Can parents feel jealousy towards kids? Is it possible?

In the normal course such a thing does not happen but people are different and often very complicated and one can never be sure how circumstances and their own personalities react when faced with adverse situations.Often people forget their own commitments and react very strongly and later regret...this issue gets discussed on the web, so it must be quite a common phenomenon..

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090313132038AAlR8dF

A small amount of jealousy is often there if the child becomes much more successful than the parents. But to the extent of killing that child is not normal. Usha, in the link you have given below, there is a mention of Munchausen by Proxy syndrome, and thsi tendency of pathological jealousy is psychological disorder much like the syndrome.

A small amount of jealousy is often there if the child becomes much more successful than the parents. But to the extent of killing that child is not normal. Usha, in the link you have given below, there is a mention of Munchausen by Proxy syndrome, and thsi tendency of pathological jealousy is psychological disorder much like the syndrome.

Yes thats true kalyani , and only someone with a disorder could go to the extent of killing ones own child .. I was speaking more about the jealousy factor than killing which is totally abnormal ..
In fact I wanted to provide another link instead of that one , which I will do so now...

http://goldendaysofmae.wordpress.com/2008/06/22/can-parents-be-jealous-of-their-children/

and

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/17283621/ns/today-relationships/t/help-my-mother-jealous-me/

Sounds crazy yet can be true in some cases. In some cases it can be attributed to the parents not having lived their lives enjoyably before they were married. Or as Kalyani said when the child is much more talented. One can come across comparisons between the child and parent in such cases which can lead to jealousy in parents but its rare that such an extreme step is taken by a parent.

Usha, I read through the links, and I can actually relate withw hat is written with reference to a friend I once had! This looks like exactly what she was going through. But putting a name to it as jealousy or even hatred is blasphemy as far as your own mother is concerned. Hence most of those face it, simply have to suffer as long as they are able to.

Sounds crazy yet can be true in some cases. In some cases it can be attributed to the parents not having lived their lives enjoyably before they were married. Or as Kalyani said when the child is much more talented. One can come across comparisons between the child and parent in such cases which can lead to jealousy in parents but its rare that such an extreme step is taken by a parent.

True Asha! We find it actually hard to believe something like this! But I remember reading a few years ago about the case Monisha Koirala is supposed to have put up against her own parents, I am not really sure it was Koirala, accusing them of exploiting her for money. In any case, this is not new to Hollywood celebrities, Britney Spears and many others have had similar ugly issues with parents! What drives such parents to do that? Jealousy indeed might be the answer.

Let me tell you one Perunthachan story. Let me tell you, Perunthachan is not a folk tale. He is a real person, whom artists worship before starting their job :)
Once Perunthachan made a toy and placed it in a bridge at one side. If someone try to cross the river through the opposite side of the bridge, his toy will take water and with the same pace the person moves, this toy also walks. Then, both with intersect at the middle of the bridge and toy spits water on the traveller's face. Everyone appreciated his work.
His son start thinking, what can I do :whistle:
Next day, he made another toy and placed it at opposite end. This toy also moves in the same pace along with them. If the first toy spits water, the second toy will slap him :cheer:
Everyone appreciated Kannan more than his father. That slaps on his toy's face, Perunthachan could feel on his face........

Gradually, his son began to gain popularity in architecture and his father smelt the threat which at last resulted in that tragedy.
Father was sitting on the roof and his son working below. He didn't miss that opportunity. It may due to 1 moment of bad thought...but what occurred after that, no one could even imagine :blink:

Let me tell you one Perunthachan story. Let me tell you, Perunthachan is not a folk tale. He is a real person, whom artists worship before starting their job :)
Once Perunthachan made a toy and placed it in a bridge at one side. If someone try to cross the river through the opposite side of the bridge, his toy will take water and with the same pace the person moves, this toy also walks. Then, both with intersect at the middle of the bridge and toy spits water on the traveller's face. Everyone appreciated his work.
His son start thinking, what can I do :whistle:
Next day, he made another toy and placed it at opposite end. This toy also moves in the same pace along with them. If the first toy spits water, the second toy will slap him :cheer:
Everyone appreciated Kannan more than his father. That slaps on his toy's face, Perunthachan could feel on his face........

Gradually, his son began to gain popularity in architecture and his father smelt the threat which at last resulted in that tragedy.
Father was sitting on the roof and his son working below. He didn't miss that opportunity. It may due to 1 moment of bad thought...but what occurred after that, no one could even imagine :blink:

It is so tragic! The world was deprived of a great and creative genius.

