Later his mother told my wife that the lady on ground floor behaved too rude with the boy and asked him not to eat anything in his balcony.
I think this ugly incident could well be avoided with little bit of commonsense and understanding even if these two families did not have cordial relations with each other. And this incident is not an exceptional one, we generally see people making mountains of molehills out of very small and avoidable matters. They find small excuses to take out their frustrations gathered over the days and weeks of over-worked situations at their workplaces. What I feel that quarreling with neighbors is not right kind of strategy but if you feel that your neighbor is not interested in having relations with you, it’s better to sideline him but quarreling has no solution of any problems. You should read behavior of your neighbors carefully before making efforts to increase terms as most of the times these turn sore even for smallest of matters. Therefore it’s better to stay neutral and keeping your terms up to hi-hello levels.
It’s not that you have to meet with rude ones only but chances are you may find some very good neighbors even if the chances are too slim. However, you are as responsible to keep relations normal with your neighbors as expecting too much is the root cause of bad relations so you should keep your expectations to bare minimum. Treat children and parents of your neighbors with love and respect that is one important aspect of respectful relations with your neighbors, as no one wants their family members treated badly. Here are few tips, which should keep your relations with your neighbors wonderfully well-
1- Let your neighbor a feeling of assurance that you stand with them in their moments of joy and sorrow.
2- Never pose as if you are superior to your neighbor (even if you are)
3- Never mistreat your neighbor’s children but invite them to come to your home to present small gifts
4- Never talk ill about other neighbors of the society or colony that will lower your image
5- If any of your neighbors wants to involve you in ill talk about your other neighbors, tell them clearly that you do not want to indulge in such matters
6- You can plan outing with your neighbors to know each other better
7- Celebrate festivals and other functions together and never forget to initiate process of gifts associated with such occasions
8- Never interfere with personal affairs of your neighbors that will only create misunderstanding
9- You should be very careful that you are not going closer than comfort level of your neighbors; you must maintain a decent privacy level
10- Finally, be prepared to help your neighbors out of their problems.
Conclusion of my topic
You can have good or bad experiences about your neighbors but do not think for a moment that you are the only one who faces such difficult situations. It has become a common problem today although it existed in old times also, maybe to a lesser extent. People have not changed but their lifestyle has made them too busy to find time to mix up with neighbors. If husband and wife both are working, they are too tired or busy to spare time with neighbors and smallest pf provocation may find them in bad mood. They do not see any one beyond their own family and that makes them lesser popular. The fact is, you need time to develop relations and time seems to be eluding us all. To be very frank, this is true for every other relation but we can easily blame neighbors for such things compared to our closer relations.
Greed is defined by Wikipedia as the inordinate desire to possess wealth,goods or objects of abstract value with the intention to keep it for one's self, far beyond the dictates of basic survival and comfort. It is applied to a markedly high desire for and pursuit of wealth, status and power.
Human beings are inherently both selfish and greedy. However with imparting of good moral values by the family and school teachers the individual is able to emerge from the cocoon of greed and lead a tempered life. His/her outlook broadens and the individual becomes strong enough to lead a satisfactory life in whatever earnings he/she is able to honestly generate. The moral courage of such individuals is of a very high order. Fortunately vast majority of humans belong to this group and thus there is order in society.
Greed is not restricted to only desire for more money only. It can manifest itself into many forms. Someone may covet a superior position held by a colleague. Someone may be greedy for more power. Yet someone may be greedy for an object he fancies to possess. Non fulfillment of greed leads to jealousy in most cases. It can lead to persons committing even loot and murder in extreme cases.
The USA is a fine example of greed based marketing. Greed is encouraged so that people buy and consume or hoard more. This generates huge revenues and profits for producers and marketing organizations. The high purchasing power of the US citizens is directed towards high consumptions based on their greed to eat more, buy more and enjoy more. In many financial and marketing organizations high targets are set and high fiscal and other rewards are declared for those who achieve it. Thus the greed to win these rewards is used as a motivating force. In fact the sub prime crisis in 2008 in USA was a result of corporate greed where top managers of the President levels also liberally gave loans to all and sundry without guarantees so that targets could be surpassed and they could earn hefty bonuses. USA is still struggling to come out of the resultant economic crisis. Greed is great in USA.
