11 years ago
Pay no mind to those who talk behind your back, it simply means that you are two steps ahead !!!
Pay no mind to those who talk behind your back, it simply means that you are two steps ahead !!!
In many households in the south the son is made to bear the burden of not only getting his sisters married but keep on spending for occasions like deepavali by gifting expensive shares and gold to the couple and later give financial assistance when thy have a child and so on....it is never ending and this naturally causes resentment in his wife especially if she is not getting the same benefits or ihas no brothers...
I feel that it is very n fair to burden the sons in this manner ....
It's not in south only but in every part of our country. There still are sones who do it happily while some do it as an unwanted burden. I know some of the sons are not willing to do it but there is nothing wrong if they are inheriting ancestral property, they should shoulder the burden. I know some sons who have helped marrying, educating and constructing houses for other family members and that too not as responsibility but gladly and willingly.
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"I am free of all prejudice. I hate everyone equally."
- W. C. Fields :)
It happens in other parts of our country too but I do know it is more prevalent in South. It is generally not fair to burden only the sons with it but all siblings and parents need to share the responsibility. Nowadays, times are changing and even girls are given higher education and encouraged to make a career at least until they are married off. Those cases are quite high and those girls do have their savings so it is not fair to put a burden on brothers only. Also financial condition of the son, their current and future expenses, their children's education needs etc must be considered by parents.
It happens in other parts of our country too but I do know it is more prevalent in South. It is generally not fair to burden only the sons with it but all siblings and parents need to share the responsibility. Nowadays, times are changing and even girls are given higher education and encouraged to make a career at least until they are married off. Those cases are quite high and those girls do have their savings so it is not fair to put a burden on brothers only. Also financial condition of the son, their current and future expenses, their children's education needs etc must be considered by parents.
Nowadays girls have started making their financial contribution. For instance, in our society, during marriage most of the girls themselves arrange the things that they are going to take as dowry, such as their dress, gold ornaments, other household items etc.
"I am free of all prejudice. I hate everyone equally."
- W. C. Fields :)
It happens in other parts of our country too but I do know it is more prevalent in South. It is generally not fair to burden only the sons with it but all siblings and parents need to share the responsibility. Nowadays, times are changing and even girls are given higher education and encouraged to make a career at least until they are married off. Those cases are quite high and those girls do have their savings so it is not fair to put a burden on brothers only. Also financial condition of the son, their current and future expenses, their children's education needs etc must be considered by parents.
Nowadays girls have started making their financial contribution. For instance, in our society, during marriage most of the girls themselves arrange the things that they are going to take as dowry, such as their dress, gold ornaments, other household items etc.
That is the best way to go actually. Girls are also earning equally like the men so there is no need for them to burden their fathers and brothers for their marriage expenses. When I got married, me and my husband on mutual agreement shared all expenses equally! This way there is no displeasure in the family. Because I have seen, in many homes, this exactly is the reason for bad blood between sisters and brothers leading to estrangement and bitter quarrels later in life.
It happens in other parts of our country too but I do know it is more prevalent in South. It is generally not fair to burden only the sons with it but all siblings and parents need to share the responsibility. Nowadays, times are changing and even girls are given higher education and encouraged to make a career at least until they are married off. Those cases are quite high and those girls do have their savings so it is not fair to put a burden on brothers only. Also financial condition of the son, their current and future expenses, their children's education needs etc must be considered by parents.
Nowadays girls have started making their financial contribution. For instance, in our society, during marriage most of the girls themselves arrange the things that they are going to take as dowry, such as their dress, gold ornaments, other household items etc.
That is the best way to go actually. Girls are also earning equally like the men so there is no need for them to burden their fathers and brothers for their marriage expenses. When I got married, me and my husband on mutual agreement shared all expenses equally! This way there is no displeasure in the family. Because I have seen, in many homes, this exactly is the reason for bad blood between sisters and brothers leading to estrangement and bitter quarrels later in life.
You are great, if all girls and boys begin to follow you and your hubby than girl will not a problem in India.
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