Why students are so disrespectful towards their teachers at present?

As a generation this younger generation is low on values and respect. I guess once again ( as in another thread) we need to blame parents and excessive aping of the west for these conditions. If parents teach their children to respect elders and their gurus it will come automatically. 

The values of respecting elders is fast disappearing. It is actually the attitude of parents that seeps down to the  children. Parents now shell out large sums of amounts as fees to school and think that the fact that they shell out so much money is an obligation to the teachers.

They say that there is no better educational institution  than home and there are no better teachers than parents. Hence if the parents live up to the expectations of this principle. children learn the life's values. Else vagabonds and rebels.

 

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

The values of respecting elders is fast disappearing. It is actually the attitude of parents that seeps down to the  children. Parents now shell out large sums of amounts as fees to school and think that the fact that they shell out so much money is an obligation to the teachers.

I agree that they shell out a packet demanding services from the school for that is fine. But disrespect of teachers should not arise from that. 

Recently my friend a teacher told me that her colleague was threatened by a student that he would take her to the press for scolding him.  Does the Media have a role to play in this sorry state of affairs?

Disrespect to elders and teachers is some thing that crops out of wrong parenting.

 

Sofs wrote:

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

The values of respecting elders is fast disappearing. It is actually the attitude of parents that seeps down to the  children. Parents now shell out large sums of amounts as fees to school and think that the fact that they shell out so much money is an obligation to the teachers.

I agree that they shell out a packet demanding services from the school for that is fine. But disrespect of teachers should not arise from that. 

Recently my friend a teacher told me that her colleague was threatened by a student that he would take her to the press for scolding him.  Does the Media have a role to play in this sorry state of affairs?

 

Kids are smart these days. The ban on corporal punishment is very well known to them. Of course in genuine cases, it is more than a necessity and I strongly condemn beating up kids.. but these days even if there's a small incident of scolding..they threaten of 'dire consequences' .The media will listen and believe false stories of violence against students even before investigations have started.Parents are definitely responsible for this kind of disrespect and behavior.. the fact that teachers want the best for all children is advocated by parents these days..Most of the time they visit schools is with some complaint or the other which in most cases is a false one.

 

Though not all, there are some incidents of teacher beating a kid, which proved to be genuine by The child Rights activists.

 

My son is in class eighth and I have come to know from him how his classmates call their teachers names. Even I have heard parents talking about the teachers disrespectfully and addressed them in a way as if they were friends. I never dream to do so. My husband and I always address the teachers as so and so Madam and so on. Naturally, my son can never dare to take his teacher's name disrespectfully.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

My son is in class eighth and I have come to know from him how his classmates call their teachers names. Even I have heard parents talking about the teachers disrespectfully and addressed them in a way as if they were friends. I never dream to do so. My husband and I always address the teachers as so and so Madam and so on. Naturally, my son can never dare to take his teacher's name disrespectfully.

A heartening info from an ideal parent.

As you sow, so you reap. Children are like a sapling. Parents are gardeners . The sapling grows as the gardener shapes. Else it grows wildly.

It happened in your child's case.

 

Shampa, I agree with you fully on that score. I personally don't like my children to even call their teachers by names. My son used to address his principal as BJ .. I had to put my foot down and say that is Mr. BJ for you. ( using initials for anonymity)  He never said that again. 

It common for children to call teachers by names and nick names as they reach adolescence. Its their statement of being grown up. Firm correction by parents puts them on the right track.

This boils down to the fact that many parents today aren't really concerned with respecting teachers or elders per say. 

No use bemoaning the loss of the traditional values which once used to be the cornerstone of an almost divine relationship. Both sides are destructively working overtime to knock the stuffing out of it.In olden and golden times teachers were financially poor but never poverty-stricken in their minds and ideals.Now I see corporal punishment and worse have been reserved for teachers - what a fall,my countrymen!!

Exactly. There is no use crying over loss of the traditional Values in Education. In a civic reception held to honor for his achievement in the field of Space research Late APJ Kalam said. This honor belongs to him" pointing out a person who was sitting in the gathering clad in a humble Dhoti and Kurta. He was none other than Dr. Kalam's Teacher. That was the honor bestowed on old traditional values existed in the education system.