Greed is a universal phenomenon and is present in all cultures. Religious texts of all religions teach their followers to overcome it to lead a good and peaceful life. Yet people are ready to cheat, kill and do anything to satisfy their greed. A time comes in the life of a greedy person when he has to somehow fulfil his greed otherwse the greed will consume him.
In the Roman empire greed was associated with frog and its colour was yellow.
Greed leads to conflicts, debates, fights, war, dacoities, thefts, commitment of sins as per religious views, immoral acts, adoption of unethical means,carrying out illegal activities and so on. Greedy executives and business persons do not have time for their families. Rich persons are all the time busy acquiring land, gold and silver, materials etc that they are creators of social conflicts. For only by denying dues to someone can a greedy person acquire more than his wants.The stock market is a perfect example of greed in action. Greed makes one buy and fear of loss makes one sell. Only when someone loses can someone gain.
Nations are also known to be greedy. Pakistan is greedy for Kashmir. It has allowed a whole terror apparatus to grow to fulfil its desire to acquire Kashmir by any means. China is greedy to possess as many energy sources worldwide and is ready to use any means to acquire them. USA is greedy to retain its number one position in the world and resorts to any means to maintain it. India is not greedy but certain class of Indians are mighty greedy like politicians, industrialists, sports persons, film stars etc. Mercifully not all of them are greedy.
Mahatma Gandhi said many decades ago that the earth provides enough to satisfy every man's need, but not every man's greed. A very apt statement of a universal truth but flouted in the real world with impunity.The Bhagvad Geeta says hell has three gates: lust, anger and greed. Another equally effective quote is to greed, all nature is insufficient. Warren Buffet has said that we simply attempt to be fearful when others are greedy and to be greedy only when others are fearful. C. Forbes has said it beautifully that the man who has won millions at the cost of his conscience is a failure. Seneca says it is not the man who has little, but he who desires more, that is poor.
In the light of the above is it any wonder that after earning anywhere up to Rs 5-6 crores every year from IPL, BCCI and endorsements, Sreesanth could not overcome the greed to earn another Rs 40 lakhs by bowling fixed six balls. Greed makes the mighty fall in their own eyes and in many cases in the eyes of all. So one should keep away from greed as much as possible to lead a peaceful life.
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One wonders whether this concept took its birth specifically because of the modern day trend where people are only bothered about themselves and don’t give a damn about what others are doing or was it given due importance because we have progressed into a higher intellectual level altogether and need to look further than mere mental capabilities ! Either way Emotional Intelligence Quotient is gaining a lot of popularity and importance now where higher studies and career options are concerned !Recent studies indicate that emotional intelligence influences behavior in a wide range of domains including school, community, family environment and the workplace. Given the fact that EQ has the potential to increase our understanding of how individuals behave and adapt to their social environment, it has now become an important topic for study.
What Exactly is Emotional Intelligence Quotient ?
EQ or Emotional intelligence Quotient is one’s ability to better attune oneself with inner feelings. Many people do not have emotional intelligence because they have a difficulty expressing what they feel or understanding their own feelings in the first place. This again does not reflect badly on their capacity nor does it imply that they are lacking in any way because it may be due to many factors like upbringing or a mental block, both of which can be easily overcome with some personal and clinical effort !What is important is to identify and rectify it at early stages.
According to the studies conducted by these eminent psycho analysts , the conventional intelligence Quotient which is popularly known as IQ, is far too narrow and deals only with one aspect of an individual’s personality or mental make up. But, there are wider areas within our self that needs to be tapped to make sure that we bring out our best to ensure success in what we do ! Success requires not just intelligent mind or Intelligence Quotient , which has been the yardstick for measuring intelligence, however ignoring many essential behavioral and character patterns in an individual.
EQ or Emotional Intelligence Quotient as I earlier discussed is relatively recent behavioral pattern. The concept came into prominence with Daniel Goleman's 1995 Book called 'Emotional Intelligence'. It is during the 1970’s and later years that eminent psychologists like Howard Gardner, John Jack Mayer and a few others wrote extensively about the importance of emotions and its role in shaping our personality and intelligence ! They conducted several studies all of which showed that a fine tuned EQ brings out more efficiency and performance from an individual.