Yes, son of a real genius. Very soon Perunthachan committed suicide repenting on his act!!
So, we lost 2 genius.

Sounds crazy yet can be true in some cases. In some cases it can be attributed to the parents not having lived their lives enjoyably before they were married. Or as Kalyani said when the child is much more talented. One can come across comparisons between the child and parent in such cases which can lead to jealousy in parents but its rare that such an extreme step is taken by a parent.

True Asha! We find it actually hard to believe something like this! But I remember reading a few years ago about the case Monisha Koirala is supposed to have put up against her own parents, I am not really sure it was Koirala, accusing them of exploiting her for money. In any case, this is not new to Hollywood celebrities, Britney Spears and many others have had similar ugly issues with parents! What drives such parents to do that? Jealousy indeed might be the answer.

I heard that even Mallika Sherawat said her parents don't want to keep her as their family because they were jealous of her but in her case it can be understood that her claims might have been false. The biggest factor as you said is mostly the success of the children that causes resentment in the minds of the parents. But I think these are still rare cases thankfully in India at least.

Sounds crazy yet can be true in some cases. In some cases it can be attributed to the parents not having lived their lives enjoyably before they were married. Or as Kalyani said when the child is much more talented. One can come across comparisons between the child and parent in such cases which can lead to jealousy in parents but its rare that such an extreme step is taken by a parent.

True Asha! We find it actually hard to believe something like this! But I remember reading a few years ago about the case Monisha Koirala is supposed to have put up against her own parents, I am not really sure it was Koirala, accusing them of exploiting her for money. In any case, this is not new to Hollywood celebrities, Britney Spears and many others have had similar ugly issues with parents! What drives such parents to do that? Jealousy indeed might be the answer.

It's Amesha Patel :)

Sounds crazy yet can be true in some cases. In some cases it can be attributed to the parents not having lived their lives enjoyably before they were married. Or as Kalyani said when the child is much more talented. One can come across comparisons between the child and parent in such cases which can lead to jealousy in parents but its rare that such an extreme step is taken by a parent.

True Asha! We find it actually hard to believe something like this! But I remember reading a few years ago about the case Monisha Koirala is supposed to have put up against her own parents, I am not really sure it was Koirala, accusing them of exploiting her for money. In any case, this is not new to Hollywood celebrities, Britney Spears and many others have had similar ugly issues with parents! What drives such parents to do that? Jealousy indeed might be the answer.

I heard that even Mallika Sherawat said her parents don't want to keep her as their family because they were jealous of her but in her case it can be understood that her claims might have been false. The biggest factor as you said is mostly the success of the children that causes resentment in the minds of the parents. But I think these are still rare cases thankfully in India at least.

Yes at least in India there are not many known cases, thankfully, because we still believe in the sanctity in the parent-child relationship.

Sounds crazy yet can be true in some cases. In some cases it can be attributed to the parents not having lived their lives enjoyably before they were married. Or as Kalyani said when the child is much more talented. One can come across comparisons between the child and parent in such cases which can lead to jealousy in parents but its rare that such an extreme step is taken by a parent.

True Asha! We find it actually hard to believe something like this! But I remember reading a few years ago about the case Monisha Koirala is supposed to have put up against her own parents, I am not really sure it was Koirala, accusing them of exploiting her for money. In any case, this is not new to Hollywood celebrities, Britney Spears and many others have had similar ugly issues with parents! What drives such parents to do that? Jealousy indeed might be the answer.

It's Amesha Patel :)

Yes, it was Ameesha Patel, now I remember! Thanks Sandhya!

Yes they feel jealousy towards kids when their kids are grown and settled with good fame and money.

Hmm, Kalyani, Usha ,Sandhya and Asha,

I guess more than a parent-child jealousy, i see that there is jealousy among spouses who works in the same field

that results in abuses and stuff!!!

hmm!

I have never heard such story. It may happen specially among those people who are mentally backward. Still I would say that I have never heard such incidents before from any where. However I have many times heard that daughter is jealous of her mother.

Yes they feel jealousy towards kids when their kids are grown and settled with good fame and money.

Children should not ignore or insult their parents even by mistake. They should always make their elders realise that he is great because of them, because of their blessings. This way jealousy can be avoided. However, I have never heard this in my life as yet.

Very often, when kids hear less from parents and take their own decisions ignoring parents' advices while doing something and become successful, parents may or may not feel jealousy. It depends!!!!

Parents can not feel jealousy towards kids for ever. I have not heard such.

Any one spouse, parent, sibling may get jealous. This happens when son or daughter is grown up and is in same job.