Dowry, a blotch on the face of the Society.

For some persons, it's a status symbol. But not for all!
More than dowry, I feel those money wasted in marriage functions is to be avoided most......because no one is benefited with those marriage wastes and extra expenditure

For some persons, it's a status symbol. But not for all!
More than dowry, I feel those money wasted in marriage functions is to be avoided most......because no one is benefited with those marriage wastes and extra expenditure

in my state, crores of rupees that change hands in the name of 'Dowry,' eclipse the marriage expenditure

For some persons, it's a status symbol. But not for all!
More than dowry, I feel those money wasted in marriage functions is to be avoided most......because no one is benefited with those marriage wastes and extra expenditure

in my state, crores of rupees that change hands in the name of 'Dowry,' eclipse the marriage expenditure

It's common in all states.....
In Kerala, I feel in North Kerala, dowry is not a big issue comparing to South Kerala.
North kerala is muslim concentrated....I think more than 70 percent of people are muslims and they are not interested in bank interest, drinks and of course, dowry too. 2-3 marriages can happen in North Kerala with the same amount, if we compare with south.
But when we travel towards south, while girl and boy are talking, 'elders' leave them alone.....but truth is that behind curtains, dowry talks are going on, as if it's some business :evil: :evil: :evil: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:
I belong to capital city.....so, am well aware of that situation.
In middle Kerala, though people don't demand dowry, marriages always happen between people of same status :evil: :evil:
Let me tell you, most rich people of Kerala belong to middle Kerala..particularly, Thrissur/Ernakulam belt...full NRIs.
Even educated boys are expecting more money than a good wife.... :sick:

For some persons, it's a status symbol. But not for all!
More than dowry, I feel those money wasted in marriage functions is to be avoided most......because no one is benefited with those marriage wastes and extra expenditure

in my state, crores of rupees that change hands in the name of 'Dowry,' eclipse the marriage expenditure

It's common in all states.....
In Kerala, I feel in North Kerala, dowry is not a big issue comparing to South Kerala.
North kerala is muslim concentrated....I think more than 70 percent of people are muslims and they are not interested in bank interest, drinks and of course, dowry too. 2-3 marriages can happen in North Kerala with the same amount, if we compare with south.
But when we travel towards south, while girl and boy are talking, 'elders' leave them alone.....but truth is that behind curtains, dowry talks are going on, as if it's some business :evil: :evil: :evil: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:
I belong to capital city.....so, am well aware of that situation.
In middle Kerala, though people don't demand dowry, marriages always happen between people of same status :evil: :evil:
Let me tell you, most rich people of Kerala belong to middle Kerala..particularly, Thrissur/Ernakulam belt...full NRIs.
Even educated boys are expecting more money than a good wife.... :sick:

I'm from that region which gave a large number of professionals to IT giants like WIPRO, INFOSYS and TCS. Their salaries are in lakhs per month. Still they stand in the dowry bazaar awaiting for a bride who comes with a wagon load of currency to buy them.

In India, all religious and social customs are commercialized. Marriage is also a commercial affair. This is largely because of the system of arranged marriage. Arrangement by parents, relatives and others degenerates marriage to a commercial activity in which the bride and groom are like share scrips which are auctioned

For some persons, it's a status symbol. But not for all!
More than dowry, I feel those money wasted in marriage functions is to be avoided most......because no one is benefited with those marriage wastes and extra expenditure

in my state, crores of rupees that change hands in the name of 'Dowry,' eclipse the marriage expenditure

It's common in all states.....
In Kerala, I feel in North Kerala, dowry is not a big issue comparing to South Kerala.
North kerala is muslim concentrated....I think more than 70 percent of people are muslims and they are not interested in bank interest, drinks and of course, dowry too. 2-3 marriages can happen in North Kerala with the same amount, if we compare with south.
But when we travel towards south, while girl and boy are talking, 'elders' leave them alone.....but truth is that behind curtains, dowry talks are going on, as if it's some business :evil: :evil: :evil: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:
I belong to capital city.....so, am well aware of that situation.
In middle Kerala, though people don't demand dowry, marriages always happen between people of same status :evil: :evil:
Let me tell you, most rich people of Kerala belong to middle Kerala..particularly, Thrissur/Ernakulam belt...full NRIs.
Even educated boys are expecting more money than a good wife.... :sick:

Dowry is a dangerous women killer the world have ever seen. Many people commit suicide because of dowry.

In India, all religious and social customs are commercialized. Marriage is also a commercial affair. This is largely because of the system of arranged marriage. Arrangement by parents, relatives and others degenerates marriage to a commercial activity in which the bride and groom are like share scrips which are auctioned

The worst thing about dowry system is that Women plays a vital role. Dowry system has to be eradicated.

In India, all religious and social customs are commercialized. Marriage is also a commercial affair. This is largely because of the system of arranged marriage. Arrangement by parents, relatives and others degenerates marriage to a commercial activity in which the bride and groom are like share scrips which are auctioned

There are many parents who feel a dowryless marriage is something a blotch on the honor of their family

Dowry system spoiled many life and also families.It is very severe crime.Govt. should take steps against these.

For some persons, it's a status symbol. But not for all!
More than dowry, I feel those money wasted in marriage functions is to be avoided most......because no one is benefited with those marriage wastes and extra expenditure

When money is lavishly put on any marriage function, then i don't think it is waste. I think its their desire to spend on their daughter or Son's marriage.
They want to show to the society about this marriage. I think If a person is having money and can afford to spend, then he/she will do it.

