Introduction

Anger is something which comes to everybody from children to old people. The only difference is the way in which the anger is expressed. If parents are asked why their child gets angry often the most common answers are that the child wants something which they cannot give, arguments with other children, feeling of being neglected or not loved enough etc.  Parents should know how to deal with the anger of their children. A child who is angry most of the time will not grow up as a healthy adult.

Anger is sometimes important

Children do not often know how to deal with their anger. So the first thing the parents should do is to tell the child to understand his/her anger, to accept it and then to examine it. Once the reason for anger has been examined the child can be persuaded to drop the anger. The parents should make it clear that they will not tolerate bad language or hitting. Instead of telling the child not to be angry tell the child that getting angry is useless and a waste of energy. Acceptance, examining and letting go are the three ways to deal with anger of any time. Here are a few ways you can deal with an angry child-

1. If your child is grown up he should be told to talk only after the anger has gone.
2. Ask your child not to speak in a loud voice if angry. The child should be asked to recognize he is angry once he starts talking loudly or shouting.
3. If the child is standing when angry ask him to sit down. This calms the mind somewhat.
4. It is seen that drinking water also lowers anger.
5. Ask your child to relax and to concentrate on his breathing when angry. This can also lower anger.
6. Don't shout back on the child when he is angry. Instead say calmly 'I know you are shouting because you are angry'.
7. If two of your children have had an argument with each other and are angry with one another ask both of them to sit down and draw a cartoon of each other. They will draw something like a joker or a monkey. Then ask them to show the picture to each other. They will start laughing.
8. Never tell your children 'I will not tolerate you angry because my parents never tolerated me angry either'.
9. Never abuse your child when he is angry and never beat them. This will escalate their anger. Your child should be able to feel comfortable with you even when he is angry.

Conclusion

The above steps will help you to deal with your child's anger effectively. In addition to the above try to be a role model for your child. Lead by example. Do not engage in any behavior that you don't want your child to follow. Do you tend to be easily agitated and pass abuses in the presence of your child? your child will copy such behavior from you. We have to be what we want our children to become. Your Children tend to pay attention to your bahavior and to copy it without you realizing it.