 

chinmoymukherjee wrote:No use bemoaning the loss of the traditional values which once used to be the cornerstone of an almost divine relationship. Both sides are destructively working overtime to knock the stuffing out of it.In olden and golden times teachers were financially poor but never poverty-stricken in their minds and ideals.Now I see corporal punishment and worse have been reserved for teachers - what a fall,my countrymen!!

I agree, it takes both sides...This is not to degrade teachers in general since I am one too...But in my own school the sports teacher is called Hitler by the students because he behaves like one and another teacher ( I hope he is not around here ) asks boys to go to the nearest toddy shop to bring him a packet of local liquor during the break, so they call him Mugal, which in Thulu means overcast, normally this term is used for someone who is intoxicated ! Now, how can you expect students to respect such teachers unless they have some other sterling quality that overshadows these obvious traits that dont go well ..

Today's generation is much more attracted towards western culture, also parents are not taking care of their kids. In olden days people usually lived in joint families, but now people like to live separately. In joint families, grandparents used to teach the kids about the behavior and to respect elders. Now days it is not happening and kids in school even use some funny nickname for their teacher. Such as if a teacher is having fewer hairs on his head then students start calling him "takla" to make fun of him. 

@usha manohar

I agree with you that there are teachers who don't deserve to be respected but there are many students among the present generation who are misbehaving with those teachers too who are in general very good in every respect. Whenever a student is getting scolded for his fault then they are not ready to accept their fault rather start passing humiliating comments .

Students of this age think misbehaving with the teachers, Booing them consider as an act of heroism. In one way they are influenced by cheap movies. Of course Bad parenting is also a reason. You said about your kid that he never dares to misbehave with the teachers. Why  ? It is due to wise parents like you  who teach good behaviour in the premises of your home itself.

 

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

@usha manohar

I agree with you that there are teachers who don't deserve to be respected but there are many students among the present generation who are misbehaving with those teachers too who are in general very good in every respect. Whenever a student is getting scolded for his fault then they are not ready to accept their fault rather start passing humiliating comments .

True, this is a behavioral pattern I feel, because children are not taught to accept their mistakes right from childhood. I also feel that instead of scolding and using abusive language which many teachers do these days , speaking to them at their level and making them understand would be far more effective..Understanding them helps them understand us and also respond in a more positive manner !

usha manohar wrote:

 

I agree, it takes both sides...This is not to degrade teachers in general since I am one too...But in my own school the sports teacher is called Hitler by the students because he behaves like one and another teacher ( I hope he is not around here ) asks boys to go to the nearest toddy shop to bring him a packet of local liquor during the break, so they call him Mugal, which in Thulu means overcast, normally this term is used for someone who is intoxicated ! Now, how can you expect students to respect such teachers unless they have some other sterling quality that overshadows these obvious traits that dont go well ..

When teachers fails to inspire and behave in a demeaning manner they deserves what they get. However, the trend of disrespecting teachers is not to be encouraged. While there are a few who fall off  the lofty pedestal there are many who labor to educate and build a nation. One rotten apple should not become the cause of  bad reputation for all teachers.

 

It is not a question of bemoaning a dead cause.. it is because there is a glimmer of hope we discuss issues like these here. 

@ Usha

I know you are a teacher. But you may be helpless at times. Your intention to impart good education to your students may be hindered  due to the system I know you could not help seeing your school being used for Ganesh Puja . It's not fair to blame the teachers when the fault lies in the system itself. It's necessary to work both teachers and the administration.together.

rambabu wrote:

@ Usha

I know you are a teacher. But you may be helpless at times. Your intention to impart good education to your students may be hindered  due to the system I know you could not help seeing your school being used for Ganesh Puja . It's not fair to blame the teachers when the fault lies in the system itself. It's necessary to work both teachers and the administration.together.

The problem here is not just the system but everybody including the teachers who contribute to it. Teachers have certain responsibility towards their career and when they tend to misuse it and do things halfheartedly the result is that they lose credibility and respect. Students on the other hand come from homes where the parents are far too busy to see the subtle changes that are taking place in their children due to peer pressure and outside influences all of which also make them revolt when the situation is ripe. But one can forgive them because they are still young,impressionable and can be corrected ..It is the sum total of all this that we see reflecting in teacher - student relationships.