A feeling of pleasantness once got a beautiful toy in hand, mind fluctuates if brother or sister touches it, feeling of anger if a friend snatch from hand, tears and sadness if it falls to ground and break – emotions of kids have numerous colours and shades. No one can easily predict when a black cloud is on the way. Within a flash of a second, a cat may change to a tiger – That’s the character of kids.

Kids don’t have all emotions that elders carry. But they lack experience and knowledge to control the existing emotions they hold. They may not learn it easily how to behave in a society. They may show it off irrespective of public path or shopping mall. Anger, shout and tears – all are just parts of it and they may not even bother to express them by throwing books or toys even in the presence of guests at home. Is it not possible to tame them through a few tricks and techniques?

In the fetal stage itself, factors like emotions of his mother and the surrounding conditions in which he live influence him a lot. His emotions born as soon as he is born! As per experts’ opinion, a new born baby is able to express his happiness, sadness, satisfaction and dissatisfaction in his own language. When he reaches one, he learns to express anger as well as fear. When he reaches two, jealousy and ‘feel of fault’ may get added up. Parents should be able to recognize the emotions of their babies and provide them enough mental support.

As hot as fire!

“Look mom, I will teach him a lesson. I will punch him and break his bones. He damaged by ‘angry bird’ pencil” – Rohit is boiling in anger when he explains it to his mother in the evening. Mother may be wondering what has actually happened to her child that he is responding in such a way to a simple mistake of his dearest friend.
Kids feel most restlessness when their minds are conquered by anger. If he sees anything unpleasant or if someone disturbs him, physically or mentally, he may express his emotions in the form of anger. At that particular moment, the production of adrenaline hormone rises up resulting in his out bursting. The best technique is to simply hear his words and never respond. Even if he threatens to kill the other person, just keep quiet and never mind it. If you give him an opportunity to show his anger in toys and pillows, it will only help to lose his control in future. Instead you can follow these techniques.

• If your kid is ‘boiling’ without uttering words, you can calmly ask him the reason.
• Try to calm him with patience. You can say that if someone breaks my pencil, I will also feel the same way, I may feel sad etc.
• You can advise him that such methods of torturing the friend are not good ways to take revenge. (You can also tell that such methods won’t give you the lost pencil back).
• You can ask him, in what sense has your friend taken your anger and outburst. (He is your dearest friend. It might have hurt him a lot).
• If he is fully out of control and breaks things inside the room, just allow him to sit in a room alone quietly for a while.
• Once he cools, ask him to say ‘sorry’.

Counting, cycling, painting and picture drawing are the common methods that can be encouraged to change him back to ‘a cat’. Such activities will get rid of the negative energy and make him cool too.

Behaviour defects should be noted

It’s common in kids at an early age that they may change their emotions so quickly. Yet it’s to be noted that certain behaviour defects are also associated with kids. If you have seen the following changes in your kids frequently, seek a doctor’s help.

• Telling lies frequently that he has fever, headache, stomachache or similar problems
• Excess anger and loss of control; shouting and sudden swing of mental status
• Excess thoughts about future, diseases and death
• Hesitation to play with friends or go to public places
• Sleeplessness
• Bed wetting soon after going to toilet
• Keeping himself away from all type of activities

Never give manure to those bad habits

“I want that big teddy bear. I won’t leave the shop unless you buy it for me”, Diya’s mind is filled with anger. When she saw that her parents are not responding to her words she began to throw the soft toys of the shop one after the other. Her mother raised her hands to give her a slap. But seeing Diya crying and sobbing out of control, she left her and bought that expensive toy for her using her credit card.

It’s not the example of a single case or two. Many parents might have gone through similar experiences when they are out for a shopping with their kid of age 5 or 6. Crying for needed and unnecessary things -such kids are common in every shopping malls, parks and public places. Seeing the kid in such a violent mood, most of the parents agree to it to avoid a scene in a public place.

But in most cases, it has been noticed that parents are to be blamed most for cultivating such bad habits in kids from an early age. At an early age, when parents fulfill their simple desires in public places in such a way, in future, kids will choose big things and expensive toys that their parents may not be able to afford easily. Kids may not be easily understood the emotions and difficulties of parents in purchasing those expensive things.

If such bad habits are cultivated from an early age, a feeling arise in kids’ mind that if I cry and shout in public places, my parents will surely buy that toy for me. So the simple solution is to avoid his outburst and cries if you feel that you have to spend your valuable money for a less needed product. They will cry for a while and stop this trick forever soon or later. You can say that you will buy the same toy more in number from another shop. In many cases, kids get attracted to the appearance of a toy that costs more too. If you buy it cheap from another shop, of course he will feel happy that he got two instead of one. Money can be spent in a wise manner as well. 

A few more tricks to tame such ‘clever’ kids

• Parents should have a common opinion. If father says ‘No’ to a particular toy, mother should never say ‘yes’ and purchase it for him.
• If you feel that your boy is crying for an unnecessary thing, make him understand that it’s useless and money is precious.
• You should have enough boldness in mind to say ‘no’ to the objects which your kids want to buy unnecessarily.
• You can tell him that if you don’t stop crying, I won’t allow you to play video game or watch television cartoon.
• Never forget to appreciate him if he leaves his anger and obeys what you tell.