Anger Management - I have some questions in my mind, which often leave me guessing. I wanted to go crazy some times and felt too bad but I could never do any thing that I wanted to do. Does it happen to every one or am I the odd one thinking in that way? I am not that good at anger management like others are. I wonder how they manage it. I am as bad at this as I give away myself so very easily.

I would chant one of the most favorite prayers of mine whenever I was angry with any one in particular a friend or any one for that sake. That prayer was peaceful, close to my heart, (A prayer Mahatma Gandhi also loved reciting) and I could vanish all of my anger when I recited those lines and those are my favorite lines until now. Okay so that was my method, not so wise one I thought some times but it worked for me! I would never leave my ways you know, I cannot be violent even if I wanted to be some times. That is not good for any one, although some of us find outlet methods of our stresses in such methods.

I have had many moments when I could react differently and could have gone mad but always avoided that situation. I am a sales professional that helped my cause because I got all kind of people to deal with in my long carrier. I would always say ‘O god forgive them as they are ignorant and they do not know they just survived a few big hits on their noses’ that helped me a lot. That gave me the satisfaction that I did not go physical ways that brings nothing in the end. I still feel my professional training helped me a lot.

Anger is healthy and fine as such but it is healthy and fine as long as it is controlled and finds a way to release it suppression of anger may blast your mind. When it turns out to be destructive, it overtakes us, the situation looks getting out of hands. However that is the beauty of the game, however nicely you can tackle it. It is just an emotional state ranging from mild shouts to intense rage and fury. Okay now how to control it: There are ways to do that, try some of these.

As for the medicine to control your anger, I am not sure if any thing works. I know some of the methods, which work fine, i.e. taking something to eat, to offer your stomach something. Simple techniques as deep breathing and relaxing imagery yes even that could also help you out with this.

Breathing deeply from your diaphragm, not from your chest, you know that does not just relax you out but gives you instant peace too. In addition, while breathing deeply, utter words such as Relax or Take it easy! Imagine a peaceful environment such as scenery around you when you do a breathing exercise that should do the trick immediately. You could also go for yoga. That is one of the ways to control your anger, a time tested way.

You can also do these:
Have a walk. Look at the sky, for it is the most peaceful imagery you can visually see. Try watching cartoons or funny shows. Alternatively, you could just jot down your thought into a paper and crush it out, imagining you are slapping the person you wanted to slap. Think of your life, and avoid this situation blaming them to yourself! Can’ help mentioning here that I have a few real punching object in my mind, which get the most beating imaginary, virtually. Oh, that is such a relief. They never know that they got a good beating/thrashing and I get my depression released - what a relief!

This is no good to control your anger SURPRISED? Put it out some way or other, this is like safety valve for your system, your anger should come out of your mind. That is not good for our blood pressure and makes our hearts in danger. This is not necessary to show it on the person concerned but you have ways to do it, like punch a boxing bag to release tour anger from your system that will keep your heart and brain healthy. I never show it in front of others in any case, whatever the reason. That is not healthy. I have my own ways to release the tension.

You know what, there is a game, or an app called the stress that allows you to beat the computer and the fly etc, good one! Try downloading it. Helps controlling anger too.
That is a one good way of keeping anger in control and I love browsing for some more ideas from wherever I get them. After all that keeps me cool and within my own self. No, do not think for a moment that I am someone from another planet who does not feel bad some times but I know how to hide my emotions and use them in some constructive ways. My way is that I would write a few articles extra and release my stresses.

The conclusion that hits my mind is that keeping cool is ultimate way of life even if they had decided to infuriate you or tried their best to retaliate you the way they wanted. That would only serve their purpose if you felt tempted. They would succeed in their designs if you did any thing as they planned. Just keep a watch on your own activities and never give them a chance which would have only one party on the receiving end-YOU.

So my friend follow me the way I tackle this minor problem by chanting the most peaceful prayer, visiting cool lovely places, taking photos of flowers and taking a bath every now and then. That helps my cause. I feel wonderfully at ease.