Why girls' parents pay dowry and boys' parents accept this. This is because boys have greater demand and girls less. This is paradoxical.. even suppose that demand is same, girls' supply is more. Is this also paradoxical.
Then read comment by an eminent author George Bernard Shaw- a man should avoid marriage as long as he can. A woman should marry as soon as she can". This is more true in India. The boys' parents are in no hurry. So, supply is reduced. Girls' parents' are in a hurry. so supply is more. consequently, boys' parent get premium on their boys and get more dowry.

The Indian marriage market is more lucrative and interesting than share market. should there not be a futures market for brides and grooms and a 'Marriage partners exchange' established on line of share market and commodities futures market?

Dowry system is a wretched system that is a blot on our country. Thousands of women have been burnt alive and murdered in the name of dowry. It is an irony that dowry system is still continuing today in the internet age. Something should be done to stop this for good.

Dowry system is a wretched system that is a blot on our country. Thousands of women have been burnt alive and murdered in the name of dowry. It is an irony that dowry system is still continuing today in the internet age. Something should be done to stop this for good.

Actually, i get irritated whenever i hear the word 'Dowry'. I do not know the real reason behind this. I have to find out.

Even i am totally against dowry. in North India marriage is said to be incomplete without dowry. because they dont take dowry directly but in face of 'tradition'. it is a tradition to gift gold jewelry and heavy silk sarees to the relatives of boy. and there are a lot number of other similar 'traditions'. but thats totally wrong its happening everywhere but you cant do anything. if you try to interfere you will be told to "mind your own business", because it was 'their' money . this happened when i tried to speak against it once. since then i have never tried :pinch: :pinch:

Both men and women are educated. They have the capability to understand and make others understand. If they want money, they should work and earn. Tendency to get everything by doing nothing is bad.
Gifts are something which a person gives to the other person with good wishes and joy. If such gifts are given during marriage, it becomes dowry. Both men and women receive dowry during marriage. Nobody should force each other's family regarding such affairs. That's illegal.
Presently dowry given to any government job holder is also illegal. He cannot take even a Re 1 coin from his in-laws. He will be jailed. Though many people ignore. They love money more than relationships.

Friends in order to avoid jail, in-laws have different ways of imposing dowry from the bride's family. They will give the list and budget of the whole marriage expenditure. They want expensive banquit hall to be booked at a particular place. Bride's jewellery, saree and sandel must have a particular range. Luch and dinner must be cooked by the XYZ hotel chefs, etc. Bride's family should decide the honeymoon package. Groom's business is at stag. His father-in-law will finance the business, etc......etc...

Both men and women are educated. They have the capability to understand and make others understand. If they want money, they should work and earn. Tendency to get everything by doing nothing is bad.
Gifts are something which a person gives to the other person with good wishes and joy. If such gifts are given during marriage, it becomes dowry. Both men and women receive dowry during marriage. Nobody should force each other's family regarding such affairs. That's illegal.
Presently dowry given to any government job holder is also illegal. He cannot take even a Re 1 coin from his in-laws. He will be jailed. Though many people ignore. They love money more than relationships.

Is there any such law which particularly forbid government job holders from taking dowry? Actually, I am not aware of it. I thought the law is only applicable if the woman is tortured for not bringing dowry.

But yes, if dowry is banned for all then many evil social practices like child marriage, gender discrimination, female infanticides etc will automatically disappear which seems to be so much prevalent in many parts of north India. Luckily,we do not face the dowry related problems in our place.

Still giving and taking dowry is treated as a status symbol in the Indian society.
What’s your take on this?


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Of course this is still being practiced in almost all communities and I have known many parents going bankrupt after performing a daughters marriage in a luxurious manner. Very recently we had attended a wedding here in Mangalore that was very lavish and the brides parents wanted it to be so because Aishwariya Rai would be there since she was the cousin of the girl getting married...Now the parents of the bride are totally wiped out having taken huge loans ..

Let us remember that we are discussing here a very complex social phenomenon. Earlier there was a school of thought which rather linearly and naively believed that spread of education would wipe this disgrace off the face of India but it has been proved to be wrong. Dowry cases are more amongst the elite class who have enough financial and intellectual muscles to circumvent all laws of the land to perpetuate this barbaric practice.

Both men and women are educated. They have the capability to understand and make others understand. If they want money, they should work and earn. Tendency to get everything by doing nothing is bad.
Gifts are something which a person gives to the other person with good wishes and joy. If such gifts are given during marriage, it becomes dowry. Both men and women receive dowry during marriage. Nobody should force each other's family regarding such affairs. That's illegal.
Presently dowry given to any government job holder is also illegal. He cannot take even a Re 1 coin from his in-laws. He will be jailed. Though many people ignore. They love money more than relationships.

Is there any such law which particularly forbid government job holders from taking dowry? Actually, I am not aware of it. I thought the law is only applicable if the woman is tortured for not bringing dowry.

But yes, if dowry is banned for all then many evil social practices like child marriage, gender discrimination, female infanticides etc will automatically disappear which seems to be so much prevalent in many parts of north India. Luckily,we do not face the dowry related problems in our place.

Money is often given as gift, not dowry ;) :cheer: :cheer: :laugh: