Your children are important for you

To be a father is a great feeling but to be a good father is not that easy. This is all about how you keep your children assured that you are a good father. Your children are important for you and you really care for them. They should know that you make lot of efforts to provide them food, home, education and other facilities. Probably you would not be doing so hard efforts if this for not your children’s welfare. They must know it but they will know it if only you will spend enough time with them. So, it is important to spend enough time with your children to keep them assured that you have time for them and not that you spend all your time with your friends and for your own enjoyment. You should let them know that your children are your preference.

Beginning of a relation 

You can have an important question at this point, you may ask about role of father in your child’s life begins to take a shape. We know about relation of mother with child commences when a child is still in his mother’s womb and begins to feel and hear from 4th month onward. Is the relation with father the same? Maybe it is not but a father can commence a beginning right from this age with feeling his child when still in his mother’s womb. He can feel his child and listen to his heart beats, that will make him more associated in future. That could be beginning of a good relation with his child. 

Qualities of a good father 

If you are willing to make your children good future citizen, you will have to listen to them carefully, remember a child never wants to approach you for nothing, unless he needs you. Maybe you find his habits childish but you will have to remember ‘He is a child’ and has limited ways of expressing himself. So, what you need is to provide him your total attention. If you begin shouting without listening him or to his problems, you are perhaps making the worst mistake. He will never be comfortable in your company and would never want to share his problems with you. But if you will listen to him with a cool head on your shoulders showing your total interest, he will share with you everything, even his serious mistakes with absolute confidence in you. 

You can control him with love

Children make mistakes sometimes they commit serious mistakes but then who does not commit mistakes in his life. Even we older people make big mistakes but we escape them because there is no one who expostulate us for them, no one registers a protest or remonstrates with us for our mistakes. But children do not get away that easily because we are there to keep an eye on their mistakes, that is good for them but we should do it in a proper way. We should not become angry instantly but should explain, make amendment, teach them properly and remember it is necessary to punish them if that is demand of the situation. 

Praise him when he does something good

You should know one important point here that you can have a better control on your children if you know to praise your children. They find it encouraging if you praise your children for their achievements. The words of praise capture the minds of children as they say, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in baskets of silver" It may be only a proverb but true to its weight in gold. A child gets motivated no ends up when he sees his parents praising him on every fit occasion, he tries to do even better next time. He wants to keep their confidence in him. Praise does world of good to self-confidence of your children, keep praising them. Praise also encourages marching them ahead and provides ‘A never say die’ spirit.  

You should respect your wife

If you love and respect your wife, it makes a big difference on your children. What a father can do to make his children best future citizen is to respect mother of his children. A loving set of parents is a big gift for children as they provide the best environment for their children. Children feel secured in a loving home. A father who loves his wife provides best atmosphere for future citizens to love all who come in their contact. Children brought up in a lovely environment never forget what they learn in their childhood.

Unnecessary pressure will not help

A good athlete knows that during a long race one should never increase speed beyond his capacity that can also result in a heart attack. It is applicable on children pressurized constantly for doing better in their studies, beyond their capacity. No wonder almost 75% school going children find them in exactly this situation and some of these even reach to stage leading to suicide. And such ugly incidents increasingly so rapidly that examination system should go up to class fifth standard to save children from unnecessary stresses. Parents should know their child’s capacity to avoid pressurizing them and know their choice 

No one can deny the fact that tension or stress is part of growing in age, a child finds tons of problems when getting bigger but it is duty of parents to see that level of tension never touches a point of no return. It should not make your child a patient of tension which can convert into hypertension. If you find your child suffering from any of the following symptoms at regular intervals, you should immediately take a precautionary measure-

* If your child often suffers from headache or stomachache 

* You find your child tired or stressed

* Your child feels depressed and never tells you a reason

* Your child does not participate in activities he used to love doing

* Your child is no more interested in school or studies

* Your child indulge in bad activities like telling lies, stealing money, refusing to obey

* The other symptoms of stress could well be, more dependency on parents even on very small issues that could be due to loss of confidence, obesity, migraine, talking too little or not at all and even diabetes

Conclusion

We parents would agree that we are responsible for achievements of our children but some of us put them under so much of unnecessary pressure that leads them to point of stresses. Probably we are looking for our own expectancy which we never achieved. That is big asking for your children, who are not that brilliant or capable to come good to your expectations. It will lead only to a big disappointment in the end so it is better to know the exact choice and capacity of your child to help make him a good citizen and let him achieve his own goals.