How Does It Help?
The question is how Does it Help individuals more than IQ ?
Emotional Intelligence Quotient is fast becoming an important consideration in all aspects of an organization. Earlier , the stress was only on the mental ability of a person ( IQ) whereas now all other aspects are given equal importance . Thereby EQ is finding a place and importance in fields like Human resources planning, job profiling, recruitment, interviewing and selection, management development, customer relations , customer service, etc. It is also heartening to know that EQ can be developed and nurtured so that a person who was seen as lacking in some areas now has the scope to develop them unlike in IQ which is largely hereditary and can only be developed and enhanced to a certain extent during childhood .
In the past far too much emphasis was being given on certain aspects of intelligence such as logical reasoning , understanding analogies, verbal skills etc which had to do with ones mental faculty. However, Researchers were puzzled by certain cases where , even when they had everything going for them they were unable to give out their best . This led to the conclusion - while possession of a certain level of IQ could help achieve a significant degree of academic performance and professional and personal success, there was something missing in the equation.
Start Early
It was also noted that many people who were super brilliant with fabulous IQ scores were doing poorly in life, unable to handle relationships and generally not very happy when it came to family life . There are scores of such examples in the history of mankind. According to researchers they were wasting their potential by thinking, behaving and communicating in a way that hindered their chances to succeed simply because they were thinking with their head and trying to find theoretical solutions whereas the requirement was something far more simpler and basic. The missing link here was the EQ which had not been tapped or developed in these highly skilled individuals , who with all their brilliance were not successful in other spheres of life .
These researches have also made educationists aware of the importance of developing EQ in the early stages as the child enters school and begins interacting and socialising. Teachers and parents now realise that it is becoming increasingly important to develop a child’s EQ , at the school level itself , as it is now becoming increasingly relevant while selecting candidates for specialised courses and hiring work force . Most leading companies are looking for more than mental capabilities and brilliance in academics while hiring people and they are increasingly looking at the emotional empathy that a person has developed ,while conducting a job interview and selecting candidates...
Our Actions and Our Emotions
It is a known fact that all our actions are systematically controlled by our emotions . Human beings cannot do any action without giving it at least some thought and this is what forms the basis for EQ, since EQ is all about understanding yourself, your goals, your responses and your behavioral patterns. I feel that it is in fact a process of self analysis, where you are constantly looking into yourself to see how you are faring with regard to your relationships . It is also our capacity to understand other people who we deal with and their feelings.
We see many brilliant scientists made fun of by others at their lack of understanding where every day things are concerned. Although earlier this was considered to be the done thing for the highly intelligent people to do, now it is thought to be their poor communicative skills that is at the root of this type of behavior . So, it is all the more important to develop an all rounded personality instead of making our future citizens just intelligent , goal oriented and motivated to achieve their best !
How to Develop EQ or Emotional Intelligence ?
Since EQ is still a relatively new concept a lot more research needs to be done probing human mind and emotions and how best to utilise them ! As of now psycho analysts and researchers have put together a few concepts that help in developing the EQ. I will briefly deal with them one by one..
Knowing our Emotions - First and foremost as individuals we need to have a grip on our emotions which is not always possible.This is needs to be cultivated right from childhood. Children throwing tantrums should be made to realise that such behavior does not help them. Losing temper and flying off the handle each time things do not go their way does not help a person , instead trying to analyse the situation and see where things went wrong and taking proper steps may give positive results . Once we know our weak points and strengths we can always work on them , which will help us in the long run to become better individuals.
Managing our own emotions - Once you learn your weak points and strong points you also need to learn how best to use it your advantage . This does not mean that you start manipulating your emotions or other people's emotions - rather trying to use it in a positive manner so that we are able to better our relationships and manage our emotions better with people within our family, at our work place and those we deal with on a daily basis. A successful career combined with the ability to manage your emotions and relationships better, definitely makes you a happier person.
