Shape your child like an expert potter

We all know with our experience that every child is different   from other children and you can’t treat them all on same or equal level. Every child’s needs are different as far upbringing is concerned. What is more important to know for new parents, they have to work like an expert potter who shapes his creations with an expertise.  Parents need same expertise to help grow their child as a nice human being. 

Your child should know what is good for him

I should put it this way, your child should know what is he allowed to do and what is not expected of him. That will set his limits and for a better upbringing limits always help and be in place which are necessary like all other good things in our life.  A child should know how long he can stay out to play, how long he can spend watching television, what he can eat and what is not allowed him to eat. How long he can play video games and when he must finish his home work. Parents can set the limits according to their child’s liking, without being too rude, but limits should be there and followed properly. 

You must stay firm with your set limits

It’s always good to let your child know that subordination will not be tolerated.  Make sure once you said something you will stick to your words. You should not show any leniency after instructing him to do something. If you allow him to do something which you feel is no good for him but you want to allow him ‘just for once’, don’t do that. 

Once you allowed going against your own set rules, he will make it a habit. He would always insist to let him break the rules and it will be your own fault because you allowed him do it in the first place. There could be certain side effects if you do not stay firm on your own decisions, it can develop irritation in your child making him feel crusty or even behaving harsh with you. So, my humble suggestion is to stay firm especially on set limits.

What if your child has recalcitrant attitude? 

We generally surrender when our children protest regularly on our suggestions or they show stubborn opposition to our best advises. I will suggest not doing that even for once. Once is enough to make them try their tricks in the future as well. Now that you have shown them the right path it’s for them to follow your advice. 

The best way is to ignore their unjust demands, once he will know he has no options he will do what is right for him. He will also know that making such foolish demands will not bring any result in future also.  In case, you are not sure whether to say yes or no for a particular demand, let your child justify his demand and if you feel he is right, you can grant him that particular request.      

Conclusion

Here are few warning signs for you 

A- If you see your child getting over aggressive and angry easily, that is one of the warning signs for you to take precautionary steps in budding stage.

B- He may adapt to blackmailing tricks to get his demands fulfilled.

C- He does not agree at any point unless his demands fulfilled

D- You have to look down when reports of his ill behavior reaches to you from school and neighbors.

E- You avoid going to social meetings with him because his behavior makes you feel insulted.

F- He stops listening to each family member and does what he likes.

G- Last but not the least, you feel like giving him a good thrashing once you see no option.