why they scold?

The good parents scold their child to make them good people in society.. I don`t think there is nothing wrong in this scolding....

@Satish kail
If you do good then also they scold for silly things that to with a wild slang then what your opinion?

@ sarala

It`s really hard to believe this type of parents still live here, I feel sorry for this child..

Nobody is fully mature. Even parents are not so mature as to effectively deal with children. But they are responsible. They try to bring up children the best way they can. Hence, children of more educated and mature parents outshine.

Parents do not itentionally hurt children. There are many tensions and provblems. Also children may not like what parents consider right. They scold either for rectifying the children or when they are in short temper for any reason.

I too believe that parents have to take this most unpleasant measure to discharge their parental duties.But the problem is case specific.No child should fail to see the overwhelming sense of well-being that drives parent to do this.But in doing so the parents too understand and appreciate the feelings of their wards.

I personally believe that there has been a change in the attitude of parents towards their children in the recent times and they do really try to understand their problems but it is also a fact that there also exists such things as hitting and beating the children which doesn't do any good in the long run and sometimes it has adverse affect on the children and they become more stubborn in their lives. Such practice should be avoided by the parents if they want their children to grow into a perfect individual...

Spare the rod, spoil the child. Sometime parents scold them to make them in right track (to guide them in right path of life).

Time has come to spare the rod and understand their minds in a more pragmatic light!

no one can understand what a parent goes through unless you become a parent yourself.there are mistakes they also make,its best to learn from the mistakes we see and give the best when our turn comes.

I'm pretty sure that when we are parents,we too would make some mistakes...no one is perfect!

@Pearl leo

When we become parents , atleast we should stop scolding unnecessarily. We should always treat our child with love and effection then only we will have good value and trust and even love in their hearts. or else if we behave as our parents behaved with us then there will be fear in their hearts and they never share anything with us.

Yes, I agree with Sarala on this point that if parents try to scare and scold the children unnecessary for trifle matters which could have been solved in a peaceful way then the children might scare their parents and never share things which usually they would have been shared...

i feel that parent should understand the childs objective first instead of scolding unnecessary however no parents will be co-operative all the times.As generation gap comes in their thinking and ideas do not meet. :dry:

Parents always feel their children are useless. so whatever they do i mean correct or wrong, they will try to pick mistakes in that and scold but they wont think ok she did better only some mistakes are there. i will guide her so that next time she will do more good with out mistakes.

Ok friends i will tell you some ideas that how to be a parent in this generation another thread as every one can know.If i tell you over here it will a response so no one read it.
I want the present people who are already became parents or becoming parents or will become in future , atleast they wont spoil their kid and torch-er them with scolding and all.

@Sarala

What you have stated can be true in the case of some parents.Their attitudes are obviously not in keeping with changing times!

I don't think parents scold when the child is not wrong, parents show the right path to the child when the child is wrong

@ Fathima

there are some parents who scold if we do correct. they always think negatively. so they scold for silly mistake. They wont try to rectify their children

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Then we have got to do something to rectify these parents!!

so what is your idea chinmoy to rectify our parents. Please suggest.

Scolding is not due to hatred, but due to love towards the children.If not acted so at the right time he/she may convict more serious crimes

@Abid

I do agree with you Abid , but love should be for certain extend if it increases beyond the limit then life will be hell.