Motivating ourselves – Motivation is an important and integral part of remaining positive in life. If we have to do our best we need to set goals and motivate ourselves and achieve he targets that we set for ourselves . This is a continuous ongoing process in life and when we understand this very essential concept in life we remain positive and thereby become better people to deal with. Motivation need not always be something that is connected with money and popularity alone, it could be something very basic like losing weight, reading some good books or saving for a holiday. Every little thing has a place in life !
Having the ability to Recognise and understand other people's emotions – This ability is what makes a person stand out from the rest. It takes a lot more than just interaction to study and get to know people. We need to put ourselves in their place before reacting to any situation, only then can we truly recognise and empathise with others feelings and emotions.
Managing other people’s emotions – This happens at times when we face a situation within the family or at workplace when we are required to carefully deal with difficult people. Unless you are diplomatic and also very understanding and sensitive about issues concerning others it is not easy to manage other peoples emotions especially when it is negative. In work places, this is a necessary requirement, especially when you aspire to reach the top position and have to manage people working under you.
Conclusions
We can conclude that it is very important to teach youngsters to be responsible about their actions and also develop a healthy respect for others actions instead of being one sided, critical or judgmental. A well developed Emotional Intelligent Quotient also focuses on positive aspects and how to turn one's emotional intelligence to one's advantage . It also focuses on building constructive thinking pattern , which facilitates the person to reach ones goal. This includes setting realistic goals, motivating oneself and also having effective leadership qualities !
To be successful in life it is important to have awareness, sensitivity to other people's feelings and one's surroundings , effective control and management of one's own emotions and those of other people as well. All of these qualities help us during crisis and adverse situations in life. At an individual level EQ relates to academic achievement, work performance, one's ability to communicate effectively, solve everyday problems, build meaningful interpersonal relationships, and the ability to make the right decisions. This may sound like a difficult task but once you understand the concept it makes sense and you will also realise that it is the right way of doing things.
First and foremost while attaining emotional intelligence you are also becoming emotionally literate. You are not only learning and know what you’re feeling and what’s causing it rather than blaming other people or certain situations for all your misfortunes. It is ultimately taking responsibility for your actions which has to be taught right from childhood !
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Emotional Intelligence
A young author and novelist Jess C Scott says - “When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves.”
Generally, most people are emotional but a professional never lets his emotions take over him on his working mood. He knows how to be emotionally intelligent to be successful. You might have seen people around you who despite being intelligent and hard working never succeed to the extent where they belong to just because they are not aware that they are not utilizing their emotional intelligence, necessary to reach to their full potential. We are living in the age of emotional quotient that has left spiritual and intelligence quotient behind.
You must learn to control your feelings
Being emotionally intelligent does not force you to be emotionally blank or have no feelings but despite being emotional and having soft feelings you should learn to overreact while dealing with complex situations. Incidentally most people lack this art and suffer in different ways for lack of this quality. It is an art to keep your feelings under control however bad a situation or you going through worst of situations. And to be frank this particular problem is not gender related but the only difference is that women generally begin to weep with tears coming out easily at a drop of a hat and men becoming angry on smallest of incidents and going out of control.
The fact is that men and women who cannot control their emotions harm themselves professionally and on personal fronts. Need of the day is a controlled behavior without showing your weaknesses in front of others who would only take undue advantage of your abnormal emotional attitude only. I know this is not easy to change yourself overnight but you should at least show yourself doing it even if you cannot change all of a sudden.
Never decide in bad mood
Try to keep your decisions pending if you are feeling low, angry, jealous or sad because in such conditions you shall be under a different mental status where you find decision making not just or could be biased which you might regret later. As a professional you must know well that decisions taken under such circumstances lead you nowhere. Your success rate depends on your decisions so be careful how you treat such situations.
Try to improve on your EQ
Emotional quotient is not a matter of improvement which you can do overnight, it takes lot of efforts to improve. In fact, it is way of your upbringing that is mainly responsible for your behavior and how you treat others and in turn expect others to behave with you in tensed situation. And when something unexpected happens that probably is your best time to test yourself for your emotional quotient or control your emotions in a way that serves best in your favor. Best opportunity to improve your EQ comes while you are in adverse situations.
It is advised by most behavior councilors and management gurus to evaluate yourself for your weaker points while you are in bad moods and try to improve on your emotions, which let you down. The best option to avoid ugly scene is to avoid taking a decision while in fowl mood because that would not lead you to a happy situation. I am sure you will find yourself in a better situation to take a right decision once you cool down and think in a better way.
Most People I notice , go through life in a state of stagnation. For some reason they become non performers even when they have the capacity to better themselves in life. They go through life in a trance doing the same things each day without actually giving it a thought. Even if and when an opportunity presents itself they fail to grab it so that they could change the direction and course of their life towards something more positive.
One wonders why this happens ? could it be because of mental conditioning or laziness or something else that is far more serious ?
Some typical excuses or reasons for non performance
1, Economically unstable - This seems to be a very common reason for non performance, that their job is no good nor paying so they have no other alternative but to carry on doing what is already available since they have no other resources available to them.
2, Responsibility of children and parents - Family commitments and children are a big excuse for most non performers. It is either having ailing parents or small children, that seems to stop them from achieving better things in life.
3,Time constraint - Another one of those ready excuses, when time becomes the villain, not helping the person do what he or she wants and work towards their goal. Even if a person has a none to five job he or she still finds no time for anything else.
4, Non co-operation from spouse - This is another reason which stops people from performing to the best of their ability. Many married people cite this reason for non performance.
Overcoming Negative feelings
All these above reasons coupled with a negative outlook towards life makes a person depressed and this commonly leads to failure. When such a state of affair continues it leads to a negative outlook towards life. Such negative feelings can ruin ones happiness at all levels.
So, it is very essential for such non performing people to change their attitude towards life . Once they become determined it is not difficult to motivate ourselves, set some realistic goals and go forward to make the necessary preparations to achieve these goals. The first step towards achievement and success is overcoming negative feelings and setting some short term and long term goals.
When people dispassionately analyse all their excuses and reasons for not being able to reach their goals, they would be able to find ways to overcome them one by one as I have listed down below.
1, Economic- Give me a single middle income group average person who is able to say that he or she is economically secure at any stage of life. It is not possible because at every stage of life we have commitments and responsibilities which require funding. It is precisely because of this reason that an individual wants to better his or her status in life . So in effect your economic status should be motivating you rather than deter you to perform better in life.Once this fact becomes clear it is not difficult to motivate oneself to set goals and achieve..
2, Responsibility of Parents and children - This is another thing that is common to all. We all have to shoulder responsibility , which is an essential part of life. Parents, ailing or otherwise are an asset and with some planning, they should be able to help you reach your goals.Similarly small children don't remain small forever, they grow up and you are bound to get more free time, so all that needs to be doe is postpone but do not give up on your plans. Instead keep making plans and goals and ways to achieve it and when the time comes to execute it, you will find yourself better prepared.
3, Time Constraint - This is the lamest excuse there is ! All of us have the same number of hours and minutes given to us in a day and when we distribute it depending on the essentials we see that there are quite a few hours left that can be utilised for either planning or executing your goals.If you have not already done so, it is a good idea to take a second look at your day's activities and how best to streamline it and make time for other activities.
4, Non Co operation from Spouse - There are many households where the wife is not aware of husbands job,the nature of his work and his salary. One can only put this down to poor communication. When that is the case it is but natural that you cannot expect any ind of co operation from your spouse since he or she doesn't have any idea what you are up to. This can easily be changed through better communication and understanding, and once that is done, things are bound to change and you can expect better co operation from your spouse.
A few Essential Changes that help you reach your goal(s)
Change of personality - Chances are that if you are perpetually sad and depressed , you tend to attract only such people, who in turn make you more depressed – thus begins a vicious circle! So make sure that you surround yourself with positive people who are able to communicate in an intelligent manner rather than add on to your woes.
On the other hand when you are motivated , confident and have a positive outlook towards life, chances are that you attract people with similar bent of mind and this again benefits you.
Never have a low opinion of yourself - Never show or mentally accept that you are a failure. This can be very stressful to you and your family . Most people who have a low opinion, never give themselves a chance to see what they are capable of. As a parent too you are setting a bad example to your children by not being a good role model for your children, one they can look up to and emulate.
Be sure of your goals - According to statistics , 96% of the people are not sure of their goals. When that is the case how does one go about motivating and working towards achieving goals? It is essential for a person to have concrete goals in life and work towards them, this is what keeps us motivated in life. One should dream and set goals with a deadline to motivate oneself. Then start targeting and fine tuning one’s dreams and then putting it into practice.
Evaluate yourself - This is one exercise that always helps. One has to be dispassionate and honest without being sympathetic or partial to oneself. This way, you come to know your weaknesses and your strength. No one is perfect in life and once you realise that there are certain areas where you can do well, all that need to be done is to to put yourself to test, so that you know your capacity and ability in that particular field and as you go along , you are bound to do better .
Try and break the monotony of your existence - Monotony can sometimes kill any ambition and motivation .Try to bring in some pleasant changes into your everyday life. We can think of many ways to make our life more interesting if we put our mind to it. Being perceptive and disciplined can help you in bringing some positive changes that keep you motivated. We need to remember that it is the mind that controls everything and we have to send the right signals to it.
Listing down your goals – Personally I have always felt that making a list helps. Once we list down all that needs to be done both short term and long term, all that remains is make plans on how to achieve these goals. The very fact that you have listed down your goals shows that you have taken the right first step and will start working on these plans . There is also the hope that better things would come our way with change however small the achievement may be, better things and bigger achievements and successes are bound to follow.
Put Your Dreams into action - Dreams can become realities only when we take action. It is imperative that we spend some quality time every day trying to put our dreams into action by planning various activities tht help us achieve our goals. But it is also important to remember that one should never compromise on some basic values while trying to achieve goals and fulfill our dreams. – No matter what, never go into unethical practices, it never pays nor does it make you happy !
Family comes first – All our activities are channelised to bring comfort and happiness to our families, so never compromise on happiness within your family . By being communicative and keeping them informed all the time about what your plans are you are bound to get support and acceptance. It also makes them realise that certain actions are necessary for the future happiness of the entire family thereby making them responsible.
Importance of Financial Freedom - Whether you are working or not , male or female , it is absolutely essential that every person has financial freedom, and he or she works towards it. How you do it is left to you since you are the best judge of it. There are enough opportunities to earn and if one has the imagination, sky is the limit, so go for it without any hesitation , taking all the above points into consideration.
Care for your and your family’s health - Eat healthy and stay healthy, there is nothing to beat a healthy body and healthy mind since nothing in life can be enjoyed if you are suffering from poor health and lack of proper nutrition. So take good care of your family’s health and even better care of yourself since you have a lot to achieve in life.
Self discipline and stress - Many people talk about self discipline as a helpful tool to achievements, which may be true to a certain extent. But on the other hand, when we talk about discipline, we see that it has its own limitations since discipline actually limits your imagination and self expression which is very essential while you work towards your goals.
Stress on the other hand has always been perceived as a negative feature but I personally feel that stress and pressure if used properly can actually be a good thing since it spurs you on to perform.
Enjoy what you are doing – To me this is a very important factor in goal achievement. One can remain motivated only when there is interest and a certain amount of enjoyment in what one is doing. Like for example, if a person wants to write articles to earn money but hates the idea of doing it and does it out of compulsion, his or her feelings are bound to show and come out in the articles written as well. So never do things out of compulsion but only do things that you like. Once you remain focused on what you are doing and see positive results you also enjoy what you are doing.
Conclusions
Life can be trying and it is not easy for us to remain motivated all the time. At times we tend to give up out of sheer frustration which is but natural, more so when we are faced with adverse situations . But we need to develop the quality to bounce back and get back to where we left and go on..
Most eminent Psychologists are of the opinion that keeping oneself motivated all the time by setting certain goals and working towards them is the best way to remain positive in life. When a person is positive he or she automatically is motivated and this becomes a continuous process , no matter how young or old you are . Also , finding the enjoyable part of any activity and focusing on that helps.
Instead of doing what A B or C does, concentrate on what you like doing and stick with it, that is all that is required to stay motivated and work towards your goal(s)
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